Losing is a kind of pain and happiness, because losing is also a gain.
Without the sun, you can enjoy the stars all over the sky; Lost green, got rich autumn; Without youth, we have entered a mature life ... Life, we need to enjoy the joy of harvest and the pleasure of "loss".
Hill silverstein described a story in Lost Parts: a garden ring lost a part.
It rotates to find this part. Because of the lack of this ingredient, it rolls slowly, which gives it the opportunity to appreciate flowers along the way, talk to the sun, sing with butterflies, and chat with bugs on the ground ... things that it can't pay attention to and enjoy when it rolls quickly. But when it got the role, because it rolled too fast, it lost all its friends, could not enjoy the flowers calmly, and had no chance to chat, so everything became fleeting. ...
"Flowers bloom and fall", everything has gains and losses.
All men are born equal. When you get beauty, you may lose wisdom proportional to it: when you get happiness, pain may stare at you. Therefore, there are two guests living in people's hearts, pain and happiness. You are too happy to wake up the sleeping pain. When you are in pain, happiness will always come to you.
Tagore said, "If you shed tears when you miss the sun, you will also miss the stars." Tai Weng's seemingly ordinary but in fact profound philosophical sayings have helped us build a bridge-a bridge in which disappointment turns into hope and pain turns into happiness. Let us know that what we get is a kind of happiness, and what we lose is another kind of happiness. Only by knowing what we have can we taste what real happiness is.
Pursuing a better life is the common aspiration of people. But in real life, everyone will gain and lose. Small losses can make big profits; If there are local losses, there can be overall gains. Life is the same.
Lost the green of spring, but got the richness of autumn; The lost youth makes us step into a mature life. Loss is a kind of pain, but it is also a kind of happiness, because loss is also a gain.
Lovelorn, first of all, is a kind of luck, followed by a misfortune. Losing love is necessary for love, because you are so sad, it can be seen that there is still love in your heart; Since there is love in my heart, then the other party must have no love, otherwise why break up? And love is around you, you have not lost love, you have won an enviable point on the journey of life, your life has become rich, and your temperament has become mature.
People often encounter small failures in complacency. Compared with the former, the latter may be insignificant, but people often lament small losses without thinking about what they have gained.
For example, a multi-millionaire is likely to be unhappy because he lost his account of two million yuan; A manager may be heartbroken by the general manager's supercilious look. They care about the little disappointments in front of them, but they don't want to think that they are already very proud people. Because of this, many proud people are not as happy as ordinary people. Even the millionaire committed suicide and the manager resigned. Finally, these proud people, because of their reluctance, finally became real losers.
There are no absolute things in life. At some point, what is lost is also gained, and what is gained is far more than what is lost. Milton, the great English poet, wrote his most outstanding poems after he lost his sight. Beethoven, a great German musician, wrote his most outstanding music after hearing loss. Paganini, a world-class violinist, is a strange man who uses the strings of suffering to bring his genius to the extreme. They are called the three eccentrics in the history of world literature, but one is blind, one is deaf and the other is dumb! They have made such achievements precisely because they have a normal mind and don't care about gains and losses. Beveridge, a scientist, said, "People's best work is often done in adversity. Mental stress, even physical pain, may become a spiritual stimulant. " In fact, "disability" is not terrible. What is terrible is that you can't face up to reality. Don't bemoan the injustice of fate. Fate is always just. If you lose in this respect, compensate in that respect. When you feel sorry for the loss, there may be another unexpected gain.
There is a story about a young man. When he was still wearing open-backed pants, I don't remember one day, he found a bright spot on the wall in front of the door, shining in the sun. From then on, I missed it so much that I lingered and looked up. Finally one day, the tall young man decided to climb up and have a closer look. For a hundred years, this is a dangerous wall, unattainable. Close the door, close the door. Finally, trembling hands caught it. It turned out to be a broken toothbrush. He is so disappointed and depressed. Things always change like this. Before that, the young man was in a good mood. As soon as I got my toothbrush, I lost my old good mood. This is as the Buddhist scripture says: "If you gain, you lose, and if you gain, you lose."
There is only a thin line between what is distorted in our hearts. We think the harvest is pride. If you think you are lost, you will feel depressed. So Yan Hui lives in a mean alley, and he can be proud of eating and drinking. The king of Qin unified the six countries and annexed the world, but it may also be frustrated. What you have will be lost, and what you lose will be gained; If you get more, you will increase, but you will not feel happy. I'm afraid of losing a little. If you lose a lot, you will lose again and feel no pain. If you get something, you will be very happy. So, pride is not the cause of frustration, and frustration is not the cause of pride?
On a deeper level, the greatest success or failure in our life is beyond our control. The greatest gain in life should be "life". Isn't it the greatest gain that we get life from our parents? Because if we don't have this, we will have nothing in the future, which is its root. The biggest loss in life should be "death" When this moment comes, we will abandon everything we have gained, including our own lives. Isn't this the biggest loss? The biggest gain and loss, we still can't catch it, what's there to care about?
It is recorded in Confucius' Family Story that one day the king of Chu lost his bow while traveling, and the following people wanted to get it back. The king of Chu said, "No, my men found my bow. Anyway, the Chu people got it. Why bother looking for it?" Hearing this, Confucius said with emotion, "It's a pity that the heart of the king of Chu is still not big enough!" "Why don't you say someone dropped the bow and someone picked it up naturally? Why care if it belongs to Chu? "
"People leave the bow, people get the bow" should be the most open-minded view of gain and loss. As far as we are concerned, there are gains and losses; As far as all mankind is concerned, is it not the same? Like clouds coming and going, rain coming and rain going. There are always sunny and rainy places in this world. Just like life and death, death and life, everything in this world always goes on and on. So gain and loss, in the end is nothing, nothing!
People who suffer from loss and gain are always very upset all their lives. They are hesitant about the choice. They originally had some unnecessary and redundant things, but they tried their best to increase them rather than decrease them. Worrying about these things all day is harmful to both body and mind. It's better to be relaxed and happy than to worry about losing it and not know how to let it go, isn't it?
As long as we face up to the gains and losses of life, the moon is still bright even if it is missing; Even with regrets, life is still beautiful.
Understand the gains and losses correctly, and you may lose them if you get them. No matter what you get, you might as well remind yourself from time to time. In this way, if you get it, you will cherish it, and if you lose it, you will not be at a loss.
There is no need to feel sorry for the "loss", because things in the world are impermanent. What we can and should do is to cherish it when we get it.
You can't give up what others have, and you can't get what others don't have. Those who can survive lose more and gain more. As long as you think about it, you will feel relieved.