First, the child's nature: from zero to three years old, there is no difference in heart and no dust. It is really like Zhan Ran, its sexual morality is pure, and its heart is like a mirror. Life is preconceived and deeply rooted in people's hearts. Now is the time for children to nourish their nature.
Second, children's education: before the age of thirteen, material desires were slightly smoked, troubles lurked, knowledge was slightly sprouted, sexual morality was still online, memory was still strong, and understanding was weak. It is timely for Tong Mengyun to put forward a correct view.
Third, the ambition of teenagers: after the age of thirteen, knowledge gradually opens up, material desires dye the body, troubles increase, and the heart is impetuous, so the truth fades away, the memory fades away, the nature is obvious, the efficiency is improved, and the understanding becomes stronger. It's time for teenagers to cultivate their hearts.
Four. Adult moral cultivation: If you can take root in studying when you are young, you can be sincere, apply what you have learned and apply what you have learned, so as to lay a solid foundation for your future career and cultivate your own morality. There is no end to virtue and no end to learning, which is suitable for adults to learn self-cultivation at any time.
The first stage: the foundation of children's upbringing and good personality
As we all know, the age from zero to three is the most malleable and relaxed stage in a person's life. It is the golden age of education, but it is a pity that most parents easily miss it. How to draw the most beautiful cases on this pure white paper and build a solid rock foundation for life is an important topic that parents all over the world should care about.
Looking back on a person's life, we all feel that a leopard cannot change his spots. We can say for sure that the most difficult person in life is habit; Once a good habit is formed, it will benefit you for life, and vice versa. Therefore, the first stage of parenting education is particularly important. During this period, children have almost no ability to learn independently, but their pure hearts can fully absorb all the information from the outside world with a high degree of intuition, just like a mirror looking at the scenery, and accept it indiscriminately. At this time, it is an important period that constitutes the basis of their temperament and personality in their lives. At this time, education depends on parents' initiative to give correct guidance. After correctly understanding the characteristics of children's learning, we suggest that parents educate in the most relaxed and simple way. Some methods are summarized for your reference. If you can draw inferences from others and be skilled, it is not difficult to grasp the educational essence of child rearing. For example, when you hold your child in your arms or play with him, you often affirm your child with pleasant mood and gentle praise: you are the most filial child, the kindest child, the most cheerful child, the smartest child, the healthiest child, the most diligent child and the most fond of reading. The list goes on. In addition, parents can often play beautiful Chinese and western classical music to cultivate their children's elegant temperament. Creating a good educational atmosphere and learning environment is an important factor affecting the sound development of children's personality. Therefore, parents hope that their children will have good personality traits (fruit) in the future, and now they should praise and affirm their children (cause) more. If they praise and affirm him happily several times a day, they will deeply impress the child's pure heart and form a lifelong personality trait. The formation of good habits and the establishment of a good personality are all accomplished in the relaxed and pleasant praise and affirmation of parents. Children with good nature will develop more self-confidence and perfection after such praise and affirmation; Children with low temperament need more praise and affirmation from their parents to make up for it, so as to correct or alleviate their bad habits invisibly. This is the secret of preschool education. Wise parents, please don't miss this short three years!
The second stage: the cultivation of sage wisdom.
By the age of four, children have gradually learned the application of language and their learning ability has gradually improved. At this time, it is time to connect the education of children. Cultivating honesty means cultivating their correct thoughts and behaviors. Whether it is psychological research or the growth experience of ordinary people, we all know that children between the ages of four and thirteen still rely on their parents because of their lack of knowledge and weak understanding. How to grasp the particularity of his memory and do a good job in education is the most worthy of deep reflection.
The ancient sages and sages were far-sighted, and invariably chose the Four Books and Five Classics, Lao Zi and Zhuangzi as the main teaching materials, and the beautiful ancient poems recognized in the past dynasties as the auxiliary teaching materials to teach children to read repeatedly and encourage them to recite. In this way, he can give full play to his memory and recite the most valuable classics. When his heart is pure, he often comes into contact with the aboveboard wisdom of sages to subtly influence his temperament. And the classic value will be fragrant and bright with the growth of his life experience, which can help him overcome the adversity in life. Long-term reading and training can cultivate his ability to read ancient Chinese. Then, the wisdom treasure of China culture will be left for him to explore, and he is convinced that it will edify his soul, broaden his mind and correct his conduct. Reading one more book like this will benefit you, and even reading one more sentence will have the effect of one sentence. This lifelong education will plant roots and seedlings in the children's reading stage. Ten years is easy, life is rare, don't waste it. As for how to teach children to read the Bible? The method is simple. As long as parents and teachers are good at using their spare time to guide, encourage or praise their children to read and familiarize themselves repeatedly, they will naturally recite fluently. If parents can take time out to accompany their children to study, it is not only good for themselves, but also the best parent-child activity. According to the experience of the older generation, if you can grasp this decade with the best memory, it is easy to read and recite for 30 minutes every day, and it is very easy to recite twenty or thirty books. You can use the winter and summer vacations to strengthen review.
The third stage: the motivation of teenagers' ideals and ambitions.
/kloc-after the age of 0/3, teenagers' knowledge is gradually broadened, their understanding is also significantly developed, and they are gradually separated from their parents' care. This is the stage of high-spirited learning independence. At this time, we should step into the education of young people's aspirations. Cultivating ambition refers to inspiring their courage to pursue lofty ideals and cultivating macro lofty aspirations.
Confucius said: Nine times out of ten, I am determined to study, which is a model for teenagers in China. It is suggested that teenagers in junior high school and senior high school should choose the following extracurricular reading materials to encourage them to read besides normal school assignments and books on subjects of special interest. (1) Biographies of all kinds of great men at all times and all over the world. (2) the classic story of loyalty, filial piety and loyalty, and a deep understanding of cause and effect. (3) All walks of life adhere to their ideals, work hard and keep fighting.
If the above books can be widely contacted, familiar, and able to find the object that they admire most and are willing to imitate, they can best stimulate the lofty aspirations of promising young people. With this positive force, it not only ignited the enthusiasm of young people, but also established firm confidence; Because teenagers are at the stage of conceiving their own future direction, they need to have a sense of identity with the objects to be imitated at this time, thus encouraging them to establish lofty ideals and the courage to persist in their ideals and struggle.
The fourth stage: the real life development of adult moral cultivation
As an adult, when you enter the society to give full play to your expertise and get married, you must strive to stand on your own feet and then help others stand on their feet. In the future, in the process of more frequent contact with people and more complicated personnel, it will be difficult to be comprehensive and satisfactory. Therefore, we need to constantly reflect on our own shortcomings and encourage ourselves. Treat people with sincerity everywhere, always be convenient and altruistic, and cultivate one's morality by accumulating goodness.
If our society is like a big garden, then every newborn baby, like a newly unearthed seedling, needs parents to water the seedling with love and four stages of education. I believe that a big garden with trees, flowers and delicious fruits will naturally appear in front of everyone.