Because I am engaged in journalism, I often go to the front line for interviews. One day, I was walking in a hurry to the construction site, and my cheeks gradually turned red. My colleague asked me if I had applied rouge. I lowered my head and smiled, and my friend laughed and said: You have passed the age of shyness long ago, why are you still so gentle and shy when you lower your head?
Perhaps because of the thin cuticle of the skin, the cheeks are slightly red due to being busy or being in an air-conditioned room in winter. Colleagues or friends often mistakenly think that they have applied rouge.
My friend’s joke reminded me of a very beautiful poem - Mimosa: "The fragrance of cardamom has no home, and the breeze dances with the moon on the veil. Why dye it with rouge and a touch of blush?" "Shengcaixia." In the flower garden, mimosa is the most inconspicuous grass hidden in the corner. They look ordinary and weak, standing quietly and peacefully, unlike other flowers that compete to show off their beauty and emit fragrance. But Mimosa is calm, silent but affectionate. The shyness and tenderness of the lowered head make people feel affectionate.
As for bowing the head, I have also read Xu Zhimo's poem: The most tenderness of bowing the head is like a shy water lotus that cannot bear the cool breeze. In fact, the most fascinating thing is not this poem. Although the poem is beautiful, it is a bit illusory. The image of the woman who cannot bear the cool breeze is elusive and cannot be grasped. The image of such a shy woman is too weak! One can't help but think: Will such a weak woman be happy? Therefore, the greatest contribution of such a charming woman may just be the creation of Xu Zhimo's masterpiece. However, Zhang Ailing's image of Bai Liusu, the woman who knows how to bow her head best, in "Love in a Fallen City" is much fuller and more distinct.
The slim and graceful woman, her first love is like a hibiscus, pure white with a hint of crimson. When she saw the shy look of her sweetheart, she was vividly described by numbers. How can one not be moved after reading such a sentence?
Xu Zhimo's "The most tender thing is the gentleness of the lowered head, like the shyness of a water lotus that cannot bear the cool breeze..." The woman in the painting gently raises her jade hands to block part of the sunset, as if As if awake from a dream, with a thoughtful look, lazily resting with legs crossed, slightly raised on tiptoes, low eyebrows and tender appearance, like a water lotus that is shy in the cool breeze, as if waiting for the love of the one she loves. Help and hug.
In "Love in a Fallen City", Fan Liuyuan praised Bai Liusu and said, "Did you know? Your specialty is lowering your head..." Liusu's lowering of her head was not due to shyness, but her softness was inadvertently revealed when she lowered her head. Fan Liuyuan saw it, so there was a battle of wits and courage between the two about emotions. An experienced man like Fan Liuyuan may have understood the woman's "stubborn" personality the moment he first met Liusu, but at the same time he was also confused about the truth contained in it. That's why he treated the temptation of bowing his head so calmly! It can be seen that lowering the head can reflect a woman's affection and tenderness.
Zhang Ailing borrowed Fan Liuyuan's words to praise Bai Liusu and said calmly: You are the best at bowing your head. When Zhang Ailing wrote this sentence, did she also have the thought of bowing her head?
Zhang Ailing, she also loves that man. She said: "When she met him, she became very low, as low as the dust, but she hoped that flowers would bloom from the dust." Therefore, she continued to provide financial support to her fleeing husband. Even though she knew he was having affairs.
Because of love, Zhang Ailing has bowed her head, but she is not as lucky as Bai Liusu, and her love still disappears like a falling flower. Perhaps, this woman who writes books like a love expert is only good at talking on paper; perhaps, she is not as lucky as Bai Liusu, and the people she meets may not understand true love by nature, or may have never had true love for her. . Therefore, she no longer compromised, she chose to spend her quiet time alone.
Compared between the two, Bai Liusu is really good at bowing his head. Although he has too much self-esteem and is afraid of losing face, based on love, if there is a step that he can barely climb down, for the long term, he will not give in. . As for Zhang Ailing, she knew how to bow her head and let go. When everything was irreversible, she sighed, gently kicked the stone away, and then walked forward with her head held high. Her every move is equally respectable.
“The most tenderness is the gentleness of the lowered head, like the shyness of a water lotus that cannot bear the cool breeze...” Shyness is the inner beauty, natural beauty, and temperament beauty of a woman. It is like a mysterious gauze covering a woman's body, adding to her hazyness. A hazy shy look is the most beautiful, because shy look should not be artificial or deliberately carved. It is a natural outflow of emotion and a natural expression of inner temperament. It is also a kind of implicit beauty.
Friend Hui also knows how to bow his head. One day when fine wrinkles appeared in the corners of her eyes, his lover said: I still think of the time when you first went to work, slowly lowering your head, your long silky hair hanging down to cover your face, you gently combing your hair with your hands. Tuck your head behind your ears and slowly raise your head, your cheeks are slightly red, your face is shy, so beautiful!
Hui was a little emotional after hearing this. Yes, in the blink of an eye, youth is gone! However, she was still a little relieved. It turned out that she was suitable for bowing her head. It turned out that she was beautiful when she bowed her head. It turned out that her lover remembered a gesture made long ago.
And such an intellectual and beautiful woman is actually disappointed in marriage. Hui said: Because of her personality and the nature of her work, she has a somewhat aloof personality, but her husband actually ridiculed her, saying she was aloof and not leaving her any personal space. Hui was very sad and said that when her children grow up, she would choose to separate from her husband because this is not the marriage she wants.
Later, Hui’s children went to college elsewhere.
She is left with her husband at home. One day, I had dinner with my friends and Hui’s family. A friend toasted to Hui's husband. Hui lowered his head in thought, raised his head and smiled, and said calmly and kindly: He has not had a good stomach recently. When he spoke, his eyes were affectionate, caring, and full of family affection. From the way Hui shielded her husband from the wine and her caring eyes, it was clear that Hui would not divorce her husband easily. Yes, Hui never mentioned the divorce from her husband again.
I know, Hui bowed her head again. As friends, we can only wish her well. After all, marriage is her own business. Because you know whether your marriage is good or bad, just like drinking water. Take a step back and the sky is vast. Buddhists also say that when the prodigal son turns back, lotus flowers can bloom on the wooden table.
As time goes by, shy people get older easily. Hui still lamented that although she did not have the talent of Zhang Ailing, the appearance of Zhao Yazhi, and the emotional intensity of Qiong Yao, she had the shyness, delicacy and tenderness of a young woman.
That tenderness of bowing the head, whether it is love or compromise, I hope someone can see it, someone can understand it, someone can feel sorry for it, someone can cherish it.