Sima Xiangru and Zhuo Wenjun.
Sima Xiangru eloped with Zhuo Wenjun, which became a much-told story! Sima Xiangru, a native of Chengdu, Sichuan, liked reading when he was young. After finishing his studies, he used money to buy an official position to serve Emperor Han Jingdi. Emperor Jing of Han Dynasty disliked Ci Fu and was dismissed from office. After that, make friends and live in Liang State. After Liang Xiaowang's death, Sima Xiangru returned to Chengdu, Sichuan, penniless. At that time, Qionglai county magistrate Wang Ji appreciated Sima Xiangru's talent and invited him to live in Qionglai. Qionglai has many rich people. Once, Zhuo Wangsun, a local rich man, and Cheng Zheng gave a banquet and invited Wang Ji, the magistrate of Qionglai County. Wang Ji knew that Sima Xiangru was very talented, so he invited Sima Xiangru to play the piano at the party.
Sima Xiangru couldn't refuse, so he played a song "Phoenix Begging for Phoenix" at the banquet. At that time, Zhuo Wangsun had a daughter, Zhuo Wenjun, aged 17. Less than a year after marriage, her husband died and she was widowed at home. Zhuo Wenjun is also a talented woman. She likes music. She heard Sima Xiangru playing the piano and peeking from the wall. Sima Xiangru was originally a famous handsome man. Zhuo Wenjun peeped through the wall, saw Sima Xiangru's beautiful face, and was instantly fascinated by the beautiful timbre of the piano.
Sima Xiangru and Zhuo Wenjun.
Zhuo Wenjun's servant girl also saw her mind, so she secretly told Sima Xiangru. Sima Xiangru also knew that Zhuo Wenjun was a beautiful woman, so she gave her maid a large sum of money to convey her love. Because Zhuo Wenjun just lost her husband, she knew her parents would not agree. On a windy night, Zhuo Wenjun met Sima Xiangru and eloped secretly. Unexpectedly, the elopement of the two people made a strange fate.
In fact, ancient marriage paid attention to "parents' orders and matchmakers' words", and it was impossible to get married privately without parents' consent. Zhuo Wenjun and Sima Xiangru's elopement behavior of "spying on each other and following each other over the wall" has violated the ancient marriage system, and parents will be laughed at by relatives and friends. In fact, Zhuo Wenjun's violation of "parents' orders and matchmaker's words" is not the point. The point is, Zhuo Wangsun is the richest man in Qionglai, and it's not good for her daughter to elope with anyone, so she has to elope with poor Sima Xiangru. So come out, naturally lose face, so, promised not to give Zhuo Wenjun a penny.
Sima Xiangru's home is surrounded by four walls. Whoever marries him will definitely drink the northwest wind. Fortunately, Zhuo Wenjun still has brothers and sisters, so I borrowed money from my brothers and sisters and opened a pub in Lin Qiong to sell wine. Zhuo Wenjun sells wine at the front desk, and Sima Xiangru works with the staff in calf nose pants worn by Shu Ren. Zhuo Wangsun felt ashamed when he knew it, but he changed his mind after being persuaded by his family. After all, I am the richest man, and I am really sorry to see my daughter working so hard. So he gave Zhuo Wenjun 100 slaves, 100 million copper coins and clothes and belongings when Zhuo Wenjun got married.
zhuo wenjun and sima xiangru
After Zhuo Wenjun became rich, he and Sima Xiangru returned to Chengdu, bought land and houses, and became rich. Some people say that they became rich only after marrying Bai. If it is another person, it is estimated that he will not be so lucky. In fact, Sima Xiangru's family is not good, but Sima Xiangru is a potential stock. Because he was good at ci fu, he was later taken by Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty and became an official. When Sima Xiangru returned to his hometown, Zhuo Wangsun was also very proud. He changed his old attitude of despising Sima Xiangru and went to see his son-in-law. Sima Xiangru didn't hold a grudge and expressed his gratitude to his father-in-law, Zhuo Wangsun.
In fact, after many men get rich, they begin to swell, and it happens from time to time that they abandon their wives and children. Sima Xiangru is no exception. After he became an official, he took a fancy to Maoling woman and wanted to accept her as his concubine. Zhuo Wenjun is afraid of being left out. In order to save her husband's heart, she wrote a well-known poem "White-headed Ballad" with deep affection. Among them, the touching famous love sentence "I am willing to be United with one heart and one mind and never leave" has been passed down to this day. Sima Xiangru was moved by his wife's words. After watching Ballad of Bald Head, he gave up the idea of concubinage. Sima Xiangru never married again until his death. And Zhuo Wenjun? I also achieved "I am willing to accompany you to the world if you win, and I am willing to accompany you to make a comeback if you lose!" " Their love has become a much-told story.
Zhu Maichen and his wife Cui Shi have become eternal jokes! There is a humorous story in Qi written by Hou Bai in Sui Dynasty, which tells that during the Three Kingdoms period, Zhang, the prefect of Yizhou, Shu, was secretly kidnapped by people in this county and wanted to give it to the prince of Wu and Sun Quan. Zhuge Liang sent Deng Zhi to meet Sun Quan and sent Zhang back to Shu. After Zhang was kidnapped, he escaped and hid everywhere. Sun Quan didn't know that Zhang was kidnapped to Wu, so he allowed Deng Zhi to take Zhang away from Wu. Before leaving, Zhang was introduced to pay his respects to Sun Quan. Quan asked Zhang, "Zhuo Wenjun, a widow of Shu, eloped with her. How can your customs be like this? " Zhang replied arrogantly, "I think Zhuo Wenjun, although she eloped with others, is not as poor as the wife of Wuxian County in your country, and she is too rich to marry a virtuous person!"
Sun Quan, the prince of Wu, originally wanted to satirize Zhang Yi's escape to Wu by the story of Zhuo Wenjun and elopement. Therefore, Zhang used the story with his wife Cui Shi as a counterattack. Sun Quan, the prince of Wu, was speechless and did not take any advantage. It is estimated that many people are at a loss. What is the story of the Zhu Maichen couple that made Prince Sun Quan speechless?
Water under the bridge, it's no use crying over spilt milk.
There is an idiom called water under a bridge. It is estimated that few people have heard the story behind it, which is actually related to Zhu Maichen and his wife Cui Shi. According to Zhu Maichen Biography, in the Western Han Dynasty, Zhu Maichen, a native of Wuxian County, Huiji County, was born in a poor family. In his early years, he lived mainly by chopping wood and selling wages, but Zhu Maichen liked reading. Every time I cut firewood and go home, I always carry firewood on my back and read articles on the road. Cui Shi, his wife, didn't like the way he followed behind with firewood on his back, and repeatedly discouraged him from singing on the road. Zhu Maichen sang even louder, and his wife was ashamed and decided to leave him. Zhu Maichen said, "When I am 50 years old, I will be rich. Now that I'm over 40 years old, you and I have worked hard. When I have money, I will repay your efforts. " His wife looked down on him and thought that Zhu Maichen would not be rich, so she sarcastically said, "When you are rich, I may starve to death!" ? Cui Shi didn't wait for Zhu Maichen to have money, so he entrusted the matchmaker to introduce himself to a new object and asked Zhu Maichen for a divorce.
Zhu Maichen tried to stay, but his wife Cui Shi refused. Zhu Maichen had to write a divorce letter, and they parted ways. A few years later, after ups and downs, Zhu Maichen was finally reused by Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty and became the chief executive of Huiji County. When Zhu Maichen returned to his hometown, his ex-wife Cui Shi heard about it and wanted to go back to Zhu Maichen. Zhu Maichen rode a burly horse, asked someone to bring a basin of water and fell to the ground. He said to Cui Shi, "If the spilled water can be recovered, I will promise you." ? Knowing the water under the Cui Shi Bridge, they couldn't be together, and finally they died of shame. ("Taiping Universe" contains: Zhu Maichen's wife remarried to Qing Zhali in Jiaxing Mountain, and later died of self-drowning. )
After Zhu Maichen's wife died, she was buried in Jiaxing, which was later called "the tomb of shame". Founder, a scholar in the Ming Dynasty, also wrote a poem saying: "There is a hill next to the grass pond, and it is not shameful to bury bones for a thousand years. Ding Ning told the human woman that the dross has been exhausted since ancient times. " Cui Shi's ending is a joke.
Marriage should be like this, willing to unite as one and never give up! Sima Xiangru and Zhu Maichen both lived in the period of Emperor Wu of Han Dynasty, and they were contemporaries. What inspiration does their story give us? Zhuo Wenjun broke through the feudal ethics and eloped with the poor Sima Xiangru. She didn't despise Sima Xiangru at all. She firmly believed that she was married to love. Although Zhuo Wenjun finally became rich with his father's help, her husband didn't let Zhuo Wenjun down. Sima Xiangru became a great official with his skills. Even without his father's help, his future life will not be too bad. When Sima Xiangru became rich and wanted to marry a concubine, Zhuo Wenjun wrote The Ballad of Bald Head to persuade her husband to change his mind and finally saved his heart. Sima Xiangru also took responsibility for not abandoning his ruined wife. In the end, their love story became a good story.
Sima Xiangru and Zhuo Wenjun.
On the other hand, Zhu Maichen's wife, Cui Shi, ended up with a completely opposite ending to Zhuo Wenjun, which eventually became a joke. Cui Shi also married the poor Zhu Maichen in his early years, which is similar to the elopement of Zhuo Wenjun and Sima Xiangru. Zhu Maichen's home is surrounded by a wall, so is Sima Xiangru. Both of them were poor when they were young. However, Zhu Maichen's wife, Cui Shi, always looks down on her husband, is unwilling to tell him about her hardships and often satirizes him. At that time, Cui Shi was over forty years old and he was going to die. Finally, he divorced her husband. When her husband became rich, Cui Shi foolishly wanted to go back to her ex-husband, but was eventually rejected and died of shame.
Water under the bridge, it's no use crying over spilt milk.
In fact, the love story between Zhuo Wenjun and Cui Shi constantly warns modern marriage: men should not abandon their wives, and women should not look down on their husbands. Now that you are married to her, treat her well and love her well. Now that you have married him, follow him well and encourage him. Whether poor or rich, marriage should actually be like this: "You win, I am willing to accompany you to the world, you lose, I am willing to accompany you to make a comeback!" I hope to be United with one heart and one mind and never give up! "