Make friends, three times, three times.
It is beneficial to associate with honest and well-informed people.
It is harmful to make friends with crooked, flattering and sweet-talking people.
After reading A Dream of Red Mansions, I know that in this life, people must choose true and kind people to make friends and choose true gentlemen to live in.
If you can, please stay away from these three kinds of people, let happiness come uninvited and life become smoother and smoother!
Don't make friends with people who are full of honey swords.
If she is glib, Wang Xifeng is the best in the Jia family, but she is also the most ruthless among women.
In the words of Xinger: "Sweet mouth is painstaking, two sides are three knives; He smiled and stumbled; Ming is a pot of fire and darkness is a knife. "
Her lip service is well proved by Jia Rui and Second Sister You.
The ancients said, "It is better to offend a gentleman than a villain".
But it is not good for Jia Rui to offend anyone, but he has offended Wang Xifeng.
Speaking of Gary, his parents died, and he was raised by his grandfather Jia Dairu.
Grandpa has high expectations for Gary, hoping that he will become a talent and take on a big responsibility as soon as possible.
Originally, Jia Rui wanted to help grandpa in the voluntary school run by Jia Fu, but after seeing Wang Xifeng in Ningguo Fu, his life tragedy began to be staged.
When Jia Rui met Wang Xifeng for the first time, although it was a simple greeting, he was respectful. However, feng's eyes have been watching.
With Wang Xifeng's cleverness, how could he not guess Jia Rui's mind?
Laughing and laughing, I say "I care" about Gary, but I secretly think that he will die in his own hands sooner or later.
Although Wang Xifeng is acting, he doesn't have much contact with the opposite sex, and Jia Rui, who is fascinated by the beautiful Wang Xifeng, has long been possessed by ghosts.
In the cold winter, she let Jia Ruilian freeze for two nights, and even let Jia Rong and Jia Qiang punish and coerce him, so that people spilled feces all over him. Since then, he has been very ill.
When Jia Rui was seriously ill and needed ginseng for help, when his grandfather went to Guo Rongfu for help, Mrs. Wang asked Wang Xifeng to give Jia Dairu two taels of silver, but the indifferent Wang Xifeng shirked it.
Finally, in desperation, Wang Xifeng only made a little slag and said it was gone.
When Qin Keqing was seriously ill and needed ginseng, Wang Xifeng said that there were two A Jin days, which showed that Wang Xifeng did not want to save Jia Rui.
Wang Xifeng could have politely refused Gary's admiration, but she coaxed him with sweet words, stabbed him in the back and finally killed him. Such cruel means are really chilling.
People who are full of swords and shadows are used to the world, screw things up and look wronged.
When Wang Xifeng learned that Jia Lian had taken Second Sister You as his concubine, she tried her best to flatter her and tricked Second Sister You into Guo Rongfu for her own. At the same time, he made a scene in Ningguo Mansion, scolded Jia Zhen, Jia Rong, his son and You Shi, and knelt down for mercy.
You Erjie, who is weak and kind, can't be Wang Xifeng's opponent. Wang Xifeng is sweet in front of her second sister, but she lets her servants do bad things.
How can the gentle and kind second sister You stand such a "soft knife"? After the baby miscarried in the womb, she swallowed gold in despair and died.
Because of their own self-interest, harm others and harm themselves. How can such people be friends?
As the saying goes, "it's easy to hide when you shoot, but difficult to prevent when you shoot an arrow."
I'm not afraid that you are a real villain, but I'm afraid that you are a hypocrite.
Lenin also said: "When a person's words and deeds are inconsistent, it is completely bad and will lead to hypocrisy."
If the heart is evil, no amount of sweet words can hide the ugly nature.
The best way to treat people who keep their mouths shut is to stay away from them.
Don't pay people who are ungrateful.
As the saying goes: "The grace of the dinner is unforgettable."
Let alone meet his grace?
Peter said that when I went to Beijing to catch the exam, I lived in Hulu Temple next door to Zhen's family. Zhen is a kind person, and he is more grateful to him.
Zhen knew the difficulty, not only invited him to his home often, but also gave him five hundred and twenty pieces of silver when he went to Beijing to take the exam.
However, after becoming an official, when he met the benefactor's daughter Zhen, he not only failed to save the benefactor's daughter, but also took this opportunity to please him.
Because of his own interests, he pushed the benefactor's daughter into the pit of fire, thereby promoting to a higher position and making a fortune.
When I arrived, I worshipped Lin Daiyu as my teacher and married Jia.
When he arrived at Jiafu, Jia Zheng thought highly of him and immediately arranged a good job for him.
However, after getting the help of Jia family, he bite the hand that feeds him.
When Jia Fu was weak, he wanted to take refuge in the loyal king. What's more, he regarded Jia Fu as his warlord and a stepping stone to his promotion.
As a result, he showed his true colors soon after taking office and was dismissed by officials.
Jia Yucun, who was ill-intentioned and incorrigible, came to a tragic end.
As the saying goes, morality is not right and it is difficult to match its position; You can't be a gentleman if you are unclean.
When you meet someone who doesn't know how to be grateful, you won't get friendship, but you will be used, and finally you will hurt yourself.
You must stay away from those ungrateful little people who bite themselves.
We all know the story of Zhongshan Wolf:
During the Spring and Autumn Period, Zhao Jianzi, a doctor from the State of Jin, hunted in Zhongshan. Chase after wolves desperately.
The wolf met Mr. Dong Guo on the way to escape and said to him:
"Sir, I can borrow your pocket and let me linger for a while to avoid this disaster. I will repay your kindness. "
Mr. Dong Guo helped the wolf. Later, the wolf jumped out of the bag safely, but returned to Mr. Dong Guo.
In the eyes of ungrateful people, more is often their own interests. When you are useless, he will kill you and drain your last value.
Ungrateful people are the most deadly.
What is hateful is that he accepted your kindness, but he still wants to destroy it.
You help out of kindness, but he uses your kindness to achieve his unknown purpose.
Hugo said: "mean people are always ungrateful, and ingratitude is the despicable part."
How can a mean ungrateful person be a friend?
For those who don't know how to be grateful, learn to put away goodwill, stay away as far as possible, and don't talk about friendship.
Don't make friends with people with bad intentions.
When people get along with each other, it is inevitable that they will meet some people with ulterior motives, who will hurt and kill people for their own interests.
Guiguzi once said, "A gentleman abides by the law, and a villain takes advantage of it." .
Gentleman's conduct is steady, while villain's ulterior motives are selfish.
Sun Bin and Pang Juan are disciples of Guiguzi, but their personalities and qualities are far apart.
On the occasion of their success, Guiguzi inspected them. I found that Pang Juan had ulterior motives, was extremely utilitarian and selfish, and was very jealous of Sun Bin.
Guiguzi was afraid that two people would go down the mountain at the same time, and when they reached a place, Pang Juan had to hold Sun Bin. For this reason, Pang Juanxian went down the mountain, and after a while, Sun Bin went down the mountain again.
It's not that enemies don't get together It happens that both of them have worked for Wang Wei successively.
Sure enough, as Mr. Guigu expected, Pang Juan was afraid that Sun Bin would surpass himself and be reused, so he ignored the friendship of his classmates and designed a frame-up, so that Sun Bin was cut off, tattooed on his face and imprisoned in a stone room.
Pang Juan thought that Sun Bin's talent would not be known to the world.
However, when the envoys of Qi heard about Sun Bin's talent, they secretly saved him from death and brought him back to Qi.
Later, Sun Bin not only defeated Pang Juan in the battle of encircling Wei to save Zhao, but also made Pang Juan commit suicide in shame in the battle of encircling Wei to save Korea.
Pang Juan's failure is actually a failure with ulterior motives. If he had cooperated with Sun Bin and Qi Xin and treated Sun Bin as a human being, coupled with his classmates' love, he would not have ended in such a tragedy.
As the saying goes, "Be lenient with others and be strict with yourself".
Don't offend people with ulterior motives, but be sure to guard against people with ulterior motives.
Zeng Guofan also said: "If everything goes well, this villain is also anxious to stay away."
People who speak according to their own wishes must be against their will and must be villains. It is best to stay away from them as soon as possible.
Speaking of villains in a dream of red mansions, the door is actually one.
I used to be Zhen's neighbor, and the "Xiao" in the Hulu Temple next door used to hold her to play games when she was a child.
However, when he saw the abducted Zhen again, he not only did not lend a helping hand, but instigated him to push him to the abyss.
Although Jia Yucun is not a lover, the verdict of this case is due to the mischief of these unscrupulous elements.
Finally, Jia Yucun found a way to send him away because he knew too many secrets.
Perhaps when I received the notice, the sad little door had realized something, but everything was irreparable. ...
It can be seen that the wicked have their own wicked grinding.
People with malicious intentions not only lead a gloomy life, but also affect others' cognitive views.
Therefore, we should correct our thinking, stay away from people with ulterior motives and prevent our lives from being affected, so as to better protect ourselves.
When you meet someone with ulterior motives, you must stay away as soon as possible!
"A gentleman is as light as water, and the older he is, the more true he is. The population is as small as honey, and it is like hatred in a blink of an eye. "
Being friends with a gentleman is as light as stopping water, but more true with time. Making friends with villains, although sweet words are spoken, can instantly turn enemies into friends.
Friends are our traveling companions through thick and thin, and they are the boarders and reliable reliance of our souls.
So we must choose good companions and make good friends.
However, there is also a way to make friends. There is a saying in "Hu Jiaxun": "Light before thick, sparse before dense, far before close, the way to make friends."
To make friends, you must first know people and then have a heart-to-heart relationship.
Take a trip in a hurry. May you meet such a friend in your life:
There is no high official fame and fortune, but there is a broad mind;
Do not know how to flatter, but know how to be grateful;
Can't say sweet words, but always be honest with each other.
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