? March in spring is another gardening season, and it is also a good time for sowing.
It has been more than a month since school started, but there are still three or two children who refuse to enter the kindergarten, which makes the escorting parents very troubled. Every now and then, a "big show" involving parents and children will be staged at the entrance of the kindergarten.
? Children come to school happily, but once their parents want to leave, they are extremely reluctant. First, the parents persuaded the child with kind words, or coaxed the child in the form of material exchange, but the child still refused to "let go". What follows is loud yelling, threats, and even violence from parents. In the end, tough measures had to be taken, and the child was dragged into the classroom, forced into the homeroom teacher, and left in a hurry.
? Such incidents are common in our kindergartens, but the parents' handling methods are surprisingly similar. This seems to have become the only "trick" for parents to deal with such incidents, and it has also become a beautiful scenery in our kindergarten.
? What’s the problem? Is it the child's fault or the parents' incomprehension?
? I think that the existence of such a phenomenon should be an inevitable consequence of family education and the growth of human nature. Parents only know a little about "education" based on experience. They always accommodate their children in life, and they lack research on children. They do not understand whether it is psychological or physiological, and they do not know the rules of children's physical and mental development. Wait, therefore, it is not surprising that such a simple and crude education method appears.
? Good education includes innate factors, as well as the influence of family and environment on children. What is more important is to follow the rules of children's growth and provide scientific education. Children's curiosity towards new things, their adaptation to unfamiliar environments, and their desire for safety awareness are directly related to the family and environmental factors that children have received since childhood.
? In such an information age, learning is everywhere, and it also provides parents with unlimited possibilities for home education. They listened to lectures by parenting experts and shared parenting experiences from famous experts. They listened to a lot and learned a lot. Combining their own knowledge and experience, they thought they would be able to handle their children's education issues with ease. As everyone knows, when we are in specific real-life scenes, we are so at a loss. I will always be unable to control my emotions, forget all about those so-called good wishes of being calm and waiting patiently, and give my children a simple and crude education.
? Maybe, as parents, we don’t understand our children at all, and we don’t understand what our children’s real needs are? Therefore, it is impossible to consider their inner needs from the perspective of children, find a point that they are willing to accept, and satisfy their simple needs.
Kimberly, an American child education expert, suggests that parents should maintain the closest contact with their children and let their children know that adults will help them. This is crucial to the child's sense of security.
? Children are well-behaved, obedient, lively and active at home, and live in harmony with their parents. The fundamental reason is that they have a safe environment and a warm home that they can rely on. They are full of expectations and yearning for going to school, but once they leave the care of their parents and reintegrate into a new group, their safety awareness will be reawakened and they will respond positively. Therefore, when we encounter such a situation, we need parents to discover the inner needs hidden behind their children's crying and give them a positive response to help their children establish safe trust in adapting to the new environment, not just It is only focusing on the surface of the crying that bothers the child, forcing the child to accept it.
? Education is slow work and also a kind of delicate work. We need to get close to the children, and even more, we need to get into the inner world of the children. Think what your children think and think what your children do. Only in this way can we truly teach students in accordance with their aptitude.
When the famous special-grade teacher Yu Yongzheng summed up his educational experience, he said with emotion: "After teaching for more than 40 years, I finally taught myself to become a child." In the end, he became a child. , just a childlike innocence. If we always remain curious about children's various behaviors and deeply study their psychological needs, we can not only establish a good parent-child relationship, but also a good teacher-student relationship, and ultimately lead our children to a wider world.
? Children are children, they have safety needs and physiological needs.
In fact, the various discomforts and disobedience they show in life are just a sign of tentative growth. As long as it's safe, warm, and sunny, they'll accept it. On the contrary, they will also shut it out.
? Therefore, every time a child is "forced" to me by violence, I will "interview" with the parents, open a window for them, and sow a heart of love for the child's growth. The seeds of sunshine give children a visible future of healthy growth.