There is a joke: In ancient times, when a man went to a woman's house to propose marriage, if the man was handsome, the woman would say shyly that it was up to her parents to decide everything for life; If the man looks difficult, the woman will say sadly that the child still wants to honor his parents for a few years. And when the hero has a chance to save the girl, the girl should be committed to each other. If the girl is beautiful, the hero will ask excitedly, is the girl serious? If the girl looks like Zhong Lichun, the hero will euphemistically say that the girl must not be married. Haha, this paragraph tells us that people are lascivious and value-oriented. This has been the case throughout the ages. This is regardless of gender, national boundaries and race. That's why? My fair lady, a gentleman? Immortal poems, Pan An? Throw fruit at the car? It's a good story, and it's a common scandal or tragedy in today's society to covet beauty and go to jail. Believe it or not, when several men are together, the topic will definitely involve beautiful women; A few women get together and talk without handsome guys. Therefore, lewdness is human nature and sex, which is an animal instinct.
It is the lust instinct that urges people to keep chasing, seeking and owning their own partners (spouses). In ancient times, everyone wanted to be an emperor. In addition to the utilitarian heart of ruling the world and moving the ruling and opposition parties, it has to be said that sitting on the endless beauty of the world is also one of the driving forces. As a result, although ordinary men and women can't do this, they have their own pursuits. They met in the vast sea of people, and they were eager to know each other and get to know each other, and then peeled them off layer by layer, thinking that this was different from others. In the long years, they were peeled off one after another, and finally they were all the same.
On the other hand, there are essential differences between humans and animals. Besides being controlled by hormones, people are also controlled and restrained by society, environment, system, morality, emotion, public opinion and family. This determines that people can't pursue the so-called lust instinct without scruple, shame and consequences like animals. As a result, in human society, there has been a unique and exclusive love, and a mandatory and binding marriage system has emerged.
with the above explanation, it is not difficult to understand the topic to be said next. In my memory, once love was sacred, marriage was solemn, and it was hooliganism not to love for the purpose of marriage. After decades of dazzling, look at the present, although I dare not say that the world is getting worse and worse, I can only sigh. If nothing else, just love and marriage, in my generation after 6 or 7, some people only regard it as a means to seek novelty and pursue sensory stimulation. Watch an entertainment news, either the star cheated on me or the artist broke up and divorced, or? Little three? Superior or messy? One night stand. ? Look around again, similar things are everywhere and common. Talking about love now means living together, which means going to bed. It is no longer as simple as people used to, and it is so clear that love and marriage are divided. I'm not feudal and uncivilized, and I'm relatively young, but I just can't get used to this ethos of thinking with my lower body. Think about when you were in love, touching your hands, hugging your waist, and at most, playing with fear when the night is dim, you have to hide and be happy for half a day. That kind of pure excitement and expectation is so beautiful and memorable. As for going to bed, I dare not even think about it. There is no way. Let's talk about it after marriage. As for eating what's in the bowl and thinking about what's in the pot and stepping on two or more boats, that's moral corruption and hooliganism, and everyone will be punished. Life as the ancients said? Three exultations? One, leave the most precious and pure things in? Wedding night? Isn't that good? You know, the harder it is to get something, the more you will know how to cherish it. On the contrary, you can get it at your fingertips and at any time. Why cherish it? It's like eating delicacies and eating a meal once in a while, which is delicious and cherished; If you eat every day and eat every meal, you will get tired in a few days. Will you cherish it?
some people say, my feelings, my body, I am the master, what's it to you? Good question. Today, in the pursuit of freedom and self-strengthening, you dance academy are a degenerate, pursuing sensory stimulation. To tell the truth, as long as it doesn't interfere with me, it really has nothing to do with me. It's just a lifetime of life, and everything has a destiny. What you plant today will surely reap the corresponding results tomorrow. This is not what Buddhism calls karma, but the inevitable law of the development of things. In real life, sexually transmitted diseases, AIDS and infertility are more and more because of disorderly private life and not caring for your body. This topic is not the focus of this article, so stop here. Those who want to know more can go to Baidu. In addition, from a man's point of view, a woman who doesn't value or cherish her body, a woman who casually goes to rolled sheets with others, is at most a so-called sexual partner, just for fun, which is not worthy of communication and respect, let alone giving love and marriage. A normal man wouldn't push himself into a green dyehouse and let a green prairie grow on his head.
Therefore, we must have awe, responsibility and restraint in love and marriage. In other words, you must be loyal to love and marriage. In my limited knowledge, why do most countries and regions in the world, regardless of race, implement monogamy and formulate marriage laws with roughly the same theme? It is because of advocating and practicing loyalty to love and marriage. It is precisely because of longing for loyalty to love and marriage that Shakespeare's masterpiece Romeo and Juliet, Zweig's sadness in writing a letter from an unknown woman, the sadness in the poem Peacock Flying Southeast in Han Yuefu, the immortality of evil in Han Yuefu folk songs and the swan song of Liang Zhu's become a butterfly. These masterpieces, which are handed down from generation to generation, are full of emotion and tears of blood, all of which express loyalty to love and marriage. In real life, couples in almost every family have the same attitude towards love and marriage. No one doesn't want the other person to be disloyal to himself and always be worthy of himself (except for a few special circumstances). That is to say, he or she is required to be loyal to love, and loyalty to marriage can be realized through loyalty to love.
in my opinion, being loyal to love is a respect for one's lover and a obedience to social order and good customs; Being loyal to marriage is a compliance with the Marriage Law and a respect for one's choice. Loyalty is the foundation and bottom line for love and marriage. Once the foundation is lost and the bottom line is broken, love becomes a sharp arrow that hurts people, and the boat of marriage turns over when it is said. I really want to see it. When you know that the person you love is in rolled sheets with someone else, that kind of injury, that kind of heartache, that kind of madness will definitely make you deeply grieved, irrational and loveless. Maybe, no, I'm sure, no one wants to be involved in this deadly shit.
Generally speaking, women pay more attention to emotion and love, and their understanding of loyalty is more thorough. Loyalty is the basic principle of their life, and most women are loyal to love and marriage. As long as a woman really falls in love with a man, it is rare to betray love after marriage. As partners, loyalty should be mutual, not unilateral. Only by being loyal to each other can work and life be at ease, marriage and love be happy, and families be harmonious and peaceful. Loyalty can effectively prevent people from being philandering, from having illegitimate extramarital affairs and cheating, and from falling into the trap of promiscuity or sensuality. If there is no loyalty, love and marriage will be like fresh food without preservatives, which will soon deteriorate and stink; Without loyalty, love and marriage are like walking dead, empty in appearance and soulless. Loyalty is like a kite string pulled in your hand, which always pulls the love and marriage life of countless people and families.
Of course, loyalty to love and marriage is not to be stubborn. If your love is gone and your marriage is dead, then let go and stop torturing each other. Then love what you love generously. You don't have to hang yourself on a decaying tree, and you will be scarred and die ugly.
a person may have n times of love in his life, but it is best to have only one marriage in his life. I once wrote a passage to the effect that my wife gave me her most beautiful years and youth. She struggled to get out of shape, her face was dying, and she risked her life to have children for me. I really thank her. I have seen many beautiful women and many temptations, but my wife is definitely the best for me. Since I chose her, I must be loyal to her, which is the observance and awe of the Marriage Law, and it is also the minimum moral bottom line for being a man. My biggest wish is a family reunion, a plain and healthy life, and a few happy smiling faces when I get home. As for betrayal and infidelity, I don't even bother to think about it. Of course, it is still possible to occasionally see a beautiful woman daydreaming and secretly excited. What I want to express by this passage is that if you miss a place, the scenery of that place will no longer belong to you, even though it is picturesque and beautiful; If you miss someone, that person's love and marriage will never have anything to do with you, even though he or she once made you feel so excited and emotional. Stick to loyalty and be unmoved by all kinds of temptations. From the moment we are destined to be married for life, we should all? Hold your hand and grow old with your son? Facing difficulties and hardships, facing rain, snow, wind and frost, stepping on rough and muddy, relying on each other until the end of life.
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