As the saying goes, "A beautiful wood will be destroyed in the forest wind", if you show your talent and have too strong a sharp edge, you will eventually get a stab in the back and end up in a fiasco. Many stories in history have listed the conditions for us to achieve great things, that is, talent should know how to hide, ability should also have self-restraint and forbearance, so as to wait for the opportunity of success, seize the opportunity, accumulate wealth and make a blockbuster.
thick face and dark heart, smooth push
In life, there are always some things that you want to evade, but how can you successfully evade the thorny problems that you don't want to face? This is a difficult question in itself. If someone borrows something from you and you don't want to lend it to him, if you just say no, it will definitely hurt others' face. Don't say that it is impossible for you to ask someone to do things for you in the future. A professor in Japan once lamented: "Begging people is difficult, but when others beg you and you have to refuse, it is also a headache."
Because everyone has self-esteem and wants to be valued by others, at the same time, we don't want others to be unhappy, so it is difficult to sayno. " So, even if you want to refuse others, it's best to be tactful.
and once you take advantage of others, when others come to get back from you, if you want to get rid of the past, you just need to be tactful. At this time, you have to be black-hearted enough (I just don't give it) and thick-skinned enough (you can't give it to a rogue). In this way, with a smooth and reasonable reason, you can succeed. Liu Bei borrowed Jingzhou because he was black-hearted, thick-skinned and tactful.
when Liu Bei was wandering around and had no place to settle down, he "borrowed" from Sun Quan to make a temporary base in Jingzhou. But he borrowed it but didn't return it. In such a big place, Sun Quan was certainly not generous enough to give it to Liu Bei in vain, so before he turned against Liu Bei to retake Jingzhou by force, he sent people to ask for it several times. Liu Bei didn't want to give it anyway, but how can the people who sent Sun Quan away not turn against him? In these contests of begging and shirking, Liu Bei gave full play to his smooth and cheeky way of doing things.
For the first time, Sun Quan sent Lu Su to ask for Jingzhou. When Liu Bei heard about it, he immediately discussed with Zhuge Liang how to deal with it. No sooner had Lu Su entered Liu Beifu than Liu Bei burst into tears. Lu Su quickly asked what was going on. Liu Bei didn't speak, but cried more sadly.
At this moment, Zhuge Liang came out from behind the screen and explained to Lu Su, "Alas, when my master borrowed Jingzhou, he made a promise to your master that he would return it after he got Xichuan. But after you come back, think about it carefully. Liu Zhang of Yizhou is my master's cousin. If you really send troops to attack his city, I'm afraid outsiders will revile you. But if we don't take a taxi and return Jingzhou to you, where can we settle down? If you don't pay it back, it will lose your face and everyone will look bad. Because of this dilemma, my master doesn't know what to do, so he can only cry. "
after Zhuge Liang finished, Liu Bei was even more heartbroken and beat his chest. When Lu Su saw that Liu Bei was crying with touching feelings, he was also sad and embarrassed for him, so he promised them to push back the return of Jingzhou and went back to Jiangdong alone. This time, Liu Bei and Zhuge Liang jointly directed a crying drama. Not only did they not tear their faces with Soochow, but they also won the sympathy of Lu Su, which was extremely smooth. As for how to make a job after Lu Su returned to Jiangdong, that's his business. Even if he was beheaded, Liu Bei might not shed a tear.
After Liu Bei got surprisingly, Sun Quan certainly remembered what Liu Bei said. This time, he was afraid that the people he sent would be sent back as easily as Liu Bei sent Lu Su, so he imprisoned Zhu Gejin's whole family for a pretence and asked Zhu Gejin to ask for Jingzhou.
Zhu Gejin is Zhuge Liang's elder brother. Although Zhuge Liang knows that this is a game set by Sun Quan and Zhuge Jin, at least on the surface, he can't show indifference to the life of his elder brother's family. When Zhuge Liang heard about it, he quickly asked Liu Bei to discuss countermeasures. The plan is settled, and Zhu Gejin has arrived. On seeing his brother, Zhuge Liang immediately said that he would persuade Liu Bei to return to Jingzhou.
The next day, the two brothers talked to Liu Bei about the situation. Liu Bei pretended to be very angry and said, "Sun Quan is totally threatening me, Liu Bei. How can I be threatened by him?" So he told Zhu Gejin that he would never return it. Zhuge Liang pretended to be sad and cried and begged Liu Bei to save the Zhu Gejin family for his own sake. In the end, Liu Bei pretended to be helpless and said emotionally that it was only half for Zhuge Liang's face. So he wrote a letter and asked Zhu Gejin to take it to Guan Yu who was stationed in Jingzhou at that time. This time, on the surface, Liu Bei gave Zhuge Liang's face, and Zhuge Liang also confessed to his brother. In fact, Liu Bei only kicked the ball to Guan Yu, but didn't really return it to Jingzhou.
Sure enough, as soon as Zhu Gejin arrived in Jingzhou to explain his purpose, he was scolded by Guan Yu and almost killed him. How can he get half of Jingzhou back? Zhu Gejin was so frightened that he hurried back to find Liu Bei, but Liu Bei said awkwardly this time: This second brother is beyond his control. Zhu Gejin also know that it must be don't come back, can only go back to jiangdong.
Liu Bei, with a dark heart and a thick skin, took the place borrowed from others for himself. When others came to ask for it, they cried and refused to pay it back anyway. Let the people who come to "ask for debts" feel sympathy for him, and make the people who ask for debts seem to be unreasonable. This is a smooth evasive means. Of course, there is also a prerequisite for using this method, that is, you must be as thick-skinned as Liu Bei. Otherwise, you'll be embarrassed if others come to ask for the account and haven't spoken yet, and you'll want to give the whole family money, so you can never refuse others.
put down your identity and crawl forward
it is a necessary means for a person to hide his strength and bide his time when he is at a disadvantage. In the case of unclear situation and insufficient power, we must of course converge and keep a low profile. If you encounter obstacles and pressure in the process of moving forward, so that you can't reach your destination with your head held high, what should you do? Of course, I want to put down my identity.
Tang Gaozu Li Yuan is a resilient person. When he needs to lower his status and crawl forward, he will not hesitate to bend down and smile. At the end of the Sui Dynasty, Li Yuan saw that the Sui Dynasty had reached the point where it was riddled with holes and hopeless. He resolutely opposed the Sui Dynasty in Taiyuan. Shortly after starting from Taiyuan, Li Yuan chose Guanzhong as a base for long-term development. Therefore, Li Yuan led the army westward in the name of "going to Chang 'an and supporting the king".
there are three main difficulties and dangers that Li Yuan will face when he wants to travel to the West. First, the acting king of Chang 'an did not believe that Li Yuan would really hold him as emperor, but rebelled in the name of holding him. So the king sent soldiers to resolutely stop it. Second, the wagang army, which was the most powerful force at that time, broke out halfway and became entangled. Third, Wagangjun also attacked Jinyang town with its main force on the one hand, threatening Li Yuan's rear base area. Among these three dangers, Sui Jun's blocking has become a reality, but the number of troops is limited, and judging from various signs, the Sui court has no signs of continuing to send a large number of troops to meet them. However, the latter two dangers are very fatal. Although the Wagang Army led by Shi Mi was a rough crowd, it had developed into the most powerful anti-army in all walks of life at that time, and its number was more than 1 times that of Li Yuan. In the second or third danger, any one of them will make Li Yuan's March into Guanzhong die.
As a last resort, Li Yuan put down his status and hurriedly wrote to Li Mi, the leader of the Wagang Army, giving a detailed account of his start-up and expressing his hope to get along well with the Wagang Army. Soon, the envoy came to Tang Ying with a reply from Shi Biao. After reading the reply, Tang gaozu said "extremely arrogant", but his heart was much more practical. It turned out that Shi Biao was self-reliant and wanted to be the leader of various anti-Sui armies, and he had great ambitions to be lonely. In his letter, he actually persuaded Li Yuan to agree to form an alliance and obey his leadership, and asked him to express his position as soon as possible. At that time, Shi Mi owned the Luokou Pass, and the nearby warehouses were full of grain and silk, which controlled most of Henan. To the east, you can stop or attack Emperor Yangdi in Jiangsu, and to the west, you can easily capture Guanzhong, which has been regarded as the base of Li Yuan's fortune. Therefore, Li Yuan knows that Shi Biao is too arrogant, but he has his arrogant capital. In order to remove the latter two dangers on the way to the west, and at the same time turn enemies into friends, I intercepted the main force of Emperor Yangdi's attempt to recapture Chang 'an in Henan Province with Shi Mi's army. Li Yuan said to his second son, Li Shimin, with a smile: "Shi Mi is arrogant, and it is by no means a letter that can attract me to work. I am anxious to seize Guanzhong now, so what can I do if I give him an ally? " So Li Yuan expressed his complete agreement with Shi Mi's suggestion and tried to flatter him. Shi Biao was supported by Tang gaozu. Nature is excited. Therefore, Shi Biao formed an alliance with Tang gaozu and no longer competed with Tang gaozu for Guanzhong. Since then, Li Yuan has not only avoided the danger of Shi Biao coming to compete for Guanzhong, but also pinned down Sui Jun, who might reinforce Chang 'an in Luoyang City, for the westward advance, thus achieving the goal of "taking advantage of weakness to enter the customs". After entering the customs, Tang gaozu crawled forward, slowly accumulating strength, and Shi Mi fell in love with Tang gaozu's plan and devoted himself to a decisive battle with the main force of the Sui Dynasty. In the following years, Shi Biao wiped out the most elite main force of the Sui Dynasty, and he was seriously weakened. Li Yuan, on the other hand, took advantage of the favorable opportunity to develop rapidly, and took over the rest of Shi Mi with no effort.
Shi Mi used to have 1 times as many troops as Li Yuan, but finally he was easily subdued by Li Yuan. Even if there were fateful factors, the main reason was that Shi Mi was arrogant and self-righteous, so that he fought against Sui Jun independently and exhausted his strength. Tang gaozu, on the other hand, put down his identity, crawled forward, hid behind the light of Shi Biao and accumulated strength, and finally became strong and unified the whole country.
low-key submission, anti-customer-oriented
No matter how successful you are, no matter how famous you are, how high your position is and how rich you are, you should keep a low profile in the face of complicated society. There is a saying: "Low ground makes a sea, low man makes a king." Being a low-key person is not only a realm, a style, but also an idea and a philosophy. Especially when in a weak position, low-key submission is the only way to wait for an opportunity to fight back and strive for initiative. At this time, if you try to be a hero, you can only end up in defeat; If you give in temporarily, create opportunities and take the initiative, you will have the hope of being anti-customer.
during the Wanli period of the Ming dynasty, a county magistrate broke the law and was put into a prison for criminals. This matter has passed for many years and no one has asked, neither closing the case nor letting people go. Yi Zai is getting old, but he still has no children. In order to leave offspring before his death, he asked his family to sell their property and move to the prison. He also bribed the prison officials and secretly let him out of prison to live with concubines, hoping to give birth to a man and a half.
Yi Zai has a nephew who likes gambling and often steals Yi Zai's money to gamble. Because he often loses money and always has money to lose, the local policeman thought he was a habitual thief and seized him to extort a confession by torture. The nephew of Yi Zai couldn't stand the pain of flesh and blood, and soon came clean about Yi Zai. The catchers were surprised when they heard this. They have been catching fast for so long that they have never heard of such a thing. After verification, the gang thought they had someone else's handle. As soon as they got together, they decided to take the opportunity to extort a large sum of money from the city.
One day, the catchers broke into Yi Zai's house, and it happened that Yi Zai and his beloved concubine were alone in the room for dinner. When Yi Zai saw the arresting officer breaking in, he was so scared that he dropped his chopsticks on the ground and stayed there, thinking that he would die if he caught the news, and it would also implicate the family. His beloved concubine is very calm. It turned out that she knew that no matter how secretive it was, it might happen one day. As the saying goes, "If people don't know it, they have to do it themselves", so she has been prepared for it at ordinary times. She looked at the people and found some familiar faces, so she assumed it was a local policeman. She deliberately hesitated again and didn't speak, and the catchers didn't take the initiative to explain what they were here for.
I know in my heart that these people must have come to blackmail me. However, in any case, Yi Zai is here, and once things get too big, it will always be bad for his family. The expedient measure is to stabilize them first, distract them, and wait until the city slaughter has a chance to get out of the body. So she said to them bluntly, "You just want to get more money. I'm in charge of all the money. Just come with me. Keeping it will satisfy you. " The first few catchers thought: We have something on her, so we have to give in. We'll go in with her and get the money. Today, we got all the stolen goods, and no matter what, she can't get away with it. Seeing this woman's beautiful appearance, the arresting officers were already in high spirits, and they all shouted, "Take the money! Go, go with her and be satisfied! "
The crowd shouted, and some of the catchers couldn't wait to leave with concubines in their arms. The first few captors didn't even have room to discuss it, so they exchanged glances, leaving one captor to guard the city slaughter, and motioned for everyone to go into the inner room with concubines. Everyone crowded into the inner room around the concubines, and some of them touched the concubines of the city slaughter while squeezing. Instead of being angry, the concubine of the city slaughter laughed with them. The catchers all thought this woman was dissolute and easy to bully, and they didn't take her to heart at all. Concubines waited for the catchers to enter the inner room before pointing to the top of the bed and saying, "Put the money on it and I'll bring it for you." She asked the arresting officer who was guarding the city slaughter outside to bring a ladder, but the leading arresting officer stopped him and brought the ladder himself. When she climbed the ladder, the catchers took the opportunity to flirt with her, but she still didn't look angry and laughed with them. She soon moved down a big box from above, which was full of copper coins. At the sight of the coins, the arresting officers swarmed, vying for money for fear of losing one. The sound of people fighting for copper coins, the sound of mutual abuse, and the sound of copper coins falling to the ground reached the ears of the catcher who guarded the city slaughter more and more loudly. He was afraid that others would rob him of all his money, and he didn't have his own share. His heart itched and he couldn't care so much. He walked away from the back of the city slaughter and moved to the inner room.
My concubine paid great attention to the man guarding the city slaughter. When she saw him sneaking over, she fought harder with everyone and threw out a lot of copper coins. All the catchers were busy grabbing money, but they didn't notice that the man who was guarding went AWOL and joined in. The city slaughter saw the policeman who was guarding him sneak into the inner room, seized the opportunity and ran away. When the captors had enough money in their arms, they came out and saw that there was no figure in the city slaughter. Knowing that something bad was going to happen, they immediately became afraid and started running away. The concubine hugged one hard and shouted, "Somebody, catch the robber!" " The arresting officer punched and kicked the concubine, but she wouldn't let go. With the help of her neighbors, she finally caught the two arresting officers and sent them to the yamen.
My concubine was beaten black and blue and unkempt. When she went to court, she felt deeply sorry for the suggestion and hated the cruelty of those people. Concubine accused them of being robbers, forcibly robbed her family's property, insulted and molested her, and reported all the robbed silver coins. The two people who were caught had no way to deny it, and they gave up all the names and addresses of their associates in a polite way. The censor had them arrested at once. It didn't take much effort, but all the arresting officers involved in this matter were arrested, and some of them had not even had time to hide their money, so they were searched out. Not convinced, the first few captors immediately sued the city slaughter for escaping from the prison without permission, hoping to excuse or mitigate the crime. The suggestion sent someone to the prison for inspection, and the city slaughter stayed there safely. The officials guarding the prison also insisted that no prisoner escaped.
The arresting officers have a hard time arguing. They know that they have underestimated this concubine today and she has set her up.