What does it mean to realize that the past is invisible and the future can be traced back? I regret that the mistakes of the past are irreparable, but I firmly believe that I can make up for them in the years to come.
1 Source: Return of Tao Yuanming
2 original:
Go back to Xi, the countryside will ruin Hu Bugui! Since the heart is the form of service, I am sad alone. If you don't remonstrate in the past, you will chase after what you know. Not far from being lost, I feel that today is not yesterday.
The ship is far away and the wind is blowing. Asking for directions, ex-husband, hate dawn. It looks forward to Yu Heng and runs with joy. Servants are welcome and children are waiting for the door. Three days later, the pine chrysanthemum still exists. Bring children into the room, there will be wine bottles. Lead the pot to think for yourself and make the court happy. Leaning against the south window to send lofty sentiments, judge your knees to be comfortable. Garden Day includes fun, although the door is fixed and often closed. Help the old man to rest, and correct his head if he goes far. Clouds come out of holes unintentionally, and birds don't know when to fly. The scenery is coming, lonely and lingering.
Come back, please rest assured that you will never travel again. The world is against me, what can I ask for? Please love words from relatives, play music and read books to eliminate worries. The farmer told Yu Yichun that he wanted to do something with Xichou. Or a towel cart, or a boat This is not only a gentle and elegant road to find ravines, but also a rugged road through hills. Wood is thriving and spring is blooming. When everything is fine, I think my life journey is over!
I don't hold grudges anymore! How long will you stay in space? What does Hu Wei want? Wealth is not my wish, and the emperor's hometown cannot be expected. When you are pregnant, you can go alone or plant a stick. Deng and He Lin wrote poems together. Chatting until the end, Loew's fate is ridiculous!
3 translation:
Go home! The countryside is going to be deserted, why not go back? Since my mind is enslaved by my body, why am I so depressed and sad alone? I regret that my past mistakes are irreparable, but I firmly believe that I can make up for them in the years to come. In fact, I am not far from being lost, and I have realized that it is right to go home and it is wrong to be an official.
The boat floated gently on the water, and the breeze blew the clothes. Ask pedestrians the way ahead, only hate that the morning light is dim and the sky is not bright. Finally I saw my humble home, and I galloped forward happily. The servants greeted them happily, and the children waited at the door. The path in the courtyard is overgrown with weeds, and the pines, cypresses and chrysanthemums are still there; I took the children into the house, and the wine was full. I picked up the hip flask and drank it myself, watching the court tree make me laugh; By the south window, I feel that the world is very proud, and I feel that this small place can easily reassure me. The door of the small garden is often closed, so it is interesting to walk (alone) in the garden every day; Take a walk on crutches and rest, always looking up at the distant sky. White clouds naturally float out of the hole, and tired birds know to fly back to their nests; The sun is dim, and the sun is about to set. I can't bear to leave, and my hands are lonely and loose.
Come back! I want to break up with secular people. Everything about them doesn't suit my interest. What do you want from driving out again? Talking to the old people in the village, playing the piano, reading books, and relieving their worries are so fun; The farmer told me that it was spring and he was going to farm in the west. Sometimes driving a towel cart, sometimes rowing a boat, we not only have to explore deep valleys, but also walk through rugged hills. Trees are lush and springs are flowing slowly. I envy everything when it should be, sighing that my life is coming to an end.
Forget it! How much time is left in the world? Why not go or stay according to your own mind? Why do you want to go somewhere when you are distracted? Wealth is not what I want, and there is no hope of ascending to heaven. Cherish the beautiful scenery and I will enjoy it alone, or I will help the seedlings grow with crutches. Climbing up the eastern hillside, I screamed at the edge of Qingxi and recited poems; Let's end our life with nature and take pleasure in fate. Hesitate about what?
4 Author introduction:
Tao Yuanming (about 365-427), with a cheerful personality, was named Mr. Wuliu, who was known as Mr. Jingjie in the world, and changed his name to Qian after entering Liu Song Dynasty. Poet, writer, lyricist and essayist at the end of Eastern Jin Dynasty and the beginning of Southern Song Dynasty. A native of Xunyang Chai Sang (now Jiujiang City, Jiangxi Province) in the Eastern Jin Dynasty. He worked as a small official for several years, then resigned and went home, and then lived in seclusion. Rural life is the theme of Tao Yuanming's poems, and his related works include Drinking, Returning to the Garden, The Story of Peach Blossom Garden, Biography of Mr. Wuliu, Returning to Xi Ci, Poetry of Peach Blossom Garden and so on.
I dreamed of going to a relative's house for a wedding banquet, and there may be a dispute recently. Attention, truth.
Will you go to the funeral of a friend who doesn't usually see much? You don't have to go if his family doesn't mourn.
After all, we don't usually go back and forth.
It is not good to go suddenly.
What does it mean to dream of going to my cousin's house for a long time? I dreamed of going to my sister's house, and the guests would come to the door.
What does it mean to dream that my sister-in-law who has never been with me is married?
What does it mean to dream of my niece? Busy affairs make people dream; Many dreams are illusory; Don't worry; Don't forget to adopt.
Is it normal for my father-in-law not to see his grandson after he has a wife? This is normal. Belated love must be a vigorous truth. Why is there a round trip? Because he is lonely and has nowhere to go.
Poets, chickens and dogs who don't communicate with each other listen, and they don't communicate with each other ~ ~ One door closes, and the other door closes ~ ~
The classmate asked her to celebrate the baby's birthday, but she usually didn't go with it. Should she go or not? Of course, if she likes someone, she must dare to tell her.
And the average girl won't accept it after you tell her for the first time, which makes her look reserved!
Keep trying! Let me show you this. It might be useful to you.
When girls are being chased, their psychology is very complicated. She may be happy, but she is a little scared. She has ambivalence towards the boy who intruded into her quiet life. She didn't mean to. Don't think she is testing you, but she is actually fighting herself. She is afraid of getting hurt.
Don't be afraid that your initiative will bring her disgust. If you don't take the initiative, she won't take the initiative, and it will fade slowly. It's normal if your initial confession is rejected by her. Don't be discouraged, who knows what this girl is thinking?
Maybe if you confess twice, she will be moved by you. A good girl with a kind heart is easily moved.
If you encounter setbacks, leave immediately, never reply to this girl again, protect yourself tightly and lick the wound silently. While you are suffering, I don't know that the child may be regretting, regretting! Maybe she will secretly cry and regret rejecting you, and then she will be sad to see your indifferent eyes, but she won't tell you, and she will never let you come back to chase her. Your excessive self-esteem may hurt a girl's sensitive heart.
She will think that you don't really like him, otherwise how could you just give her up?
Some people say that it is really difficult for boys and it is not easy to chase girls. But my feeling is that this phenomenon is inseparable from the social role orientation of men and women. From a physiological and social point of view, women are always passive. If, on the other hand, men are ashamed and women are brave, the world will be in a mess! Women's shyness is always beautiful ~ I always hear that a brave man overcame many difficulties and finally won the heart of a beautiful woman. There are few examples to the contrary.
Some boys are afraid that others will say that they are dead and pester them to fight, leaving a bad reputation. But I think boys pursue the girl they like and continue to be nice to this girl after encountering some setbacks, which shows that people really like it and are sincere. If it doesn't work, there's nothing to regret. It's nothing. Who makes people like it? I hate people blindly following me, and I hate boys who have no opinions and care too much about what others think of them. They deserve not to find a girlfriend.
If you are a man, be brave. Girls are emotional and easily immersed in love. Although you work hard, once your heart touches her, you will get more and more love. Such examples abound around us. Girls are gentle and considerate to their boyfriends. What was the sweetness of the original hard work? And most good girls are devoted and single-minded.
Therefore, it is suggested that some boys be brave and pursue the girls they like, instead of being so timid. One is that people think you are unmanly, and the other is that you feel uncomfortable. But, most importantly, you get nothing in the end. Happiness is always earned by yourself, don't expect others to give it to you!
By the way, I think it's good to take the initiative, because your goal is what you really like. Girls are often passive and can only choose to accept and refuse, so I would rather take the initiative and love what I love without regrets!
Life is beautiful, enjoy it and learn to find it!
First, what kind of first impression should I leave on MM (time: I just started to contact MM)
? I think the most important thing is to let MM see your ambition.
The greatest charm of a man lies in his successful career. Young people can't be "successful" if they don't work long hours. At this time, you should make MM feel that you are a self-motivated person.
Others can talk nonsense, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell MM that you are full of confidence in the future, that you are not satisfied with the status quo, and that you have a long-term plan. In a word, your future is not a dream.
? Confident and responsible.
Don't be a child. Girls are lazy and want to find someone to rely on. You should show your confidence and sense of responsibility.
It's better to have a wrong choice than no choice at all.
? Not too formal, but not too casual.
Be serious where you should be serious, and ridicule when you should be ridiculed.
Girls like men who are a little cynical, so it seems that they don't care about anything, which is too dull.
? Looks mature.
A leisurely man has fatal attraction to mm.
Second, how to further contact MM (time: the stage of starting to chase)
? The most important thing at this stage is not to worry, not to make things too clear, so that people can see at a glance that you are chasing others.
Think about it. Most people don't like you at first sight, but they don't hate you at first sight. They are all children of ordinary people (unless you look like Chow Yun Fat, Andy Lau or kevin costner). Good feelings need to be realized through constant understanding, so the key to the problem is the opportunity for further development you want.
Think about it from the girl's point of view: girls must be under psychological pressure if you rush directly to get something. If I find that I don't like you after a while, it won't be a lie, will it? So if you come out resolutely from the beginning, you will basically be bored back immediately.
? Start with a low profile
First of all, we should position the relationship as a "friend", which is originally an "ordinary friend". You want to be a "good friend". Those with taste can also ask the other party to be a "confidante" or something. In short, don't say "chasing you".
Think about it, if you don't mention "chasing" at all, then the girl will have less chance to "refuse" you-how can you refuse if you don't chase her? !
This can relieve the psychological pressure of girls and let you have a smooth relationship. Don't fantasize about agreeing to marry you after three days. You should communicate fully and understand that feelings don't come out of thin air.
? Don't be too impatient in the communication process.
Relax and don't pester others all day. Anyone who does this to you will get tired of it. A good friend of mine told me that the key to chasing girls is eight words-"hot and cold, playing hard to get" (this is the crystallization of my classmates' efforts for many years).
Staying with people all day, naturally you won't think you are good. If you are indifferent for a day or two, girls will remember the benefits of your existence.
Also, don't take out the ambition of "you don't want to marry" It is not good for the price to drop too low. Sometimes you can play a little trick.
? We should create opportunities appropriately.
I said before, don't turn things into "you are chasing others" right away, you need to get close to girls. At this time, it depends on your creativity.
You can collect information and try to turn the waiting rabbit into a chance encounter; You can also pretend to be casual and find the best reason to invite someone to do something with you.
In short, this is the most technical place. If it is really not feasible, you can consult your predecessors.
? Do nothing: it is impolite to give gifts to others casually.
Some people are eager to chase girls and like to buy things for others often, but they don't know that chasing girls is the most taboo.
As the saying goes, "something for nothing". You are putting pressure on others by giving them something like this. People will feel indebted to you, so they will find ways to repay you. If they can't, they will find a way not to associate with you, so they won't always owe you a favor.
If you want to show your sincerity, please invite girls to spend money together, such as finding a good restaurant to eat or an expensive place to play together. Girls can naturally see that you spent a lot of money, but after all, the money was spent by two people, not taken home.
Third, what is a "girlfriend"?
? Girlfriend is a fact, not a promise.
You start dating girls, from "ordinary friends" to "good friends" to "very, very good friends who talk about everything". On a sunny afternoon, you "accidentally" held her hand; In "Willow Shoot on the Moon", you suddenly attack and kiss her. At this time, she is already your girlfriend. Whether she admits it or not, she already thinks you are her boyfriend.
I know the best. I didn't ask "Would you like to be my girlfriend" until I went to bed. Finally, the girl was anxious: "Why don't you ask me to be your girlfriend!" "
So, don't rush to pierce enough paper, the more hazy the situation, the better for you.
? What is "confession"?
As I said before, confession is actually just a form, and the correct order should be: in fact, you have become your girlfriend, and you can confess to others. Many people don't understand this problem. They always feel that people promise to be their girlfriends first, and then what? I can only say that they are very, very "simple" and very, very "stupid".
? Have you ever had to confess?
Yes, for example, there is a third party, or your relationship with a girl is immature, but two people may be separated for a while.
At this time, confession is an immature confession, which is very risky. It is similar to the grim situation when playing Go. The backward side was forced to release the "winning hand". If you win, you win. If you lose, you can only say that you are born with bad luck.
? Don't say the word "love" easily.
I often see a "bold confession" in the forum. To be honest, I really think this is a very immature performance. "Love" is a sacred word, which means pursuit, commitment and even a responsibility.
A man who casually says "love" is irresponsible.
Fourth, civilized love cannot be forced.
? Not every MM can catch up.
There will always be many people chasing good girls, and it is impossible to satisfy everyone's wishes. There will always be losers. For example, even if you study hard and master the principle of chasing MM, you can't catch up with either twin.
Look at the problem from another angle. Even if a rural nanny who has never graduated from primary school is kind to you, earning 600 yuan a month and buying you 700 yuan as a gift (overdraft), and willing to be a cow and a horse for you, you will not fall in love with her. If she cries and pesters you every day, you must feel bored.
So love needs a material foundation, at least a balance.
? Chasing MM is a serious social activity.
Don't bother others, leave yourself a way out. Why don't men have wives? Some MMS are snobs (few). If you are not convinced, you can prove with facts that "she was blind at that time". Never mistake others for yourself.
Finally, don't be cynical in front of MM, cynicism sometimes means "you are a loser"