In modern society, while the Internet allows us to swim in massive amounts of information, it deprives us of the time and energy for deep thinking. This is an era where attention is used to challenge thinking. Novelty, exaggeration, Internet celebrity, clickbait, and striving for position at all costs. Although these labels are not worthy of praise or promotion, more and more people are flocking to them. Challenging public values ??with actions. There are still only a few people who are brave enough to be themselves and express different opinions. But "Niu Pi Mingming", a well-known public account with millions of fans, said in his first collection of ideological essays "A clear mind is still a rarity in this era": In fact, the most difficult thing for people is not to live a stable life, but to live in peace and stability. In the hot life, make your life full of value. I have always believed that in an era when sixpences are everywhere, those who still choose to look up at the moon will sooner or later encounter Easter eggs in the future.
Indeed, a clear mind, rational and independent thinking abilities have become a rarity in this world, and the level of cognitive level gradually widens the distance between people. Based on this understanding, Niubi Mingming makes this book a work full of speculative and cognitive discussions. About loneliness, about struggle, about culture, about the pattern of life, about the temperature of the soul... He uses ordinary human stories to tell softness and warmth, full of integrity and character, shining with the light of knowledge; let us re-examine ourselves. Understand the world, sort out the rhythm of your life, and continue to move forward alone.
Niu Pi Mingming, poet, freelance writer, founder of the public account "Niu Pi Mingming" with millions of fans. The articles are famous for their cultural, philosophical, and inspirational stories about ancient and modern figures. The writing style is sophisticated and refined, and they are loved by many readers. Founded Niu Pi Mingming Reading Club. "Looking for the Glimmer in the Cracks" has been published.
After reading the book "A clear mind is still a rarity in this era", Liang Xiaosheng said: "This book moved me and aroused my respect. For me, the truth summarized in the title no longer needs inspiration from others; But I know very little about the people and events recorded under the title, so I enjoyed reading it. This book reminds me of Yu Shicun's "The Uncensored Way", which is closer to reality and more relevant to the current situation, so I am respectful of it."
On the occasion of the publication of the new book, Niu Piming clearly accepted a group interview from the media. He said: Only with a clear mind can life continue to improve.
A Life is a process of fighting against oneself again and again
Shanxi Evening News: "A clear mind is still a rare commodity in this era" strives to provide enlightenment and guidance at the cognitive level , so for young people, in this era of information explosion, how can they obtain the knowledge closest to reality?
Niubi Mingming: There are only a few people who are sober in every generation, at least this is the case for most people in most eras. It's the same with young people now, but now it looks more colorful and richer. Every generation must clearly understand its position in its own era. First of all, only by being awake yourself can you achieve the awakening of the times. Otherwise, read a good book. Establish a view of history and humanity, see more of the outside world, and learn more about common sense. If a person has clear thinking, can maintain cognition, and continuously improves, and if there are no serious illnesses or disasters in life, I think one can still live a good life and live a self-sufficient life.
Shanxi Evening News: You said in the preface that this book records your tearing and fighting with yourself in the past few years. Why do you say that?
Niu Pi Mingming: Life is a process of fighting against oneself again and again. Hemingway also fought with himself when he was writing, and the old man also fought with the big shark again and again. Life needs to be reshaped, and so does the human heart. You will be at war with yourself over and over again, over and over again. You will find that your thinking in the past few years may have been shallow, but later you will ruthlessly overthrow yourself, find a new self, and then overthrow and knock yourself to the ground. This process is very painful. I think life is a painful process. I accept this and no longer long for nihilistic happiness.
Shanxi Evening News: So your articles have a real sense of sting?
Niu Pi Mingming: Yes, I went to Tibet right after graduation and stayed for two years. I personally have a sensitive personality, but I am not sensitive to interpersonal relationships and money. I am only sensitive to social changes and the loss of beautiful things. For example, our current society lacks secular fireworks, but I read in books that it was not like this in the past. Then I walked to the street and discovered how life had become so dry. I would fall into long-term pain and be powerless. Pain is inevitable, your personality is what you are, that is what you are. What can one do? Destiny is so short, so little can be done and written.
Shanxi Evening News: What is your greatest feeling about working in Tibet?
Niu Pi Mingming: I rode a bicycle to almost every place in Tibet, and I can also speak some Tibetan. I walked everywhere by myself for two years. Just like Holden in "The Catcher in the Rye", he is about to leave. Just like Kerouac's "On the Road," it's time to go. I used walking to rebel. The important thing is that I integrated into Tibet. I have many friends. I still keep in touch with some monks to this day. In my impression, Tibet, like other places, is real life.
What is important is a life experience, which represents the life cognition and feelings of that period of time.
Shanxi Evening News: In addition to the sting, I can also feel the courage in your article.
Niu Pi Mingming: I have a serious personality and have many problems. For example, when interacting with friends, I will analyze some friends’ opinions at any time and point out that yours may not be right. So sometimes, people around my friends think that I am too serious. No way, I am really serious about some of the things I think about. I don't like others to put their own opinions on me, otherwise I will subconsciously resist, unless you are particularly smart. I know I have this "bad habit", so I basically don't socialize. There are also scholars who should take responsibility. You are a writer, so you should be worthy of the education of young people studying. If you read a book and then throw it away, it will not become your own character at all.
B Sincerity is the most needed thing in this era
Shanxi Evening News: When did you start writing public accounts?
Niu Pi Mingming: I started writing public accounts in 2017. I used to write poetry, but this is not an era of poetry. When I was 25 years old, I deeply felt the desolation of this kind of scholar. Later, in 2017, I saw a lot of people writing public accounts, and they easily added up to 100,000 yuan. I said that I can also write this text. Then I started writing, and within a few articles I had written more than a million articles, and I have done it seriously now.
Shanxi Evening News: You have written many articles about cultural masters. Which one do you admire the most?
Niu Pi Mingming: There are too many of them, and I like them all. I like to pick people’s advantages when reading. I like Hemingway, Rilke, Pamuk, Kafka, Tan Sitong, and Liang Qichao all. Chen Yinke, Hu Shi, and Lu Xun all have their own merits. It’s hard to say who I like. I regard them as samples of that era. What is important is the state of life they presented at that era.
Shanxi Evening News: Do you have any unique tips or methods for improving your writing skills?
Niubi Mingming: Yes! To read and experience. After ten years of sharpening a sword, writing is inherently difficult. It teaches you a bunch of writing methods, how to write pictures, scenes, and dialogues. Most people can't write because they don't have a life. To experience life, observe your own life, observe the lives of others, and fill it in with skills. I think this is the only way to write, unless you are a genius.
Shanxi Evening News: You formed a reading club with a group of very loyal fans?
Niu Pi Mingming: The book club will tell many people about my favorite books, in my own way. What I talk about is relatively divergent. For example, when I talk about Hemingway, I talk about the artistic characteristics of his works, his life, his era, the World War II he experienced, and finally his death. It talks in depth, but explains it in a simple way. It tells the book from the perspective of a scholar, rather than just talking about it in a superficial way. There are currently 3,000 people participating in the book club. It may be better in the future, so let’s work hard.
Shanxi Evening News: How to work hard? Many young people are "struggles in life" and "anxious in life" at the same time.
Niu Pi Mingming: I like to talk about the climb of life. What’s more important is to know the life state you want at each stage. Once you know it, just keep improving and do a little bit every day for a few years. If you are really still If you can't do it well, don't worry too much. No matter how anxious your life is, you have to put it into practice. Do something every day, and if you do it for a long time, you will naturally get some results. Go do something, do it, do it, be in the thing, and gradually you won’t be anxious anymore. I see artists like Rodin working late into the night every day. Crying about anxiety every day, doing nothing, not trying to change, anxiety is a deserved thing.
Shanxi Evening News: So you have been working hard. The official account now has more than 1 million fans. What do you think your words attract readers?
Niu Pi Mingming: I think it’s because of sincerity. Sincerity is the most needed thing in this era.
Excerpts from "A clear mind is still a rarity in this era"
The so-called high emotional intelligence means being able to speak
Plato said that wise men speak because they Fools have something to say, and fools speak because they want to say it.
In life, every time I hear someone say, "I'm just a straightforward person," I know something is wrong. There will definitely be some "real temperament" that he thinks is right next.
There are always people who like to describe themselves as "a sharp mouth and a soft heart", as if this is a traditional virtue. I was confused, since I have a tofu heart, why do I need to have a sharp mouth?
There are two kinds of people I fear the most in my life: those who are mediocre and think ordinary people are valuable;
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There is such a story about speaking. When Zhu Yuanzhang was a boy, he worked as a cowherd and made poor friends. After he became emperor, a poor friend came to see him. After entering the palace, he said: "Do you remember, Your Majesty? We used to herd cattle for the landlord. One day we stole a handful of green beans and boiled them in an earthen pot. You put them I broke the jar and went to grab beans from the mud to eat, but a blade of grass accidentally got stuck in my throat. I asked you to swallow the green cabbage leaves, which saved you.
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After Zhu Yuanzhang heard this, he said angrily: "Where did this lunatic come from? Drag him out and behead him!" "
The next day, another poor friend came into the palace and reminisced about the past and said, "Does the emperor still remember? Back then, the ministers followed you and rode the green ox to sweep Luzhou Prefecture and broke through the city of Canzhou. Marshal Tang was on the run, but you captured General Dou and Red Boy blocked the throat. Thanks to General Cai, he repulsed Got him. We won that battle resoundingly. "
The thing is still the same, except that this man knows how to speak, and not only tells the truth clearly, but also saves the emperor's face. Zhu Yuanzhang was happy and made this old friend the director of the Imperial Forest Army.
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There is also such a story in my favorite movie "The Pursuit of Happiness". The protagonist is middle-aged, his investment fails, and he is so poor that his wife runs away. Finally, he gets an interview opportunity with a big company. To change his fate.
Unfortunately, he was detained at the police station the night before the interview. The next day, he rushed to the interview wearing dirty clothes. Several interviewers looked at him for being so sloppy. Posture, ask him: "Why should I hire someone who doesn't even have a shirt on? "
He thought for a while and said: Then I guess his pants should be very elegant.
This sentence made the interviewer laugh and admire his wit and appropriateness. He got the job.
Whether in ancient or contemporary society, the most important ability is the ability to speak. So they will get more opportunities and connections than others. , I won.
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Wang Han participated in the program "Let's Talk". The host asked in a funny way: "If He Jiong and your wife Yang Lele fall into the water at the same time, you save them first. who? "
Being a friend on one side and a wife on the other, it is awkward to choose no matter what. Faced with such a prank, Wang Han said: "What I want to tell everyone is that if He Jiong and Yang Lele fall into the water at the same time, I will still Before entering the water, He Jiong rescued Yang Lele. ”
Speaking is not an easy task. If you talk every day, you may not be able to speak well. Many people have been talking all their lives and have never said more than a few words. It is not difficult to open your mouth to speak. The difficulty lies in not speaking. Against the premise of expressing one's will, the words are sincere and friendly, so as not to embarrass others.
"Zengguang Xianwen" says, "A good word will warm you in three months, but a bad word will hurt you in six months." Say, a word of tolerance and understanding can give people great comfort and encouragement, and make people feel warm even in the cold winter. But a hurtful word can make people feel cold even in the hot summer of June.
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In the entertainment industry, Cai Kangyong is recognized as being able to speak and have high emotional intelligence.
In 2002, Jackie Chan went to Taiwan to promote and participate in Cai Kangyong's program, thinking that he would ask those clichéd things. Cai Kangyong's first question was: "Is it tiring to make a movie?"
Jackie Chan suddenly burst into tears and choked up and said: "I'm tired, really tired." "
Jackie Chan has encountered so many interviews, and everyone is paying attention to his glory. Only Cai Kangyong will care about his fatigue.
Cai Kangyong said that the so-called way of speaking is to Keep the other person in mind. Know how to look into the other person's eyes, know how to affirm and consider others.
In life, meeting someone who can't speak is like eating a fish card. They always like to say things that hit you in the heart and embarrass you to death, and they think they are humorous and straightforward. They are a social disaster in any social situation.
People who speak with others in mind will gain more strength and be closer to happiness.
Being able to speak does not mean that you have no principles, but that you are gentle and gentle at first. Jade, listen carefully and have sharp edges. Maintain self-restraint and grace, stay calm when you are proud, and be able to restrain your anger when you are frustrated.
Many people think that what you say will reveal what kind of person you are. . In fact, what kind of words you say determines what kind of person you are.
It’s easy to hurt others, just one word is enough, but it takes a long time, even a lifetime, to warm someone up.
Being ourselves does not mean opposing others in terms of language or deliberately seeking to be unique. Through the art of speaking, we do not bother others with our emotions, do not kidnap others, and let others get along with us and feel comfortable. Spring breeze, feel comfortable. This is truly being yourself.
(Editor: Ma Yunmei)