Two days ago, when the teacher gave us a class meeting, he said that the countdown to the college entrance examination 100 days means that there are still 100 days to take the college entrance examination and 100 days to graduate from high school, and the 100-day swearing-in meeting will be held.
And we, in the remaining 50 days before graduation, have to spend half a day to experience the university and even the last few days of our lives as students.
Many people comment on universities like this: before going to college, they desperately want to enter this place; After coming in, I desperately wanted to escape from this place; But after graduation, I really fled, and I desperately wanted to come in.
This is why many people miss their college days after graduation, and at the same time they are surprised to ask themselves: did I go to college or did college fuck me?
What I want to talk about today is not to let you cherish college life as a college student, nor to let you "obsess" about college life after you leave work. What I want to say is the mentality of most of our graduates.
Near graduation, we parted ways from the spacious eight-lane asphalt road that we once walked together.
Some people walk to the six lanes of the provincial capital city, some people walk to the relatively spacious four lanes, and some people walk to the rugged country roads.
Everyone seems to have a direction, whether it is gentle or rugged, spacious or narrow, all by their own choice.
But are these choices really what we want?
I have been sending messages to some friends around me and asking about their situation. Whenever they reply that I have "found a job in XX" or "admitted to XX institution", I will immediately follow "Is this your favorite job?" .
The response I got was exactly the same as my previous prediction. Most of them replied, "Just find a job. What do you like? "
After reading an issue of Qipa before, Ma Dong said, why should things be raised to the height of virtue?
When Cai Kangyong diss Ma Dong said, have we really fallen to the point where virtue is unattainable?
I also want to use Cai Kangyong's words to tell some people, have we really fallen to the point where we like to be regarded as luxury goods?
Indeed, in such an era when graduates are flying all over the sky, the pressure of our life has gradually evolved into the pressure of survival. When even finding a job is a problem, no one cares about their inner interests.
Even if you really want to go, you will be discouraged by the difficult test ahead and choose a place that is relatively easy to reach.
But have you thought about your life after you arrive?
Similar problems can always be seen in Zhihu. "I don't like my present job. Should I resign? " "How to get up the courage to quit a job you don't like?" "What if you don't like your current job?" .
There is probably only one reason why so many people can say the same thing in unison, and that is, doing a job that they don't like for a long time will really make people miserable and unable to fall in love.
This is why many people go to platforms like Zhihu and Douban to vent their anger and seek psychological comfort from the same group as themselves, which has two advantages.
First, you see more people have the same experience as you, which increases your sense of security.
Second, someone will jump out to comfort you and say, "Dude, this is life. If it is changed, it may not be as good as before. Why must we start from scratch? "
So when you are afraid to face the uncertain life you like, these words cover up your shrinking heart.
What are the consequences of this?
It's a sentence that has aroused many people's voices on the Internet: continuous mixed eating and waiting for death, intermittent complacency.
Occasionally, I made up my mind to pursue what I wanted, but after a calm, I still clung to my island and dared not steer.
This is like a cancer patient who chooses conservative treatment when the success rate is only 50% or even lower.
Then there are all kinds of complications caused by cancer, and the deterioration of physical fitness.
A few months ago, a close schoolmate asked me how to choose a major for the postgraduate entrance examination.
My reply to them is: choose what you like.
Office workers work at least eight hours a day, accounting for one-third of the day. If we do what we like in these eight hours, then the other two-thirds will benefit from our cheerful attitude, thus improving the quality of life.
Haruki Murakami said that things you like can naturally persist, and things you don't like can't last long.
Therefore, there will be many cases of "re-taking postgraduate entrance examinations to their favorite majors after two or three years of work" and "some high-paying workers give up their original jobs and jump to their favorite industries".
Compared with their mistakes, we are much luckier because we are about to enter the society.
Because we have just started the next life course, you can choose what you want without any burden, or you can set a harsh goal with youth as the capital, and then spread your arms and stick to it.
If you are doomed to pay for your mistakes in a few years, why not take the right direction from the beginning?
If you don't know which direction is right.
Then I'll tell you, the direction you like and the direction you want to reach are the right direction.