Specifically, this sentence originated from a letter written by Xu Zhimo to his teacher Liang Qichao. At that time (1923), Xu Zhimo fell in love with Lu Xiaoman by mistake. Liang Qichao objected, so he wrote to persuade him to give up Lu Xiaoman. His letter reads as follows: "... first, you must not let the pain of others make you happy." This move of my brother, no matter whether he and his brother are happy or not in the future, is almost like catching shadows, but it has given most people infinite pain. Second, love is sacred to teenagers nowadays. ..... This matter can be met but not sought. ..... Emotional people, fantasy ups and downs, it is extremely difficult to be satisfied, self-righteous realm will never be obtained, can only worry for life. Alas, Shima! Is there a perfect universe in the world? ..... We should take the attitude of not seeking perfection as our life, so that we can appreciate the wonderful taste of life. ..... If you indulge in an unattainable dream, you will be frustrated several times and your career will dry up. Worry leads to death, and death leads to namelessness. You can still die if you die. The person you fear most is dead and fallen, and you can't extricate yourself. Fearless! " Xu Zhimo wrote back and said: "I am willing to take the world by storm and try my best to fight. I don't want to escape the pain of fierce suffering, but I really want to settle my conscience, establish my personality and save my soul. "Who doesn't seek virtue? Who's upset Who is not afraid of danger? However, if there is a breakthrough, can the husband have it? ..... I will visit my only soul mate in the vast sea of people; I am lucky to get it; No, my life, that's it. ..... My husband, my teacher: I tasted the essence of my soul, condensed it into an ideal pearl, and filled it with painstaking efforts to shine on my deep spiritual home. The vulgar taboo jealousy needs to numb its soul, smash its ideal, kill its hope and defile its purity! I don't flow in depravity, cowardice, meanness, and I'm a little too young! "
Later generations extended it to two sentences: "Fortunately, I lost my life." It is said that there are two popular versions. The first version: "I was lucky to get it, but I lost my life, that's all." Version 2: "Fortunately, I lost my life. I am calm and calm. "