Recognize the important position of speech in our work and daily life;
Recognize the necessity and urgency of speaking skills and improving them.
The ability of language expression is one of the basic qualities necessary for modern talents. In modern society, due to the rapid development of economy, people's communication is more and more frequent, and the importance of language expression ability is becoming more and more important. Good eloquence is increasingly regarded as an essential ability for modern people.
As modern people, we should not only have new ideas and opinions, but also express them well in front of others. We should not only contribute to the society with our own actions, but also infect and convince others with our own language.
As far as occupation is concerned, people from all walks of life in modern society need eloquence: for politicians and diplomats, eloquence and eloquence are basic qualities; Business workers sell goods, attract customers and entrepreneurs manage enterprises, all of which need eloquence. In people's daily communication, eloquent people can make plain topics attractive, while clumsy people will sound dull even if the topic content is no matter how good. Some suggestions are passed by people with good eloquence, but those with poor eloquence can't get them even after many times.
David, former president of the American Medical Association? Dr. Auman once said that we should strive to cultivate the ability to let others enter our thoughts and hearts, and clearly convey our thoughts and ideas to others in front of others, in the crowd and in front of the public. When we make continuous progress in this way, we will find that our true self is shaping an unprecedented image in people's hearts and producing an unprecedented shock.
In a word, language ability is the main way to improve our quality and develop our potential, the priceless treasure to control our lives, transform our lives and pursue our career success, and the only way to success.
Second, the elements of language skills
First of all, the premise of speaking skills should at least be patience, courtesy, sincerity and frankness. Here I want to introduce two movies, Forrest Gump and Spring in Cowboy Class. In these two movies, spoken English has played a great role and caused us some thoughts.
The content of the speech determines how to focus on the theme, how to speak, what problems to pay attention to and where to focus. For example, trade cooperation between companies, asking others for help, job hunting, communication between teachers and students' parents, and persuasion by teachers can correct students' bad tendencies.
Secondly, we should consider some personal factors of the speaker, such as age, gender, occupation, hobbies, taboos, etc., and also consider the influence of external environment, such as light, sitting posture, attitude, expression and movement, speech speed, intonation, momentum, expression (politeness, implicit humor, etc. ). All these are reflected in Liu Yong's book The Charm of Speaking-The Speaking Skills You Must Know.
Third, we should also consider the relationship between speakers, such as the nature of the relationship (teacher-student relationship, father-son relationship, superior-subordinate relationship, colleague relationship, neighbor relationship, friend relationship, close friend relationship, interest relationship, etc. ), intimacy (such as the same friend, but different intimacy, different language when speaking), whether the relationship is equal (there is no absolute equality)
Jack Welch, the chairman of American General Electric Company, suffered from stuttering when he was a child, which cast a shadow over his young mind. He felt deeply inferior, dared not associate with others, and became silent. But his mother patted his little head, and an understatement made him out of the shadows, become confident and unswervingly move towards success. What is this sentence? That is, "son, because you are too smart, your mouth can't keep up with your smart head." What a brilliant sentence! It not only explains why he stutters, but also affirms Jack Welch. Since then, Jack Welch often stutters and is laughed at, but he no longer feels inferior for it, because he firmly believes in his mother's words and that he has a smart head. Soon after, Jack Welch studied hard, obtained a doctorate in chemical engineering from the University of Illinois at the age of 35, and became the youngest chairman and CEO in the history of General Electric Company in the United States at the age of 45.
There are many ways to introduce topics, such as straight to the point, step by step, topic transfer, action introduction and so on. When we cut to the chase, we should also consider some external local factors, such as location, occasion, time, atmosphere, subject's mood and so on.
Let's take a look at the following example:
The father has something to say to his son. Which of the following five opening remarks will get better results:
(1) The father comes in, sits on the sofa, calls his son to the front, the son stands, the father sits, and the father begins to speak.
(2) The father enters the door, sits on the sofa, calls his son to the front, the son sits, the father sits, and the father begins to say.
(3) The son is doing his homework in the study, and the father goes in and stands at the desk. The son sat and the father began to say.
(4) The son is doing his homework in the study, the father goes in, pulls a stool at the desk and sits down, the son sits down, and the father begins to say.
(5) The son was doing his homework in the study, and the father knocked at the door and asked his son if he had finished his homework. Then he carried his son to the bed and faced him sideways. Then my father began to say.
Obviously, the fifth way of speaking is conducive to the equal interaction between father and son, respects the performance of children, makes it easier for children to open their hearts, and has a sincere communication and exchange between father and son.
Also, the finishing work of the topic must be done, from beginning to end! Otherwise, there will be no desire to continue communication after one or two conversations, which is not conducive to the sustainable development strategy.
Three, improve the language quotient should have six abilities.
If you want to improve your language quotient and become a language genius with high language quotient, you should also have the following six abilities.
1. Listening ability
Listening is the basis of speaking. If you want to be able to speak, you must establish good habits of listening, listening and listening, such as listening to news and speeches, so that you can get a lot of rich information. After the information is integrated and refined, it will form a rich source of language wisdom. Cultivate listening ability and lay a solid foundation for cultivating oral ability.
2. The ability to see
Reading more can provide material and demonstration for speaking more. You can watch movies, books, newspapers and TV programs with many language dialogues, and you can also watch various vivid and touching scenes in real life. On the one hand, these ways can cultivate sentiment and enrich cultural life, on the other hand, they can let you learn other people's speaking styles, skills and contents. Especially the dialogues between characters in movies, plays, books and newspapers, which originate from life and are higher than life, can provide you with an example of learning to speak.
3. The ability to recite
Reciting can not only strengthen memory, but also train you to form a good sense of language. I suggest you try to recite more poems, aphorisms, proverbs, etc. , rich in connotation and beautiful in writing. Reciting more will not only nourish and edify your emotions, but also gradually form your own correct and vivid language.
4. Thinking ability
Thinking is the only way to keep your mind organized. In real life, many times we don't say it, but we don't think about it. If you don't understand, you can't say it clearly. Before you say something or introduce a person, I suggest you seriously think about the time, place and process of this incident, and think about the appearance and characteristics of the characters. With more organized thinking, you will make your language more organized.
5. Editing ability
Being able to compile a good theory is a sign of rich imagination and strong creativity. I suggest you develop good writing habits, which will play a positive role in improving your language thinking and speaking ability.
6. Ability to speak
Speaking is the highest expression of language expression ability. Only by talking more can your business ability improve rapidly.
[Example: Middle school students fall in love]
I have a national consultation telephone number about middle school students' heterosexual communication. Read you some paragraphs.
The first telephone record was: "Some students in our class are keen on making friends with the opposite sex, which leads to the emotional instability of the whole class, and I can't always study with peace of mind." Can you tell me what the solution is? "
The second phone record is: "I am very close to a boy, and now the exam is coming." We have agreed not to date for the time being, so we must do well in this exam. " But now I always miss him and I can't learn anything. what do you think? "
The third phone record is: "I made friends with a girl, and her family didn't agree." We are going to abandon school, run away from home and find a way out for ourselves. Do you think so? "
The fourth phone record is: "We can't help having sex. Now my girlfriend is pregnant. I want to help her have an abortion, but I don't want my parents and teachers to know about it. Can you help us? "
The fifth phone record is: "I had sex with a boy in junior high school, and he abandoned me and spoke ill of me everywhere." Now some irresponsible people are always pestering me, and some students look down on me and insult me. I really can't get rid of it. I really want to commit suicide. "
If the budding love is not restrained in middle school, it will affect the physical and mental health of middle school students and even cause more serious consequences. If a classmate tries to pick immature emotional fruits, he will eventually get a bitter fruit.
I hope I can help you in your work and life, but in view of my small number of paragraphs, I have no words here. Please forgive me if I can't reach my hope!