On "finding fault"

In daily life, I love to find fault, my wife is not gentle enough, and my friends are not loyal enough. All the faults around me and my relatives and friends can't escape my "eyes".

These days, I think it's still my fault to be picky.

This change in understanding is a reflection of the idiom "Ye Gong Long Hao".

Ye Gong Long Hao: This means that you claim to like something, but it is not a real hobby, even fear and disgust. From Han Liuxiang's New Preface and Miscellaneous Matters.

Say I really love to find fault. Once I find fault with myself from another angle, I will be afraid and disgusted. It turns out that Mr. Ye Gong is hidden in my heart!

Judging from the problem of "finding fault", I belong to "Ye Gong loves dragons". When the "real dragon" came, I was afraid-I was afraid to find fault with my favorite.

What am I afraid of? Where is the root of my fear?

Being used to finding fault with people or things around you is actually passing on the opportunity to wake yourself up to the outside world.

No one is perfect, nothing is perfect, and we have lost the opportunity to wake up. We flaunt ourselves with the perfect "dragon" and pursue it, which is very scene and fashionable. It will also easily breed arrogance and pride, will not listen, will not tolerate others, and will find fault with themselves.

The simplest and most careless way to find fault with yourself is to find fault with others.

The hobby of "finding fault" used to be my favorite, and it felt very trendy. Find fault here, find fault there, make things difficult for others, make others uncomfortable, and fall into the "good reputation" of an expert. It feels like Hua Tuo's wrist and enjoys it.

When I find fault with others, I ignore my own mistakes and problems. At the same time, with the continuous improvement of their ability to acquire knowledge, master technology and control resources through hard work, they ignore deterioration and become blind and hidden.

Suddenly I feel that I am standing on the shoulders of the supreme and impeccable saint, overlooking the world and despising everything. And their own problems, hidden, only in the dead of night, will tear off the face, the entanglement of the heart, intentionally or unintentionally passed to the closest people around.

After a long time, another problem sprouted. I feel like everyone around me is a wolf, and I am afraid all day. Facts have proved that Mr. Ye Gong is really not simple. Favorite things will hurt you. The most persistent face hurts you more and is tangled. The entanglement of people in the trap is the entanglement of "truth".

How to get rid of this entanglement, this fear?

My point of view: Only finding fault with yourself is the only way out of "Ye Gong Long Hao". It's not a good thing that the original beautiful things are labeled as defective by themselves, or we can interpret them from another angle:

When everyone is a wolf, I am Mr. Dong Guo;

When everyone is a Buddha, I am Mr. Ye Gong.

The tangled thing is that both wolves and buddhas will change their minds!

In fact, wolves are wolves and buddhas are buddhas. If you know how to find fault with yourself, you can understand that the motivation and essence of the wolf eating Mr. Dong Guo are different among all beings.

Bottom line: It's not about who's right or wrong.

Just like the wild deer on the South African Yuan Ye, if you are too picky about the patterns on your body or the sweetness of weeds, your innate vigilance will be ignored. A casual idea has become a lion's delicacy.

The advantage of finding fault with yourself is that you can awaken your consciousness, be alert to the surrounding environment, be hard on yourself, put aside your hobbies, stay in life, feel the people and things around you, and experience the ubiquitous enlightenment in life.

Finding fault with yourself is also called "looking back".

In fact, this kind of psychological activity does not require skills or ten years' study. This is nothing new. In fact, our ancestors knew better than us in many ways. If you don't agree, look down-

Our ancestors made clear the changes of their bodies and surrounding environment in Huangdi Neijing and Yijing, perceived the changes of the world universe through their own universe, and analyzed them in 64 dimensions, still emitting wisdom. Compendium of Materia Medica also defines the energy that assists people's body and spirit in the world.

Without the help of advanced instruments, in ancient times, when the quantitative and qualitative analysis of nuclear magnetic resonance was far less advanced than that of modern people, our ancestors' understanding of the constant motion trajectory of heart, liver and lung had reached the point of strange meridians and eight veins.

I, on the other hand, stand at a self-righteous height, overlooking the "consciousness" of these ancestors and the ancient wisdom with oriental characteristics created under the guidance of "consciousness".

To put it bluntly, through these years of understanding, it is found that ancient civilizations are worthy of bending over and awe.

Through the above superficial self-testimony, I think it is more in line with me to find questions from myself than to find answers from Bodhisattva and Jesus.

So many people seek immortality and need to solve a knot. On the one hand, we are not Sakyamuni's surname, and we have no blood priority. Secondly, there are many people in the world who are richer, more powerful and more capable than me. It's my turn to take care of me, and it's also a last-minute cramming, which must be achieved. Opportunities are too hard to find.

By concentrating on introspection, with the help of this direction, I can more clearly distinguish and perceive what is the "enlightenment" given by nature as the spirit of heaven and earth? And what is the source of this series of ideological activities, or what is called energy?

Or for wild deer, besides deerskin, patterns and sweets, the smell from the lion also contains dangerous signals. Where does it exist? What do you think of it?

Or, as Mr. Ye Gong struggled, he was scared to death by what he loved and pursued.

Or there are all kinds of cognitive illusions who think everyone is a wolf out of thin air, or mistake Buddha for a wolf!

Those who really have the courage to find fault with themselves are those who are impatient, have suffered enough and have suffered enough.

Introspection, find fault with yourself, and encounter the most difficult problem, that is, buckle the lavatory and rotten jar on yourself. In fact, it is very uncomfortable, uncomfortable, humiliating and embarrassing. Sometimes I feel that life is worse than death, and I have to scratch my heart and lungs more than pain.

If you want to cross this hurdle, you must always warn yourself, keep your eyes open and wake up from deception. This is too important, too important, not to reverse black and white, regardless of the wolf and Buddha, to be eaten, to remember the wrong person.

It's hard for you to do your own thing. It's a matter of stabbing yourself. Sometimes you can stand the pain, but you are afraid of being misunderstood and hold it back-

Put up with blood, but not with stink!

I'm afraid of the stimulation of "a good man is easy to bully and a good horse is easy to ride"-I can't stand it, but I don't recognize it!

In fact, arrogance and face are nothing compared with being eaten. I am afraid that I will become Mr. Dong Guo, cannon fodder and Lord Ye, and I will be scared to death by my own pursuit.

This hurdle has actually passed, but you have to force yourself to pass.

In short, just look back and scare yourself, so you can force yourself. Being hard on yourself is not the goal. The purpose is to improve one's words and deeds by digging deep into one's mistakes and grasp the essence of the transformation and development of things, without being intimidated by more mysterious "dragons" such as geomantic omen, astrology and mysterious whispers.

Ah, so life is so beautiful and simple. Between the original heart and the Tathagata, there must be a fault. Of course, if you find fault with this, you have to find fault with yourself.

It is not unprepared, but the kind of "feeling" that foresees danger, and the practice is in place. So in place, where is it? -No longer identify with good and bad in an isolated, one-sided and static way, just like kindergarten children who follow dialectics from the experience of rubbing their hands and making their own toilets when they grow up. This is called being in place.

-The attitude towards threats is no longer tense. Although it has not been achieved, judging people is the realm of Buddhism. At least one person has high martial arts, good health, resistance to tossing and turning, and has an independent mind, and will not be taken away by the so-called fashion and trends. He has his own concentration and precious immunity, and he has his own critical eyes. This is called in place.

Grassland, do not change its law of the jungle, lions and wolves still love venison.

However, wild deer have been integrated into the grassland, and together with the deer, they learn from each other and resist the harm of natural enemies. In this atmosphere, * * * people have formed the same idea, which makes the ability to detect and judge dangers and the opportunity to find grassland food constantly improve. Everyone promotes each other and is different from each other. Individuals are still individuals, but in this atmosphere, there are more and more individuals.

Even the deer who is the first to discover the danger and lead everyone out of trouble without being eaten will become a trusted leader.

For me, there is still the temptation to become a leader. But compared with entanglement, it is not so entangled, which is more in line with my current mood and more affordable than aiming too high.

Finally, one day, I won't be scared by what I like. Mr. Ye Gong has matured.

Knowing self-examination and introspection, dragons and phoenixes can become auspicious. As for the understanding of geomantic omen and divinatory symbols, they will be vivid and lifelike. The story of Mr. Dong Guo and the wolf, the story is still that story, and the profound meaning of understanding will become very different from the past.

In the same situation, wolves and lions will reflect on the mystery of hunting because they can't eat venison, and look for their own flaws in the process of hunting, which will make the timing and skills of catching prey more fierce and cunning.

Therefore, it is imperative to find faults and problems from yourself, and always on the road, and there is no room for slack and perfunctory things.

The first draft of 2017165438+1October 27th was revised by Laiwu steel on February 9th.