When we are young, we always like to decorate and dress ourselves with care in appearance, so that youth can be integrated into a pleasing beauty and self-confidence can follow in a dazzling beauty.
Flowers bloom for a hundred days, and women's beauty is like flowering, which fades after a short period of splendor. The brilliance of flowers may be revived once a year, but a woman's face can only bloom once in her life.
Many women may be beautiful when they are young, which makes people around them envy, admire or envy, but over time, they banish the precipitation of temperament and become vulgar after many years, which makes people around them sigh, pity or despise.
There are also many women who are beautiful when they are young, but they are not dazzling at all (or they don't make people feel beautiful), but in the changes of years, they are like an unbeaten magnolia in full bloom, fragrant and refreshing, more and more amazing, enviable and pleasing to the eye.
Young people should be full of vigor and beauty, but with the growth of age, women have been unable to gain sustained advantages and self-confidence in appearance. So how to shape their personal charm and make them still beautiful and confident in the years is a state of mind and self-cultivation.
Impetuousness and impulsiveness can be accessories of youth, and women after 30, although we can always think and believe that we are still young, can't help but feel the precipitation of years. We are not old enough to fly freely. We must calm down our inner impetuousness and noise, and begin to turn to another journey of beauty and charm-to be a calm and elegant woman.
"A person's elegant charm comes from inner peace". And calmness comes from personal tolerance, confidence and strength.
Being calm means that you can always smile; Being calm means that you can always let go of many things that make you unhappy; Calm means that no matter what kind of situation and difficulties you face, you can calm down quickly, think about solutions and actively respond to the crisis.
We are emotional creatures, and emotion always precedes reason and brain. The simple word "calm" cannot be easily possessed by repeating it several times. Only people who are really calm will understand that everything is calm only because they have experienced too much uncertainty.
Every day of life is full of countless changes, rain or shine. We can't control our future, but we can pave the way for the future direction and trajectory through our present efforts and attitudes.
The same is true of women's mentality. Choose to be a delicate and shaky flower in the wind or a leisurely and vigorous grass in the wind. When the wind and rain have passed, the residual red in one place certainly makes people pity and lament, while the leisurely green grass is even more admirable and affectionate.
The charm of a woman is often not how glamorous her appearance is, but a feeling of self-confidence and calmness from the heart and from the inside out. Because when a heart is calm, even the eyebrows will show a comfortable clarity.
"It's not that chrysanthemum is preferred among flowers, but that this flower is even more flowerless." (Yuan Zhen's Chrysanthemum)
In spring, a hundred flowers blossom, just like a young woman in her prime with a beautiful face, who blooms her beauty at the best age, for fear that she will not be eye-catching if she misses the flowering period.
When the autumn leaves begin to fall, everything seems to be heading for the season of decline and desolation, but chrysanthemums are proud and unique. It is not like a flower in spring, or gorgeous on the high branches, or endless enchanting, but it has an unforgettable peace and beauty. Autumn, when youth is gone, is the most leisurely and beautiful season for chrysanthemums. I am not afraid of the coming winter, and I am not worried about the withered flowering period.
Let the heart be quiet as a chrysanthemum, and let the emotions in the heart be like water. A woman's heart, after going through the secular world, will always gather too much troubles, pains and resentment, and if these emotions can't be eliminated and cleaned up in time, it will block her heart and make her flow narrow and turbid.
Many times, our troubles and pains only come from expectation and obsession. Because of expectations, but the results can not meet our expectations or can not meet our expectations, so disappointed and tangled; Because of obsession, we can't let go of the past process and accept the existing results willingly. We still cling to the results identified and expected in our hearts and can't let go of our inner unwillingness and imbalance.
All emotions and attitudes are actually options that we can choose. When we fall into the emotional quagmire of worry, worry and pain, we focus on the inner unwilling and unbalanced voice, so no matter how many kind words pass by and how many beautiful scenery appear, we can't find and appreciate them. Only when we stop focusing on these negative emotions and take our hearts away from some distance will we find that there are still many wonderful and beautiful things in our original life that we have ignored.
Warm and confident has always been your own attitude. Lowering a lot of expectations and not focusing on why others don't meet their expectations can bring peace of mind and make it easier to gain a lot of happiness. When a person is happy, he will be more willing to show a kind of self-confidence and give a warmth more subconsciously.
A calm woman is always accompanied by a kind of warmth and self-confidence, such as spring breeze, clear as a clear spring, without doping desire and calculation.
"The lamppost began to know that the flowers were more colorful and there was no trace." Light to the extreme is the most beautiful. The lightness of a woman's heart is the best weapon to solve the wrinkles between her eyebrows.
Quiet as autumn leaves, elegant as cloves. The charm of a woman is lasting, in a calm heart and in the repeated practice of life.
Calm doesn't mean decadent and negative. Don't rashly define calmness as a careless and meaningless attitude towards everything, thinking that caring nothing is tolerance.
True calmness is an internalized elegance. Gorgeous as a glass of white wine is attractive for a while, elegant as tea is attractive for a long time.
"A calm woman is always good at discovering beauty and feeling beauty, so that she can truly enjoy the beauty of life!" The same scenery will have different feelings in the eyes of people with different mentality. People with a peaceful mind can see different beauty from a grass because they focus on their eyes; And those who are impetuous and confused inside, even the most beautiful flowers feel gloomy.
A calm state of mind is actually a positive and optimistic state of mind, a state of mind that does not excessively pursue results, and a state of mind that does not care too much about gains and losses. However, not pursuing too much and not caring too much about gains and losses does not mean that you just muddle along, casually and carelessly. A truly calm person must be a person who carefully grasps the process and is also a tolerant and calm person who is not surprised by humiliation. Such people pay more attention to the beauty and enjoyment of the present, and do their best to let everything go.
"True water has no fragrance, and its taste is light." Life is dull, and our hearts are ordinary. It's just that if you stay in the faint taste for too long, you will always dream of strong taste and gorgeous bloom, and you will not be satisfied with the gentle stream all the way. Being content with being plain is a kind of wisdom and happiness.
With a normal mind, we can have the mentality of appreciating and enjoying the beautiful scenery of the moment. Having a normal heart is not the result of self-abandonment and exile, but the result of letting go after experiencing some unusual things. Many people who have experienced ups and downs in life will know more about the value and true taste of a normal heart.
Want to be a calm and elegant woman, not just by reading a few books and articles, but the result of constant experience, repetition, reflection and precipitation in life.
There are too many things in life that we can't control, and learning to be calm should first be without too much expectation and persistence, so that we can gradually calm down our hearts and then see what is worth our efforts and concentration.
Secondly, we always suffer from the uncertainty of life, which is also an obstacle to our calmness. However, if you worry more, you can make your heart normal and your life simple, and you can be more happy.
In addition, life has never been laissez-faire. What kind of life do you want, you can manage it with what attitude. Many seemingly contradictory philosophies actually complement each other. A calm heart can be positive and happy, and a normal heart can be positive and delicate.
A woman's eyebrows and eyes are the reflection of her temperament; The cultivation of temperament is the projection of mentality; The decision of mentality is your vision and accomplishment. ......