To ask what is the biggest in the world, my answer is that people are the biggest, and there is no other shore!
But every natural person living in society plays his role in a colorful world!
People come and go, all for the benefit, all for the benefit!
There are countless dreams in everyone's heart, but they are rarely realized, because no matter how many dreams there are in people's hearts, they must be realized through proper channels. If you have crazy ideas and the idea of realizing your dreams illegally and quickly, you will be doomed to be a legal hell of human society!
Therefore, although people's hearts are boundless, the social conventions and laws and regulations of civilized society limit those crazy demons with boundless hearts. Laws and regulations are tangible means to stop people from being boundless!
Everyone has two living spaces-physical space and psychological space. The boundary between space and the outside world is called boundary.
The growth process of a child is the process of gradually establishing physical and psychological boundaries with parents. Psychological boundary is an actual or imaginary boundary that divides two different areas to distinguish oneself from others. As soon as a baby is born, he can't distinguish himself from the outside world and is in a state of integration with the outside world. He is no different from his mother. With the growth of age and the gradual development of cognitive ability, the boundary will become a sign or a fence. Psychological boundary is actually self-cognition and orientation.
Personal world outlook, outlook on life, values, right and wrong, emotion, responsibility and emotional management ability have all been circled by psychologists. China's criminal law takes 18 one-year-old as the boundary. /kloc-adults over 0/8 years old are adults with full capacity for civil conduct, and/kloc-minors under 0/8 years old are minors without full capacity for civil conduct. This provision is actually in line with the psychological boundary discussed today. It has nothing to do with height and weight, but refers to psychological cognitive ability, which is the psychological boundary. Some cases in the society are particularly incredible and even regrettable, but when the parties act, under the comprehensive effect of the "material" circled by psychological boundaries, they give inappropriate hints. Even if they are wrong in the end, the subconscious told him at that time that this is the best self-decision.
Personally, I think psychological boundary is the dividing line between people's value system and cognitive system and the outside world. As long as this thing has a unified "material", it will not be exclusive. When two or more value systems and cognitive systems are highly coincident, under the condition of mutual understanding, the other party may be the lover of the party concerned or a bosom friend. Birds of a feather flock together, and people are divided into groups, which is also very consistent with the concept of psychological boundary. This has nothing to do with blood and kinship.
"You and I are two parallel lines that never intersect" is actually a psychological space, certainly not a physical space, otherwise it is a mental patient's soliloquy.
The above is the narrow boundary, and the broad boundary refers to the research category of psychology.
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At present, the boundary of the heart is considered to be double:
The so-called heart is consciousness, and the boundary of the heart is the boundary of consciousness. Whether it is Buddhism, Taoism, Confucianism, or the research abroad now, it is believed that human consciousness is divided into three layers, which is also supported by the structural anatomy of the brain. Three-layer brain-cerebral cortex, brain intermediate medium and walnut-sized brain stem evolved from primitive reptiles.
The so-called boundary exists between the first layer of subjective consciousness and shallow consciousness or inner consciousness; The second boundary exists between the subconscious and the core id.
When the first boundary is blurred, the representative phenomenon is the content that can control dreams, that is, lucid dreams.
When the second boundary is blurred, some magical things will happen (the brain structure is different from ordinary people at this time), and special situations such as premonition, remote sensing and telepathy will appear. Few people in history have broken through this boundary, but their great names, such as Sakyamuni and Zhuangzi, are considered to have broken through the second boundary.
Boundary is a kind of psychological boundary that can be independent and integrated with others or the environment at a critical moment, which can be called health and safety.
The initial boundary is not clear, but actually comes from the concept of "* * *". Mothers and children are born together, and their emotions and needs are intertwined, so they can't be themselves, so you can look at the corresponding concepts of "good container" and "bad container" in Winnicott's works.
In addition, the problem of boundaries can actually explain many difficulties when you grow up, such as anti-dependence, being unable to refuse people, always learning not to love yourself, always giving, or having a desire for control. Then a foreign psychologist, Henry Claude, has a book "Too Many: How to Establish Your Psychological Borders", which gives a particularly comprehensive explanation of the border issue, and also talks about the performance and application of border conflicts in work, family background, partner, children, friends and yourself.
There is also a book called Psychological Limit written by the psychological counselor in Taiwan Province Province. You can also read it.
Hello, I'm a monk studying psychology. I'm glad to answer your question. You can pay attention if you like.
First, what is psychological boundary?
Everyone has two living spaces-physical space and psychological space. The boundary between this space and the outside world is also called boundary.
Relative to the tangible physical space, each of us also needs an invisible psychological space, surrounded by invisible psychological boundaries.
Second, the significance of psychological boundary
In order to protect this land, you must be responsible for everything that happens on this land!
The boundary of land and the means of protecting land
Walls and fences
What is mine and what is not mine.
What am I responsible for and what am I not responsible for?
Leave the beneficial things in my yard and keep the harmful things outside the fence to protect me from harm.
3. What is within my psychological boundaries?
Skin: the most basic boundary, the main symbol that distinguishes us from others. It is often difficult for people who have suffered violence and sexual assault in childhood to identify and establish psychological boundaries.
Words: "No!" "Don't" restrict others from hurting or abusing themselves. You can't say no to external pressure and internal pressure. You have lost control of your possessions.
Emotion:
Choice is one of our responsibilities. Be responsible for your choice. "What do you think I should do?" How about "no choice", "no choice" and "he/she forced me" These excuses reflect a common illusion-we are not the masters of our own lives, others have control, and we don't have to bear the most basic responsibility for ourselves.
Restriction: it includes two aspects: on the one hand, it restricts others, on the other hand, it restricts itself. Restricting others is actually limiting your contact with people with bad behavior and protecting yourself from harm. Others:
Attitudes, beliefs, behaviors, values, talents, thoughts, desires and love.
It is not easy to take care of, take care of, grasp and protect "property" within our psychological boundaries, while it is often not easy for others to take care of and cherish "property" within their own boundaries. Strong perseverance and enough patience, gentle persistence.
I hope my answer is helpful to you.
Many people have been struggling with the choice of various things, including marriage and career choice. It's painful. They can't break through. I'll give you all the answers you want directly today. As long as you understand this civilization and feel inspired, you don't need to ask questions in the future. At 1, the reason why you ask questions and don't know what to do is because you have no wisdom. If you are wise, you know all these questions and don't have to ask them at all. You will solve them easily. No problem. Not only do I have no questions, but I can answer all other people's questions. There are two kinds of people in this world, 97% and 3%. We used to say that both the poor and the rich failed, leaders and followers. I will share my logical analysis of thinking with you, hoping to get some insight and inspiration through this article.
Open your wisdom in an all-round way
There are two kinds of people in this world, one is 97% and the other is 3%. 97% people are called fools, and 3% people are called wisdom. Fools are ignorant, and cleverness is wisdom. A climb can eliminate a thousand years of darkness, and a wisdom can eliminate a thousand years of ignorance. When the room is dark, light a lamp and instantly light up the whole room. When a person is stupid, he meets a very clever person to wake him up. The reason why you have many questions is because of ignorance. Ignorance doesn't mean scolding everyone. It really shows that there is too little internal growth. A lot of what you learn comes from the external mind, not the internal heart. In fact, we are divided into two parts, one is the brain and the other is the heart. People who use their brains will definitely meet with peace in the end, because there are many restrictions in their heads, and many restrictive thinking comes from their heads. Only those who work hard can have wisdom. Many celebrities and successful people do not make any decisions with their brains, but with their hearts, because their hearts are connected with you (higher self). There are only (self) and (id) in their heads, and I am the (true self) in their hearts. Otherwise, how can I get out of my head and return to my heart? How to make yourself smart is the inner growth.
Release your (id)
We are divided into two worlds, one is material and the other is spirit. You may have read a lot of books in your mind, but you should pay attention to your inner world. When you want to make money every day, the signal you send in the universe is that you have no money, so you want to make money. This is called the first law of attraction, which will only attract more money. You are a lack of life, and 3% people. Because he knows that there will be gains in growth, he is not always concerned about how to make money, but thinking about how you grow and how to grow by leaps and bounds. How can we make this year grow more than last year? I have made progress again. What I really want is to grow up and make money. Money is an object, and the energy of the object is very low. Energy higher than money is a thing. A person who wants to make money every day must have earned it compared with a person who wants to do things every day. Because things are good, you will have money. A person who does things well every day, a person who wants to understand people every day, will certainly make a lot of money, because people understand, money will naturally come, and things will naturally be fine. The small boss is in charge, and the big boss is in charge of people, money, affairs and people. You are in short supply. If you concentrate on doing things well, the money will come naturally. How to do things well must be studied.
Physiologically, the boundary of the heart is the boundary of this organ.
Psychologically, the boundary of the heart is the boundary of the brain's thinking and cognition.
The ancients thought that people thought with their hearts and created words such as scheming, thinking, deep in their hearts, absent-minded, and soul mate, but I felt the harmonious heartbeat of the sacred unicorn.
In fact, anyone who knows a little about science knows that human beings think with their brains, and the so-called psychology should be called brain science in essence.
From this point of view, in psychology, the boundary of the heart has nothing to do with the heart, but with the brain.
So, why is the boundary of heart the boundary of brain cognition? I want to answer a few key points.
1. The definition of psychology
Psychology is a science that studies the psychological phenomenon of intelligent life and its psychological and behavioral activities under its influence, and belongs to the broad philosophical category.
2. Psychological phenomenon and its influence
Psychological phenomena are actually produced by the integration of external information (such as light, sound, smell, touch, etc.). ) and internal information (such as existing experience, values, outlook on life, personality characteristics, etc. ) by the brain. Under the influence of psychological phenomena, different people will show different mental states, produce different psychological changes such as emotions and sorrows, and then lead to different behaviors.
3. Why are there intentional boundaries?
Because the information obtained, processed and stored by the brain is limited, there are always some things that the brain can't touch, and these things are outside the boundaries of the heart. This means that the boundary is real.
4. The boundary of the heart will change dynamically.
When the brain touches and grasps new things, the boundaries of the heart will also change. For example, if a student learns addition and then multiplication, his inner boundary will expand outward. For another example, after hitting a wall, a professional adjusted his principles of doing things through thinking, and his inner boundaries were sublimated.
Everyone's boundaries are unique.
As far as individuals are concerned, the information received by each person, the way of processing and the situation of storage are different. Just as there are no two identical leaves in the world, there is no boundary between two identical hearts in the world. Even the same person has different inner boundaries in different periods, because this boundary will change with the changes of life experience, thinking degree and other factors. In this sense, everyone's boundaries are unique.
In short, from a psychological point of view, the boundary of the heart is actually the boundary between the brain's thinking and cognition. This boundary is unique, and it will dynamically adjust the boundary range with the influence of factors such as brain input, processing and storage.
The boundary of the heart is the boundary of the brain.
The boundaries of the brain are limited by cognition. The more things and things you know, the bigger the boundaries of your brain will be.
The above is my understanding.
Mr. Yangming believes that "mind is reason"
The Buddhist Diamond Sutra holds that "you should have nothing to live in but a heart."
According to psychology, the mind integrates "knowledge, emotion, will and action".