Don’t be too arrogant as a person. As the old saying goes: "A ruler is short, an inch is long!" Confucius also said: "When three people walk together, there must be one who is my teacher."
People often talk about being arrogant, aloof, and lazy. In fact, it is a selfish mentality. You are always self-centered in everything. These three emotions are often combined together. The result of their interaction often makes you ignorant. The most harmful thing is arrogance. You must know "Who has left this world?" , the earth will still rotate! "
Arrogant people like to grandstand, be arrogant, arrogant, vulgar and superficial, narrow-minded and prejudiced, pretending to be profound and arty. . . . . . In short, an arrogant person is a monster of vanity and half-knowledge, a frog in the well looking up to him, and a pretentious and incompetent performance. Dealing with others in an arrogant manner for a long time will make them feel difficult to approach. It's not easy to get along with them, so I have to stay away from them. Or avoid it.
Chinese traditional culture has always advocated equality. The more knowledge and knowledge a person has, the more humble he will be. Confucius once said, "Knowing is knowing, not knowing is not knowing, this is knowledge (wisdom)"
The protagonist in the well-known idiom story "Oneself Recommended" is a person with great diplomatic skills. However, his master Pingyuan Jun Zhao Sheng made a mistake that he took for granted. After making an alliance with the King of Chu, Lord Pingyuan promoted Mao Sui to the rank of honored guest. Not long after, the Qin State attacked the Zhao State. The high-spirited Lord Pingyuan, without communicating with Mao Sui, thought that Mao Sui could suppress the King of Chu by himself, so if he was allowed to lead troops to fight against the Qin army, he would definitely be able to do so. After returning from victory, when he went to court, he directly brought back the general seal to Mao Sui from King Zhao. Mao Sui was also speechless and had no choice but to bite the bullet and lead his troops to fight. As the saying goes, "separated lines are like mountains separated". Marching to fight and talking in the diplomatic field are completely different things. The final result is that the entire army is destroyed, and Mao Sui has no choice but to draw his sword and kill himself. This is a living example of "unwiseness" (the self-willed Zhao Sheng uses diplomatic talents as military talents, how can he be invincible)
When Su Dongpo was young, he was diligent, studious, and well-read. He is also quite conceited. Once on a whim, he wrote a couplet on his door: "Know all the characters in the world and read all the books in the world." This is no ordinary madness. Anyone with a little knowledge of literature should know that the Chinese language and culture are broad and profound, and there are countless uncommon Chinese characters. Dongpo's failure resulted in humiliation. A few days later, an elder brought a book to ask Dongpo for advice. Dongpo was dumbfounded. He didn't know many words in the book and was embarrassed. His face turned red, but fortunately Dongpo was a studious person. He immediately apologized to the elder and added two words in front of each couplet with a pen, which became "Strive to read all the words in the world and resolve to read all the books in the world." Use it to encourage yourself. There is no end to learning, "Humility makes people progress, pride makes people fall behind."
After Su Dongpo entered politics, he had a staff member who liked to be verbose. Su Dongpo disliked him very much, thinking that he was uneducated and incompetent. People who only use their words. Once, this man was talking incessantly in the court. Su Dongpo interrupted his speech and asked him to report to Su Dongpo in person at night. Su Dongpo had already thought of an idea to humiliate and tease this subordinate. When the subordinate came to report to Su Dongpo, When he was reporting on his work, Dongpo was reading a book. He casually chanted: "There are many white birds in the rivers and lakes, and there are blue flies in the sky and the earth." Dongpo pretended to ask his subordinates: "The white bird in this poem should be a bird like an egret." Right?" The subordinate said slowly: "Sir, the white bird does not refer to the egret, but it is a metaphor for a corrupt husband, and the blue fly is a metaphor for a slanderer." After hearing this, Su Dongpo knew that he had wrongly blamed this subordinate. I understand that he is just being cautious when he talks a lot. There is still someone with real talent and learning. From now on, I will let him be verbose and no longer embarrass him.
According to legend, during the Southern Song Dynasty, there was a scholar in Jiangxi who was extremely arrogant and ignored by ordinary people. Once, he proposed to have a meeting with the great poet Yang Wanli. Yang Wanli welcomed him humbly and expressed the hope that celebrities would bring some of Jiangxi's local specialties "shu with salt". The famous scholar went to see Yang Wanli empty-handed and said, "Please forgive me, sir. I am a person who has read the books of sages. I really don't know what "youshu with salt" is from the country, and I can't bring it." Yang Wanli calmly took down a copy of "Yun Lue" from the bookshelf. I opened one of the pages and handed it to the famous scholar. I saw on the book that it said "Soybean, with salt and sweet potato". At this time, the famous scholar was so ashamed that he felt ashamed and regretted that he had read too little. I regret that I should not have been arrogant and brought humiliation to myself. Anyone with a little bit of rationality and common sense should know that since people ask for this local specialty, it must be there. They shouldn't pretend to understand and brazenly say that they have read a lot. If you put down your dignity and ask others . It’s no longer a joke, this humiliation was caused by his ignorance and arrogance!
Let’s take another positive example. Ouyang Xiu, one of the eight great essayists of the Tang and Song Dynasties, could be said to have reached the level of proficiency in literature in his later years. However, he never relied on his talent and was arrogant, and he still wrote good articles over and over again. Edit, his wife was afraid of exhausting him, so she persuaded him: "Why ask for trouble like this? You are not a primary school student, why are you afraid that your husband will be angry?" Ouyang Xiu said with a smile: "I am not afraid that my husband will be angry, but I am afraid that future generations will laugh at me." ! "What a humble person.
Being arrogant and unruly can even bring you death. Idiom: The two protagonists Kong Rong and Mi Heng in "The Friendship of Forgettable Years" lost their lives in the end because of their arrogance. It's a pity. . . . . . .
Mi Heng, who had a reputation as a "literary man without any extra points", was recommended by Kong Rong to work with Cao Cao. Mi Heng was not satisfied with asking him to play drums, so he dared to take off his clothes, play drums naked and scold Cao Cao, and his famous saying is " If you dare, kill me!" Cao Cao didn't want to be accused of killing a virtuous person, so he recommended him to Liu Biao. Liu Biao didn't like Ni Heng, so he kicked him to Huang Zu, Huang Zu's son and They made good friends with Mi Heng, and someone presented a parrot at a banquet. Mi Heng wrote an "Ode on Parrots", which earned him the reputation of "no extravagant writing". It's a pity that he was too arrogant and called Huang Zu a clay statue in the temple. Don't you know that Huang Zu was a military commander and a rough man, but he didn't have the courage to Cao Cao. Liu Biao immediately "clicked" him. . . . . . As the big brother of "forever friends". Kong Rong didn't learn any lessons from his younger brother who got into trouble because of his words. He continued to humiliate Cao Cao as always and kept challenging Meng De's bottom line. In the end, he also brought death to himself. When Cao Cao defeated Yuan Shao and captured Yecheng, Cao Pi general Yuan Xi Zhen, his wife, snatched her away and became his wife. After Kong Rong learned about this, he wrote a letter of congratulations to Cao Cao, saying that when King Wu of Zhou conquered Zhou, he must have snatched Daji and given it to Duke Zhou. Cao Cao did not react, thinking that Kong Rong had read it in some ancient book. Yes, just ask Kong Rong where this allusion comes from? Kong Rong said jokingly, "Looking at what happened today (Cao Pi robbed the Zhen family), it should have been like this back then." | Cao Cao was so angry that he was half dead. Later, there was a severe drought, and Cao Cao issued a ban on alcohol in order to save food. However, Kong Rong wrote a rotten letter to Cao Cao, talking about the benefits of drinking, and antagonizing Cao Cao at every turn. Cao Cao couldn't bear it and ordered his men to impeach Kong Rong. When he sent troops to attack Liu Bei, Kong Rong jumped out and said that Liu Bei was a man of benevolence and righteousness. , this battle would not be won, Cao Cao used Kong Rong to disturb the morale of the army and killed him to sacrifice the flag. . . . . .