How should parents educate their children correctly and cultivate their positive learning attitude?
Correctly treating learning * * is to let children realize the importance of learning * * and take the initiative to learn * *. This is the premise of learning lessons well. When our parents see their children's head teacher writing comments to their children, especially parents whose children are not good at learning * *, they often see languages such as not listening carefully in class, being fond of small moves, and procrastinating in homework, which all indicate that children's attitude towards learning * * is incorrect. I remember reading an article that there are two kinds of people in the world. A person works at work, rests in rest and finds pleasure in rest. There is another kind of people who find pleasure in their work. He also said not to do what he likes, but to like what he is doing now. So I don't think everyone is born lucky enough to do what they like, but I think liking what we are doing can be cultivated. I think a child must be very unhappy if he takes learning as a burden. But the reality is that children should learn to be happy or unhappy. It is better to let them study happily. Only when children find pleasure in learning can they learn actively, and only when they learn actively can they learn more. In family education, parents should not only make their children realize the importance of learning, but also cultivate their children to learn actively. Careful parents will find:
1. When children are interested in what they have learned, they have high learning motivation. If the child likes it, he will take the initiative to look for relevant books in this field, without being forced by his parents, and he will never tire of reading them, and sometimes even take up rest time for this. Moreover, when a child is interested in what he has learned, he will always study actively and happily, so that he will not feel that learning * * is a heavy burden. The enthusiasm of learning through interest is much stronger than that of learning through will. Therefore, as parents, we should try our best to cultivate children's interest in classroom subjects.
2. With the encouragement of teachers or parents, the motivation to learn * * is obviously improved. Every time I get praise and affirmation from the teacher, even if it is only a little verbal encouragement, the children are very excited, attach great importance to it and ask themselves to keep their grades. Therefore, I suggest that parents should not be stingy when praising their children, because praise is conducive to mobilizing their enthusiasm and cultivating their self-confidence, which is an effective way to inspire their children to forge ahead, especially when they are young. Of course, some children may be full of energy with the encouragement of their parents or others. Without encouragement, they may have no motivation. What shall we do? As children grow older, parents should gradually guide them to correctly understand praise and encouragement. Only in this way can children keep learning motivation in any environment and are not easily influenced by the environment. Therefore, our parents should take the initiative to undertake the main task of guiding and transforming their children to treat encouragement correctly. Because parents have more time and opportunities to get in close contact with their children, we should communicate with them more, be rational and emotional, and let him understand that encouragement and criticism are for his progress and growth through the dribs and drabs of daily life.
3, get good grades, learn * * high energy, when the results are not ideal, it is easy to lose confidence. Especially the only child now, the living conditions are relatively superior, there are few setbacks and unsatisfactory things in life, and there are not many opportunities for frustration education. So when they get good grades in their studies, they can accept success and make persistent efforts. They are ambitious and easily encouraged. However, once a result is not good, the mood will plummet, confidence will be greatly reduced, and even give up. Therefore, our parents should begin to attach importance to their children's frustration education, cultivate their self-adjustment ability, guard against arrogance and rashness, let them contact and understand some typical examples of real adversity growth, and learn from their stubborn gods. Strive to cultivate the tenacity of children's character, and strive to be a child who is not easy to say and lose, and can rise up when the mood is at its lowest point. In the face of setbacks, don't be depressed, but become more depressed and brave. At the same time, in the specific study, pay attention to counseling children to lay a good foundation, no longer value? Regardless of success or failure, I believe in strength, as long as I have a solid foundation and work hard, I will definitely achieve good results in the end.
Parents should strive to be excellent? Tutor?
In my teaching career of more than ten years, what I have heard from my parents most is: Teacher, I will give this child to you, and whatever you do, we will support it! Facing parents? Trust? I often smile bitterly. I really want to say to parents: the most important teacher for children is not me, but parents? You! Parents are the first teachers of the children. This teacher is far more special than the children's future teacher and has a far-reaching influence on the children. Parents should accompany their children through the whole school age and even into the society, and always answer questions for their children. So, can parents be good? Tutor? It will have an immeasurable impact on children's future.
Many parents complained to me: at home, I don't know how to help my children learn. In fact, whether you can help with your homework is not the most important thing. What you need to do is actually simple:
(a) Lead by example
Create a good learning atmosphere for children. Many children have good study habits, which is inseparable from a good learning environment. ? Meng Mu moved three times? Is an example. Of course, today's society is not as simple as moving to a new home casually, and the school buildings in universities and middle schools can't be moved in if they want to live. However, can you completely? Close the door and unify? At home, let children feel a strong learning atmosphere. In this regard, parents should set an example, but not only stay with their children, but also set an example for their children, that is? Read a book. According to the survey, 92% children from families with good reading habits are very curious, and their initiative and consciousness in learning * * are generally high. Among the children who are not used to reading, only 28% have high curiosity, and they are generally not used to learning. It is not difficult to find how important the influence of parents is. Many parents complained that I bought so many books for my child, but he just didn't read them. In fact, when we say this sentence, we must first ask ourselves: Have I read it?
So, be a good one? Tutor? The first rule is. Lead by example. No matter whether this book is good or not, and whether you can really understand it or not, please pick up a book first. Let's set an example for children with our own practical actions and create a good learning atmosphere for children.
(B) tolerance+patience+methods
The last thing parents want to see is a decline in their children's academic performance. ? Idiot? 、? You let me down, didn't you? 、? You broke my heart? These words have almost become the mantra of some parents. You know, learning * * is a gradual process. On the road of learning * *, no one is smooth sailing, and it is normal to have stagnation or even decline. For children, what is most needed at this moment is the understanding and guidance of parents. As a parent, the most important thing to do at this time is to carefully analyze the reasons for children. If there is too much homework and too much pressure recently, let him relieve the heavy pressure, temporarily relax his body and mind, take a break and then rush forward; If the carelessness leads to the fall of Jingzhou, help him sum up the lessons to avoid repeating the same mistakes in the future; If children's grades drop because of playfulness, they should call the police appropriately, or take measures that other children can understand and accept, so that most children can naturally return to the right track.
Some parents will say: Yes, I did it at first, but he refused to change, so I was rude to him. In fact, this time is the real test for parents. When children's learning situation appears repeatedly, many parents often lose patience. In fact, the more this time, the more tolerant parents should be and prepare for the recurrence of their children's situation, even many times. Of course, tolerance does not mean accommodation and connivance. At this time, parents can alert their children and make them realize that you have been paying attention to him and waiting for him to correct his mistakes. When appropriate, you can communicate with the teacher, get help from the teacher, understand the child's performance in school, grasp the child's situation more comprehensively, and formulate more effective measures. With the efforts of parents and the cooperation of teachers, I believe there will be good results.
What is the second rule of being a good tutor? Tolerance+patience+method. Stop blaming and put down your fist. Maybe you and your children will feel suddenly enlightened!
Here, I also suggest that my parents and friends do four words every day: What is the first word? Ask? . Every day after the children come home from school, parents are almost off work. At this time, you can use your free time to ask your children. What did you learn today? Can you tell your mother about your performance in class? Don't look at a few simple words, it will make children feel that their parents care about me, which actually reflects a new concept of the new curriculum. Pay attention to the child's mood, attitude and his interest in learning, so as to find some problems. For example, some parents communicate with the teacher after understanding the situation: my child said that he raised his hand these days and the teacher didn't call me; It is inevitable that our class is large. After you tell the teacher, the teacher will notice this problem, so that your children will feel that their parents and teachers are paying attention to me and will be more interested in learning. What are every two words? Do you see it? . After talking to him every day, you can look at his books and homework to see how he has finished, and you can also check whether your child has done it and how it is doing. Through years of teaching, I found that what parents care about and what parents don't care about are completely different. For example, there is a student in my class, whose mother was not at home in the first half of the semester and came back in the second half. Then the child is obviously better than before, with good handwriting and homework, and always a happy smile on his face. What is the third word? Help? . How to help? Of course, different children have different ways to help: if your child's grades in class are not very good, even the knowledge in books is difficult to learn, then you should be a good collaborator and guide in his study. When I was teaching senior two, I found that some children calculated accurately and quickly, while others calculated slowly and made mistakes easily. At this time, you should teach your child some good methods, such as asking him to help with the calculation with a stick at first. If you don't have a stick, you can ask him to draw on toilet paper. For example, 9+2, you can ask him to draw nine first, then two, and then count them together. If you do more, you will naturally become proficient and have the methods. If your child's grades are good or excellent, then you should help him learn some extracurricular knowledge. What is the fourth word? Play? . Spend more time with your children, especially on weekends, and take them to parks, libraries, supermarkets, picnics, etc. Let children play in both middle school and school. For example, if you go to the park, you can give him 10 yuan to choose how to play. For example, when having a picnic, you need to bring a bowl, two people need a tea bowl, three people need a soup bowl and one person needs a rice bowl.
Third, help children find the right learning methods.
The ancients said that those who practice the law get twice the result with half the effort, and those who do not practice the law get twice the result with half the effort. Every child is a unique individual, so the methods vary from person to person. Parents can communicate with their children through daily observation, sum up the successful experiences of colleagues and children, and find a suitable learning method for their children. Only what suits you is the best way to learn. There are many ways to choose from in learning, such as: preview before class, listen carefully in class, reply to learn new things in time, make learning plans at different stages, and read aloud (suitable for English and other subjects). Parents should urge their children to do it.
Fourth, actively cooperate with teachers to do a good job of children.
The wishes of teachers and parents are the same. Parents want their children to succeed, and teachers want peaches and plums all over the world. Therefore, parents should keep close contact with teachers, cooperate with each other, form a joint force, and maintain the consistency of education. In daily life, teachers know them best. When a child is criticized by a teacher for his own mistakes, parents should first stand on the side of the teacher, never protect the child, and must not indiscriminately accuse and find fault with the teacher. If the teacher does something wrong, parents should talk to the teacher alone and don't show it in front of the children. Otherwise, students will have a rebellious attitude towards teachers, which will easily cultivate children's pride, thus causing teachers to be unable to manage students.
Secondly, parents can't listen to children's one-sided words. They should listen to their teachers' opinions, learn more about their children's situation and tell them their strengths and weaknesses, so that teachers can prescribe the right medicine when educating their students.
In addition, parents should keep abreast of their children's academic achievements in order to grasp their recent learning trends. If parents are too busy to come to school, then make a phone call to check. Because some students may hide their military status from their parents.
How should parents educate their children correctly? First, infancy: the world of pictorial
In the eyes of ordinary people, babies are still in the stage of unknown personnel. Do children in this period have the ability to read and think? Is it necessary to develop reading activities?
The infancy defined by developmental psychology is before 3 years old, which is the occurrence or embryonic stage of children's thinking, and children's thinking basically belongs to the category of intuitive action thinking. Generally speaking, babies before 1 year-old only have the perception of things and basically have no thinking. Children's thinking begins to sprout after 1 year old. 1-2 years old, the baby's movements and language began to develop rapidly, at this time, children's intuitive action generalization ability gradually appeared; 2-3 years old is the stage of language thinking, and parents will find that their children's language ability develops rapidly.
Because the baby's cognition needs to be combined with specific situations and intuitive objects, it is suitable for children in this period to read something similar to pictorial, that is, not too many pictures and texts, and the story is relatively simple. Picture books for children are a good choice. This kind of picture books are mainly pictures, and the text is basically modal particles or short conversations of characters. The baby guesses the story completely through the picture, which is short in length and simple in plot. For example, Yoko Sasaki's Baby Bear series, Hug Hug, Mifei series, ants and watermelons, little blue and yellow, etc. In the process of telling stories to children, parents can also make proper use of some specific situations and objects to tell stories to their children. For example, for Xiao Lan and Xiao Huang, you can choose yellow circular paper and blue circular paper to represent Xiao Huang and Xiao Lan respectively, or you can choose a blue cartoon doll and a yellow cartoon toy to represent Xiao Lan and Xiao Huang respectively. While telling a story, demonstrate the movements of Xiao Lan and Huang Xiao, or stack them together to show hugs, or tandem to show running. If you choose two pieces of transparent cellophane, and finally turn it into a little green, the effect will be more obvious! In addition, among our original baby books, Baby Pictorial published by China Children's Publishing House is also very suitable for babies to read.
Second, early childhood: read more picture books and benefit for life.
There are many books on the market at present called? Baby books? There seems to be confusion in people's understanding of baby reading and children's reading. Then, what progress has children's thinking made relative to babies, and can their reading level and direction be completely equal?
Children after the age of 3 begin to enter infancy, and children's thinking is based on the level of thinking in infancy. Under the influence of new living conditions, it gradually developed under the premise of its own language development. The main or basic feature of children's thinking is its concreteness, that is to say, their thinking is mainly based on the concreteness of objects, that is, through the association of concreteness, rather than relying on rational conceptual materials to understand the internal essence and relationship of things. Compared with infancy, children have begun to master speech better, and have begun to transition from situational speech to coherent speech. That is to say, children can say whole sentences, and even four or five-year-old children can make a whole thing clear.
Therefore, children's reading materials can properly involve language, that is, the language of reading materials can be richer and more complicated than that of infancy. But it must embody two characteristics: first, it must have a more vivid language; Second, there must be a concrete image of "physical object" as the pillar of thinking.
There are many children's books now, and many publishing houses are doing them. But now this kind of books has several shortcomings: first, there are too many abstract things, such as telling very abstruse stories, which are permeated with abstract principles and are actually far away from children; Second, there are too many philosophical things, and children can't accept it after all, and they can't understand too much philosophy; Third, there are too few pictures and texts.
Picture books have won more and more children's favor and become the darling of family education and parenting education because of their illustrated ways of telling stories, easy-to-understand language, vivid story images, rich theme content and personalized pictures. Many parents begin to pay attention to children's picture books, and many publishing houses are also committed to introducing excellent foreign picture books, which greatly enriches our reading horizons and thinking concepts and gives us a lot of inspiration.
There are many picture books that can be read at this stage, such as David series, which belongs to the education of behavioral norms; "1 1 kitten" series belonging to children's life education; The runaway rabbit, Guess how much I love you, Angry Soup, I'm so worried, Little Ali's Big School, Grandma Xi who hates nights, etc. Belonging to emotional cultivation; Scientific picture books belonging to cognitive puzzle, such as Korean math picture books, Yasuo Anyo's math picture books, lovely body series, and some science picture books with strong stories, such as Where Pepper Grows, Traveling Around the World to Make Apple Pie, Serena Rushing Forward and Hungry Caterpillar; It belongs to a picture book with strong literariness, great imagination and exaggerated plot, with long hair and wild animals. Do you like it? "Crazy Tuesday", "DreamWorks 7" and so on. There are also some picture-book stories with national characteristics adapted from folk stories, such as Pulling Radish, Sunny Days, Yue Se has an Old Coat, Mother Wolf, Song of Wild Horse, and even the series of wild children and cats in Xiong Liang Peking Opera series with China national cultural style.
Parents can choose classic and excellent picture books according to their children's hobbies and read them with their children. For example, some little boys like books on cars, tools and engineering, and they can choose books such as Virginia. Lee? Burton's small house, out-of-control locomotive, McMaringen and his steam excavator; Some little girls like imaginative fairy tales, so stories like Keko Cather's My Lucky Day and Qiu Qiu Looking for Mom are sure to be loved. Of course, just as children's growth and development should be balanced in nutrition, we can't let children read partial eclipse, and we can't just read some picture books because we like them. It is very important for parents to correctly guide and promote their children's broad reading horizons. Children who like science picture books can also read some fairy tales and poems; Children who are always obsessed with the stories of princes and princesses can also explore the mysteries of nature with picture books.
In addition, parents should not only pay attention to publicity and public opinion evaluation, but also pay attention to publishers and authors when choosing picture books. To understand the author's creative experience and life, especially the children's picture books imported from abroad, we should pay more attention to the translators. The translator's translation level directly determines the gold content of the work in the process of dissemination and interpretation.
Third, there are many skills in reading picture books.
Pay attention to the methods and skills in parent-child reading. For younger children aged 3 to 5, it is not recommended to ask too many questions during the reading process and interrupt the overall reading of the child. Because children in this period pay attention to the overall understanding, in the process of reading, children's thinking is constructed as a whole, and the overall perception of picture book stories is constructed according to pictures, parents' stories, personal life experiences and subjective understanding. For example, without asking too many questions, children will be happy, overjoyed, or repeat interesting and wonderful plots in the book, or feel sad or puzzled, and so on. These are all good overall cognition and reading feedback. It is not recommended that some parents ask their children immediately after reading a story? What is this book about? 、? You see, crocodiles have to go to the dentist if they don't brush their teeth. How terrible! Will you brush your teeth well in the future? Such a problem with obvious tendency and obvious educational significance.
Is the meaning of education intangible? Change? In this process, these lovely, interesting and touching stories have penetrated into every child's young mind. Therefore, parent-child reading is also the art of waiting, although there are many skills.