To my colleagues, why should I help you?
To my colleagues, why should I help you? In the workplace, we will definitely encounter times when we need help from our colleagues. If he refuses you , don't be angry, because others have no obligation to help you. Below I share related articles to my colleagues about why I should help you! To my colleagues: Why should I help you 1
Recently, an article "To the bitch: Why should I help you?" "The article went viral on WeChat Moments and Weibo. Every sentence and every example in the article struck a chord with me. I was quite enlightened after reading it. What are the reactions of netizens?
Senior Funny B: Sometimes you really should learn to say no. Especially in today's society, there are some people who rely on their elders and sell them, and who are morally kidnapped. It's not that I don't respect the elderly. First of all, they must have something worthy of my respect. Giving up your seat is a traditional virtue, but it doesn't matter if you are always next to me. No one owes me anything. It doesn't matter if you are really my elder. I don't know who you are. If you can't learn to say no, you will be bullied for the rest of your life, and you deserve to be a coward.
Miss Genius Wang: That makes sense, but I still have to say that birds of a feather flock together, and everyone you meet is a bitch, so you should reflect on yourself. Yes, everyone I have met knows how to be grateful. The old lady who gave up her seat to an old man on the subway made me feel embarrassed because she kept saying thank you. It was just a matter of a few steps to vote for a friend. There were not so many complaints. The situation changed as the mood dictated.
Fox Lingxi Cassie: A grain of rice feeds a benefactor, and a stone feeds an enemy. Don’t give everything you have at every turn. Keep some pride and heartache for yourself, which is the most heartbreaking thing. The summary is that whoever you are is the one who should help you.
Colleague, why should I help you?
In the workplace, we will definitely encounter times when we need help from a colleague. If he rejects you, don’t be angry. After all, you have to know why your colleague wants to help you? What are your own strengths?
It is normal for colleagues not to help you. After all, the interests of both parties are involved. If he helps you, he will suffer. The reason why your colleague helps you is that at least he "likes" you. This kind of liking is certainly not the kind between men and women, but represents a kind of friendship between colleagues. After all, he may also need your help, and you will lend a helping hand to him when the time comes. In the workplace, helping colleagues is the most effective way to maintain interpersonal relationships; it is also a way to make your dreams become part of "others'" dreams.
The secret to getting help from colleagues is: lower your attitude, lift others up, make others happy, and give others hope, only then will your colleagues be willing to help you.
Don’t be embarrassed to reject others. Those who have the nerve to embarrass you are not good people anyway. I help you out of love, but I don't help you out of duty. So, love yourself more! To colleagues, why should I help you 2
If someone asks you if 50 cents is important, I believe many people will have the same reaction as me: not very important.
However, if you give 50 cents to help others, what about the money you pay? Or let me ask more specifically: What if this 50 cents is the money someone else gave you less after asking you to help him buy something? Do you still feel unimportant? < /p>
As soon as the post came out, netizens applauded enthusiastically. Everyone said: Well done!
Because there are too many examples in life of having to repay the favor after helping and not getting any thanks from the other party:
Helping when I was in college A roommate grabbed a ticket, but then she didn’t want it. The refund fee was not mentioned at all. I was responsible for it myself, and I was speechless. I once met a classmate. I helped him pay 37, and then he gave me 35 at night. I asked him what 2 yuan missing? You were so fucking surprised that you asked me: You still want two yuan? I carpooled with my colleagues, and I was the only one who managed to find a car, find someone, and set a time. But when I got to the place of AA, you deducted an extra yuan from me. Okay, I've helped you save money and trouble, but if you still take advantage of me, what kind of friends are you making?
I think, although it is only a matter of one or two yuan. But when the money piles up, it becomes dozens, hundreds or even thousands of dollars. The point is, I have no obligation to help you pay for this.
No one’s money comes from strong winds. Failure to repay the money you owe is a robbery of money.
To the bitch: I have no obligation to pay for you
Writer Zema told a story of her own experience:
The mother of one of her classmates got leukemia. My classmate’s parents have medical insurance and pensions, and their own income is not low, so the upfront cost of treatment is still sufficient.
The students’ first reaction was not to ask their mother for treatment. Instead, they cried about their tragic experience on WeChat and Moments, and went to crowdfunding to ask for donations.
After Zebra was brought into the group, her classmates sent her a private message to donate money. After Zebra replied, "I deeply sympathize, but there is nothing I can do about it," the classmate immediately changed his face and said, "You also have parents, how can you be so cold-blooded."
When my mother is sick, the first thing she thinks of is not to treat her illness, but to use her misery as a selling point to get money from other people’s pockets. If the goal is not achieved, he will label others as "cold-blooded and ruthless". Such behavior makes Xiaowen just want to say "Mom sells the batch".
I often hear this kind of thing:
You are so rich, just forget about this small change;
The relationship between us is not that good. It’s worth the money;
You drove the car anyway, so you can take me home by the way;
Meeting such a self-righteous and greedy person really makes people think more and more. gas. It’s not because I’m stingy, it’s because I’m not obligated to make large or small purchases for you!
I’m surprised that there are always people who take other people’s help for granted.
I heard that you know how to use Photoshop. Please help me make a poster. The color is colorful black. . . It’s very simple for you, right?
I heard that you can play the guitar. Please teach me this piece. You are so good, you can definitely teach me it in 3 days. I heard that you are learning English. Can you help me? It won't be troublesome for you if I translate a document; I heard that you are grabbing a ticket to go home, so help me grab one by the way. It will be a piece of cake for you.
Li Huixin, a 15-year gold medal workplace psychologist, once said: The conflicts between people nowadays mainly come from a group of people who are accustomed to measuring others by the standards of saints and using petty judgments. People must set their own standards.
I can’t, but you can. We are friends, so you have to help me obligingly, and you can’t complain at all, otherwise you have a bad character.
I remember a paragraph:
A devout Christian prays to God every day. And the content of his daily prayer is: God, please bless me to win a lottery jackpot. But he never won the prize.
Finally, when he prayed for the ten thousandth time, God appeared. God was so cruel that he said to him: "You prayed ten thousand times, but you went to buy a lottery ticket!"
In real life, I don't want to do anything. I look forward to others' help every day and think about getting something for nothing. People abound.
I want to ask those people: Do you know how much time and effort it takes to design a poster, teach a piece of music, translate a document, and grab a ticket?
One minute on stage, ten years of hard work off stage. How many years of money, energy, and time are required to accumulate behind this? It’s okay if you don’t respect it, but you still want me to pay you back? , who is the bad character? !
It is my duty to help you, but it is my duty not to help you.
Please don’t regard other people’s affection as your blessing. Don't take others' kindness to you for granted. Knowing how to respect is the most basic moral cultivation of being a human being.
To the bitch: Dogs all know independence and sovereignty
When dogs know how to maintain their own territory, as a person with independent sovereignty, you should never feel like making a fuss out of a molehill.
A friend of mine told me that I was homeless as the Chinese New Year was approaching.
Because her brother got married, her parents sold the house in their hometown and bought a new house for her brother. They moved in together, but they didn't have a bedroom for her.
I said: "You have been working for several years. It would be good to save money to buy a small house in the surrounding area."
But she told me that she has been saving money, and she has never saved anything. Can't live.
For example, she just received a year-end bonus of tens of thousands a while ago, and her parents called: "Your brother has taken a fancy to an Audi, and the down payment is not enough."
Her The year-end bonus took wings and flew away.
I was very angry when I heard this: "You don't even have a house, why do you have to raise money to buy an Audi for your brother?"
But she thought it was reasonable: "That's my brother Yeah, he needs to buy a car when he gets married, how can I not help him?"
I sighed, knowing that there was no need to say anything else. ——She was too brainwashed.
Many people don’t understand why some girls don’t even have the courage to say “no” for the sake of their brothers when they are clearly wronged.
In fact, they have been forced to give up their personal sovereignty since they cried for the first cookie when they were children.
Unable to realize this, she can only become a subordinate of others.
To everyone: I have no obligation to pay for you
Don’t underestimate a few dollars, a few cents, or a biscuit. All infringements on personal sovereignty start with temptation. start.
This is like a piece of news I saw online about campus bullying:
A transfer student enters a new class and is very eager to have a friend.
Coincidentally, a child with good grades in the class came to him and said: "We are a group, let's do duty together from now on."
The transfer student was overjoyed and agreed immediately.
On the day of duty, the top student asked: "Shall we have a competition to see who can sweep the floor faster? The loser will be slapped on the palm."
After saying this, he swept around randomly , declared victory.
The transfer student who could have raised questions, thought of this precious friendship, decided to play along with his friend's little joke, silently took out his palm, and was slapped in the palm.
In this way, the transfer student was willingly bullied, and the bullying continued to escalate until he was stripped of his clothes.
After the incident was exposed, people dug out a set of abuse manuals from the top students’ schoolbags, which detailed how to make the other party accept bullying step by step.
He said: "I just want to try to see if it works."
The result is that it works very well.
A parent also saw this news and felt frightened. He went home and taught his child: "What would you do if it were you?"
The child said: "I will When he asked me to take off my clothes, I said no loudly. "
"That's wrong," the parent said. "You should have said no loudly the first time you were about to be slapped. " < /p>
Remember: Don’t tolerate anyone who makes you feel uncomfortable just because you are embarrassed. Anyway, those who have the nerve to make you uncomfortable are not good people themselves.