In life, we all hope that we can get along well with the people around us, get the appreciation and help of the nobles, have a strong backing and get the support and understanding of our family and friends. However, these are inseparable from this world.
To live a successful and happy life, you must know how to live a fulfilled life. Being able to understand the way of the world means that one can adapt to the environment, live a full life, give full play to one's abilities and establish cordial relations with others.
Only by knowing the world can we create a relaxed and happy environment and make ourselves feel at home in life and work. What does it mean to know the world? First of all, don't get along with someone too fast. Don't make shallow remarks, remember that you will lose a lot of words and know how to keep a proper distance. Don't completely expose yourself, let both sides have a certain independent space, family, friends and lovers are the same. Never try to win others' sympathy, because sympathy itself carries a trace of contempt. Shut up, keep your heart, speak in moderation, and be abusive. Many things come from our mouths. No matter how you treat your family, friends, colleagues or subordinates, you should leave room for others to speak, not too absolute, otherwise it will be embarrassing and you will have no way out. Don't take things too seriously If a person is serious, it will not only make others uncomfortable, but also lead to the end of asking for trouble.
People need to know the world in their daily life. Not only in life, but also in work. The worldly wisdom reflects the emotional intelligence of the parties.
In a complex world, disaster comes from the mouth. Language is important. In the same way, different statements will have completely different effects. For different people, you must know what to say and what not to say. Of course, on the issue of principle, we should stand firm and take a clear-cut stand.
The way of the world is a complicated problem. You must also learn to improvise in different environments and different people. You must constantly enrich and improve yourself in your daily life and strive to be a thoughtful, principled, caring and caring person. Never be vain. Eat your own food, go your own way, have your own independent personality, and have your own calmness in the noise. If you want to have a good personality and learn to correctly handle the relationship between people, how to do many things depends entirely on a person's cognitive attitude and ideological level.
The wisdom of the world can bring self-esteem and self-confidence to others, even if things don't go well, it can also give others a step down. When they stick to their principles, they can give others a chance to maneuver, and when they defend their positions, they will not hurt the dignity of others.
People are gregarious animals, and since they live in groups, it is inevitable to be secular. Only by managing your own circle can you gain a foothold in this world.
1. Don't get along too fast. Don't make shallow remarks, remember that if you talk too much, you will lose.
2. Speak with a ruler and play with a degree of abuse. A lot of things come out of the mouth.
3. Be kind to others.
4. Know how to keep a proper distance. Don't completely expose yourself, let both sides have some independent space. Family, friends and lovers are like this.
5. Pay attention to distinguish between acquaintances and friends.
6. It is useless to be kind to others without strength. Others don't care how much you pay, but how much you can get.
7. Don't talk hard and don't do soft things.
8. Never try to win others' sympathy, because sympathy itself has a trace of contempt. -Haruki Murakami
9. Pay attention to what you say and learn to deal with different types of people. You can't just look at people's skin, but also look under it. Don't look at what they look like, look at what they say, and then look at what they do, so as to infer what they want and want to do.
10. Thank you for your lowest cost. Take out more grateful red hearts and bask in the sun. Thank others more, the simplest and most practical, gratitude can make both hair happy.
1 1. Shut up and keep your heart.
12. If you encounter any contradiction, please focus on things, not people.
13. Never point to someone who can understand you.
14. Group activities, either pretending to be happy to participate or pretending to be painful to refuse.
15. Try not to deal with people with slow minds. If you have to deal with them, please be sure to keep 200% awake.
16. Never say that you have high emotional intelligence or that you can be a person. People who say such things often pay the price in the end.
17. If someone invites you to dinner for no reason, you'd better refuse. If you can't refuse, please remember to invite you later, because there is no such thing as a free lunch and no one will invite you to dinner for no reason.
18. People who don't know how to be modest often don't know how to be a man. Never mind, you won't lose too much weight when you listen to people bragging.
19. The truth is incomplete and the lies are incomplete. -Ji Xianlin
20. If you don't think so, you say "I never thought you were short" to your other half, but it shows that you really don't think he is tall enough. -Liu Yong
Letting life drift with the flow is an ability and a kind of luck. The so-called road is your innermost desire that is not driven by utility. It can take you as far as it can.
Bonnie
1 The world is bustling, all for profit and all for profit. Self-sacrifice is not the normal state of life, which is commendable but not worth promoting. Everyone is self-interested, the key is "benefiting others for self-interest" or "harming others for self-interest".
Good medicine tastes bitter and is good for illness, but advice when most unpleasant is good for action. If a person's ears can often hear some unpleasant things, then he will often think of some unpleasant things in his heart. This is a good lesson for Dunpin Lide. On the other hand, if every sentence is pleasant and everything goes well, it is equivalent to burying your life in poisoned wine.
3 restraint is needed when you are proud, and perseverance is needed when you are in adversity.
There is nothing wrong with liking material things and enjoying sensuality, but don't immerse yourself in them. Most people who covet material comforts have no firm will and lofty aspirations. On the contrary, people who can tolerate superficial food often have higher pursuits.
When you meet in a narrow road, you don't have to take the route that the brave win. Turn around and let the other person benefit others first. Get something that everyone likes and share it with everyone in a few minutes, which can eliminate disasters and avoid disasters.
If you do good deeds to help others, but always keep them in mind, then there is evil in good deeds. If you do evil things, but you are afraid that others will know and feel uneasy, then there is good in evil things.
No matter what you do, leave room, don't go too far, so ghosts and gods won't hurt me. If everything is perfect, all contributions will reach the peak, even if there is no civil strife for this reason, it will inevitably lead to foreign invasion.
When blaming others for their mistakes, don't be too harsh, consider whether they can accept it or not, and don't hurt their self-esteem. Dangjiao
When teaching others to do good deeds, don't expect too much, but consider whether the other person can do it.
You don't have to fight for credit if you are alive. In fact, as long as there is no fault, there is credit. The rescuer doesn't need to expect the other party to repay him, as long as the other party doesn't resent himself.
10 Even if ten sentences are right, no one may praise you, but if you are wrong, you will be accused immediately; Even if you do it ten times.
If you succeed nine times, no one may reward you, but once the plan fails, there will be accusations one after another. Therefore, a cultivated gentleman would rather remain silent than say anything without careful consideration; Especially in doing things, I would rather be clumsy than clever.
1 1 If the water is clear, there will be no fish, and if people observe it, there will be no disciples. Therefore, a gentleman with profound cultivation should have the tolerance of accepting vulgarity and the magnanimity of forgiving others, and must never pretend to be lofty and not associate with anyone and fall into a lonely state.
12 if god makes you unhappy, then you should strengthen your moral quality to meet it; If God makes you tired, you can relax and make up for it. If God gives you a hard time, you should improve your self-cultivation to face it.
13 What's a person's personality like? Don't jump to conclusions. You have to pass the test of huge interest temptation to know.
14 it's better to praise in person than to slander behind, and you won't get bored with the first impression after getting along for a long time.
15 great events are difficult to bear, adversity is strong, arrogance and generosity, anger, self-restraint, and a group of people stop learning.
16 Be thin before thick, sparse before dense, contact before acquaintance. This is the way to build a long-term friendship.
17 There are great differences between people, and power, status, reputation and wealth can be reflected; There is no difference between people. No one can escape from birth, disease, sickness, happiness or sadness.
18 Hanshan asked Pickup: "What should I do if the world slanders me, belittles me, deceives me, humiliates me, laughs at me, belittles me, hates me and deceives me?" Pickup replied, "Just put up with him, let him go, ignore him, avoid him, be patient with him, respect him, ignore him, and stay for a few more years, and you will see him."
19 Poverty is not a shameful thing. The shameful fact is that poverty has no ambition; Humble position is not disgusting, hateful humbleness is incompetence; Old age is not worth sighing, but it is worth sighing that old age wastes your life; Death is not worth being sad, but it is sad that I have not done a few things that are beneficial to others in my life.
A person who is willing to trust others may not be honest, but it is commendable that he is honest first. A person who often doubts others is not necessarily cunning, but unfortunately, he has become a cunning person first.
2 1 I was filled with doubts when I heard that others had done good deeds. When they hear that others have done bad things, they directly think that it is a manifestation of their inner malice.
22 people who are furious when they hear slanderers give the slanderers an opportunity; Being complacent when you hear a compliment gives you a chance to flatter.
There is no harm in others being superior to me, at least others will not be jealous of me; I may not be blessed to be better than others, and unpredictable disasters may occur.
Even if the merits of the world are established, once pride is born in the heart, it will be destroyed; I made a big mistake. If I repent from my heart, it will be the beginning of turning the corner.
You can do anything but say nothing.
If you hit a person too hard, he will be pulled over by your opposite.
Others have always supported you, maybe it's an arch fire.
You can be excellent, but you can't be better than your leader, at least it seems so.
Remember, no one is willing to please others.
Self-love and introspection are the bane of disaster.
3 1 Some leaders don't do their jobs just to let all their subordinates show their true colors unabashedly.
Remember, don't know too many leaders' secrets.
Talented and arrogant people are easily used and abandoned.
There is no such thing as a superior being inseparable from a subordinate. When the earth goes, everyone turns.
Screenwriting, directing and acting are performed every day.
It is better to give something you can't protect to others, so as to win people's hearts.
Black-box operation is an inevitable condition of corruption.
More than 38 comforts are not normal, either doubting or using them.
Enemies often appear as friends first.
Those who always talk, if always trivial, are mostly traitors.
4 1 When hiding strength, it can be quoted in the name of benevolence and righteousness.
Show everyone the aggressiveness of competitors and use public opinion to protect yourself.
The biggest enemy is not a fierce enemy, but not knowing who the enemy is. The deepest disaster is not that the enemy is invincible, but that the enemy is our friend.
If someone values you in front of your superiors and looks down on your superiors, it will probably make you and your superiors doubt each other and then profit from it.
Never think "I deserve it", that's a curse.
If your superior has "minions", it is better to satisfy your superior.
If someone asks you to evaluate something, but it's not good, why don't you say "it's a trivial matter, there's nothing to say"
"or" this is a private matter, and it is not convenient for me to participate ".
Important things should be kept secret before action and acted quickly.
Gentlemen often have two weaknesses: attaching importance to false reputation; Not flexible.
If your interests are taken away by the other party, but the other party is morally unreasonable, if it is not a huge interest, you can win the hearts of the people and avoid the huge trouble brought by recovering the interests.
5 1 If you can't disobey the wrong order of the superior, you can choose to execute it lightly or postpone the time until the form changes.
Remember, there is no lower limit to the moral standards of villains.
In order to prevent the suspicion of superiors, it is a self-protection policy to actively create a voice against yourself.
The loyal minister fell because his understanding of loyalty was different from that of his superiors.
The rapid promotion of subordinates by superiors is often to make this person bear the pressure of facing other subordinates. To put it bluntly, it is a shield. Don't be complacent.
No matter how wise a leader is, when it comes to the mistakes made by human nature, don't remonstrate easily.
Let nature take its course is to meet your destiny according to your ability, not to do nothing.
There are some things you want to say, you can say them from others.
Let the enemy be shouted and beaten by everyone, which is the highest state of attacking the enemy.
If you don't know whether a person is an enemy or a friend to you, you can tell this person your current "enemy" and then observe.
This article was written so succinctly that some friends didn't understand it very well. Let me give you an example here. During the Jiajing period of the Ming Dynasty, when Yan Song was in power, Xu Jie secretly assembled forces to bring down Yan Song, but on the surface, he catered to him in every way. One day, Yan Song talked about many opponents in the imperial court and wanted to get rid of them. Xu Jie heard about it, but it was superficial and wanted to protect it. So, he took the initiative to ask Yan Song to give his specific name, claiming to persuade him to submit to Yan Song. Yan Song told Xu Jie that Xu Jie talked about this desire privately, which made it please Yan Song. Xu Jie later married his daughter to Yan Shifan, the son of Yan Song, and puzzled Yan Song with a multi-pronged approach. In the end, he will look at it from Xu Jie's point of view, which is brilliant, but we can also summarize it from Yan Song's point of view. If he suspects Xu Jie, he can inform Xu Jie of his enemy, see how close Xu Jie is to such people, his words and deeds, so that he can spy out Xu Jie's mind, even cooperate with his plan, arrange undercover, and let one of his own people take the initiative to play his enemy, or infiltrate into Xu Jie, or wait for Xu Jie to draw in, listen to his voice, and then play it by ear. )
6 1 I don't care if others offend me, but it doesn't mean safety. Maybe people are always worried about my revenge, so they will strike first.
Sometimes in order to hit me, but it is not easy to hit, the enemy will hit my friend first, and I will save him first and then hit me. Militarily, call around for help.
The villains within the enemy are our best allies. or vice versa, Dallas to the auditorium
When you disagree with your superiors, it is a good time for others to make waves.
The superiors often use their subordinates to deal with people who turn against them in the crowd, which will make them offend everyone and then attack them to win everyone's heart.
@ Weng Xiaoyu asked about this example and searched it. There is one.
During the Wu Zetian period in the Tang Dynasty, due to the position taken by the hostess, the name was not justified, and there were criticisms all over the world, and opponents were everywhere.
In order to cope with this situation, Wu Zetian reused cruel officials. Her cruel officials are not only numerous, but also cruel, rare in ancient and modern times. The most famous are Zhou Xing and Lai Junchen.
The cruel officials did many evils, but Wu Zetian praised them. She once said to Zhou Xing, "There are many evil thieves with ulterior motives in the world. If Ai Qing doesn't try to eradicate them, I don't know how much right and wrong they will have. Ai Qing can do this cheaply and try to get rid of traitors. "
The emperor's luck made the cruel officials more unscrupulous.
Lai Junchen once said: "Our actions are all inspired by the emperor, so no matter what problems arise, we don't have to worry about the punishment of the emperor. As for the others, what is the importance? "
The brutality of brutal officials was opposed by just people in the world. Wu Zetian's confidant once said: "cruel officials are heinous, and your majesty's appointment of them will probably ruin your reputation."
Wu Zetian sneered: "I always do extraordinary things, and I will have my own opinions in the future."
Wu Zetian then reprimanded all the voices against cruel officials, and the actions of cruel officials against Wu Zetian's political enemies intensified. Soon, her opponent was almost extinct.
At this moment, Wu Zetian saw that the value of the existence of the cruel officials suddenly disappeared, which made her even more bribed. So she suddenly changed her face, killed Suo Yuanli, Qiu and Zhou Xing, and personally ordered the removal of Lai Junchen. She also issued letters to publicize the crimes of the cruel officials, and put all the blame for persecuting loyal officials and good citizens on them.
Therefore, Wu Zetian not only got rid of the worthless cruel officials, but also created a saint who "carved evil spirits from the roots and distinguished right from wrong" in the minds of people who did not know the truth.
In the end, her dominance became more stable.
Don't wait until the last minute to dig a well for what Li took the initiative to clean up.
If you can't attack the enemy, self-protection is the first task.
Putting the enemy in a dilemma is the best strategy.
Rewards and punishments must be made public in order to play their role.
700 million remember, don't be intimate.
Q: What if the villain goes to the leader to speak ill of you?
A: Keep humility and enthusiasm for leaders for a long time, pay attention to cultivating your own image at ordinary times, and strictly restrain your words and deeds. But in front of the leaders, or in public, I may flatter the little people who may want to hurt me. After a period of time, you can offend the villain because of "unintentional loss" in front of the leader. If the villain slanders the leader, it will make the leader think that he repays kindness with evil and retaliates with self-interest, and will never believe the rumor maker.
Think of an allusion that might be useful to you.
(In the Eastern Jin Dynasty, Wang Dun held heavy power and dominated state affairs. Wen Qiao was loyal to the Kim family. Wang Dun wanted to kill him, but he was afraid of being accused of harming the virtuous. Wen Qiao knew this, so he was extremely respectful to Wang Dun, well-founded and meticulous, so that Wang Dun could not find a reason to make moves.
Wang Dun prized the villain Qian Feng. Wen Qiao, as an expert at that time, praised Qian Feng many times in public, and Qian Feng was praised, and went to heaven and died. Wen Qiao wanted to escape from the wolf's den, but recommended Qian Feng to go out to work, which surprised Wang Dun and Qian Feng. Adhering to the principle of mutual benefit, Qian Feng recommended Wen Qiao to go out to work, while Wang Dun wanted to take this opportunity to examine whether Wen Qiao was loyal. Wen Qiao knew all this, said a lot of mean words, and made Wang Dun believe it. Finally, he gave a big banquet to see Wen Qiao off. Wen Qiao was afraid of getting mixed up after Qian Feng left, so he got drunk at the banquet, deliberately spilled wine on Qian Feng, and swore, "changing" the usual gentleman demeanor. Wang Dun saw it and laughed, thinking that Wen Qiao was really drunk, so he calmed Qian Feng down. Before he left, Wen Qiao offered to resign again, but Wang Dun finally refused. As the saying goes, thieves are extremely evil, and wise men are better than gentlemen. As soon as Wenqiao left, Qian Feng woke up and said something deceptive. Wang Dun was moved by Wen Qiao's humility and resignation, saying, "Qian Feng is too narrow-minded. Usually he always praises you. He was just drunk yesterday. You shouldn't care. How can it be stirred in reverse? " Pastime can only forget about it. Later, after Wen Qiao fled, he participated in the plan for Wang Dun. Wang Dun swore, but it was too late. )