Life is the basic feature of human beings, including all living things. Needless to say, love (marriage) and career are the main contents of human life. Most people can only live or pursue these two things for life. Of course, there are also many people who are walking dead and insensitive. Such people are like a poem written by Cang Kejia: they live as if they were dead.
What is love? Two of a kind, are you soul mates? Or simply, the original ecological combination of pure love between men and women? Oh, it's hard to say.
There is a lot of love, which can be traced back to childhood and can be defined as vows of eternal love. However, often before the pain begins, just a certain part "itches", and then they go their separate ways and even make enemies everywhere. Is it the intersection of past love? Did you really love me? Some people say that there is "heart" under the word "love" in traditional Chinese characters, and there is no true (heart) love without the word "love" in simplified Chinese characters. That is to say, modern people are snobbish, and no one has really loved them. Actually, it is not. At any age and class, there are true love, deep love, false love and superficial love.
In Jia Baoyu's eyes, Lin Daiyu is the best lover. Lin's character, temperament and talent are definitely not the same as the secular Xue Baochai. If they combine a beautiful marriage, including Liang Zhu, most love stories handed down from ancient times are sad. Even if love goes through to the end, the ending often makes people cry.
There is a daughter of a senior colonel who eloped to a remote place with a hussars under her father for love, away from the noise and luxury, and lived a life of cooking potatoes with clear water for many years until her old age. In front of her old friends, an old woman with a wrinkled face and an old man with Alzheimer's disease were sitting on the wall, drooling and unable to communicate with each other. The image of the girl as beautiful as flowers and jade and the heroic hussars of that year is gone. There is no denying that they were so in love at that time and still love each other now, but the price paid for this love is too high!
There is also a young girl who falls in love with her big brother next door who is several years older than herself. He loved her in every way, and even injured her in a rescue, causing slight physical disability. She vowed to accompany him for life. But for various reasons, they couldn't be together in the future. After years of unsuccessful search, the girl was forced to get married and start a family, but she never really loved her husband who had a good night's sleep with him, even. Then one day, they really met. The moment they met and the next conversation, she petrified and suddenly felt: I am so sorry for my husband! I want to love my husband and be a good wife all my life.
In reality, do we follow and advocate the supremacy of love around us and ourselves? Do you still believe in true love? I still say, oh, I don't know.
Spring, summer, autumn and winter are four students studying in a university. Spring and summer come from cities. From elementary school to high school, we are classmates, and our homes are close, but our families are a little different. Spring's parents are cadres, while summer comes from workers' families. In the long-term frequent parent-teacher meetings, the two parents also got to know each other and had a good impression. The children grew up, Chun became a handsome boy and Xia a beautiful girl. They have been together for so many years, and they are busy with their studies and the pressure of the later college entrance examination. They have never considered the topic of love. After entering the university, the students all regard love as the preferred compulsory course. Spring and summer are no exception. According to common sense, priority should be given to spring and summer. On some occasions, their parents hinted intentionally or unintentionally, but they ignored it. They even agreed that they could not walk together. They pay attention to autumn and winter in rural areas from different regions.
As we all know, the most popular words about love, marriage and family at present are "the difference between urban and rural areas" and "being suitable for each other". Parents or "experienced people" feel the same way about these sensitive words, but insiders are immersed in the fog of love and marriage and never feel uncomfortable. With the argument of spring and summer, he (she) sees spring in autumn and winter. There is no doubt about the development of things, just as Tuo Weng described: the enjoyment of happiness is similar, but the unfortunate ending is different. The walls of the besieged city collapsed, and they were annoyed and miserable. Those who suffer in the besieged city call for heaven and earth.
Suppose some days meet spring and summer, do you regret not having a "if"? Don't! Because it never started, there is no regret. If I listen to my parents ... Hehe, there are never assumptions in the world.
According to this kind of thinking logic and argument, is it necessary to play by the rules? Of course not. Both men and women, everyone has the desire to climb high, but with some skinny reality, everyone is revising the plump ideal. If you want to break the routine, you must deeply evaluate the advantages and disadvantages of your choice, and the best is right. Many of our friends like to watch the blind date entertainment program "If You Are the One", and the choice of male and female guests in the program is becoming more and more rational. No matter how excellent the other party is, it is best not to choose the one that doesn't match, otherwise you can only face the embarrassment of refusing and holding hands and then breaking up. We can't forget the love between Cinderella and the frog prince. Beauty and beast are artistic images rather than realistic versions.
Thus, a new word appeared in reality: fear of marriage nationality. I think since marriage is so terrible, it is better to be single. Some people walk into the besieged city and quickly highlight the besieged city. This kind of people mainly spread to the white-collar workers in the entertainment circle, and they followed suit. Although these people are carefree, they have added a lot of troubles to their parents and relatives. They reduced the three major contents of life to two, leaving only life and career. Some people will ask: Don't we have no love without marriage and children? No one gives an answer, and people are too lazy to give an answer.
Back to the starting point, what is love? Is love reliable, long-lasting and eternal? Don't lie, let alone lie to yourself. Yes, when people get married and get married, we bury "love", but we grow emotional twigs from the grave of love, and most of these twigs grow into trees, and some even grow into towering trees. Those early lovers who hold hands and grow old together do not rely on the continuation of love, but taste the fruits of family affection or family affection under this big tree and enjoy the happiness of life.
For thousands of years, the word "love" has been like the water of a river. People have discussed and interpreted this endlessly, but no one has given an accurate answer. Another example is clouds in the sky. No matter whether the clouds are overcast or the wind is light, there will always be a blue sky. Our life journey is short and impermanent. We can't underestimate and blaspheme love, nor can we indulge in it. Everything is just fate, that's all.