Really good people can see it themselves.
Text/Creative Writing Pete
The most important thing in one's life is self-knowledge. A person who can see himself clearly must be a high-energy person, a living and understanding person.
The so-called insight into oneself means recognizing one's own abilities and boundaries, knowing one's own advantages and disadvantages, knowing one's own way of thinking and behavior, and taking corresponding actions immediately in order to better cope with the world.
1, insight, starting with admitting ignorance.
The hardest thing for a man is to admit his ignorance, because once he admits it, it means he has to show weakness in front of others and put down his face.
However, due to animal physiological instinct, people will not show their vulnerability, fear of being attacked, and at the same time psychologically unwilling to put down their face.
So this has caused most people to be unwilling to admit their ignorance, so they can't gain insight into themselves, and the gap between people has thus widened.
If admitting ignorance is the beginning of self-knowledge, then self-knowledge is the beginning of life change.
There is a segment in Super Speaker that impressed me deeply, that is, the segment of the speech by the talented child star Yang Xinlong.
Yang Xinlong likes speaking since he was a child. When he was nine years old, his speech video was uploaded to the Internet by his father. As a result, he suddenly became angry, and netizens named him "Yan Di".
Later, in the 20 1 1 CCTV Spring Festival Gala, I was invited to be the judge of the geili group and cooperate with other child stars.
From that moment on, his life trajectory changed, and he really experienced a "juvenile fame". But as he said, young adulthood is a double-edged sword. If you don't play well, you will hurt yourself.
Because of the moon-like care of fans and the aura of stars, he also lost himself.
After becoming famous, he went back to school and looked down on other students. He can't get along well with them. He once asked his partner who was waiting for him to play football to wait for him for half an hour in the cold winter. As a result, in the end, all his friends were far away from him, and he had no friends.
Fortunately, he realized his mistake in time. On the stage of Super Speaker, he told about this experience and apologized to his classmates in front of all the audience: "I'm sorry, Yang Xinlong was wrong."
At that moment, all the audience were moved by it. I read the expectation and affirmation from their eyes: a person who dares to admit his mistakes and his ignorance must be a promising person in the future.
After the speech, his tutor Le Jia said to him: Self-insight is a lifelong course. You can tell your growth trajectory in public speech and admit your ignorance in public. It's amazing.
It's hard to know yourself, and it's even harder to know your ignorance, and once you know it, life will start to be different.
After reading the book A Brief History of Mankind recently, the author yuval harari made many very shocking discoveries. Among them, there is one thing I remember deeply. In the book, why are Europeans more able to open the road to industrial civilization under the guidance of scientific spirit than orientals?
A big reason is that the western world is willing to take the lead in admitting its ignorance.
The foundation of modern science is the Latin prefix "ignoramus-", which means "we don't know". During the scientific revolution, there were many gaps in western maps because "we don't know".
On the other hand, the kings of the Eastern Kingdom think they know everything. The author wrote in the book: "The scientific revolution is not a knowledge revolution, but an ignorance revolution. The great discovery that really started the scientific revolution was the discovery that "human beings actually know nothing about the most important issues." "
The real insight is to have a high degree of self-awareness, deep insight into your ignorance and reflection on the problem. Insight begins with admitting your ignorance.
Self-insight determines the height of your life.
The process of people's growth is a process of constantly knowing themselves. The higher the level, the more clearly they can know themselves. The lower the level, the less I know who I really am.
In the Tao Te Ching, it is said that those who know others are wise and those who know themselves are clear. It means that people who can understand others are wise and those who can understand themselves are brilliant.
Simply put, it is self-insight.
Lao Tzu said this because it is not easy for people to gain insight into themselves, and when it comes to insight into their own difficulties, the idiom "invisible" is often used as a metaphor.
Everyone has a pair of eyes, which can observe astronomy, geography and society, but turn a blind eye to the eyelashes on the eyelids, so Du Mu, a poet in the Tang Dynasty, also lamented that "eyelashes grow in front of our eyes".
From this, we can realize that under normal circumstances, we are more likely to find other people's shortcomings and deficiencies, while finding our own shortcomings and deficiencies is as difficult as being "invisible".
Therefore, people should use the word "expensive" to describe the value of self-knowledge. The reason why people are expensive is that self-knowledge is the same.
In fact, the real process of self-understanding is painful, especially for two kinds of people, one is those who are influenced by powerful external forces during their growth, and the other is those with defective personality.
But once someone does, the height of life may begin to change.
Because, first, it helps us know who we are, thus laying the foundation for us to find out what we really want in life; Second, help us realize our own problems and limitations, thus laying the foundation for the cultivation of personality.
Just like building a house. Only when the foundation is laid firmly can a tall building be built.
Heine, a German poet whom I deeply admire, is such a person. His understanding of himself has always been clear.
Heine was born in a Jewish merchant family. His parents wanted him to do business, but he found that he was not interested. He was interested in law, so he entered the university to study law.
Later, he realized that he liked poetry, so he gave up the law decisively and began to write poetry by being loyal to his heart.
After writing the poem, Heine began to travel, get in touch with the society extensively, and wrote prose notes. His writing also mercilessly satirized the backward state of Germany at that time.
Later, when the revolution broke out in July, Heine was immediately encouraged. He left his motherland for Paris. Since then, his poetry creation has reached its peak.
Similar experiences include Lu Xun, Keats, Freud, and many outstanding people in our lives.
Their attitude towards self-knowledge is indomitable. Although they have experienced a painful struggle, this process of struggle is an important process of self-epiphany. After the epiphany, they will usher in a new height of life.
Everyone should learn self-insight.
Speaking of insight, some people may ask, what is insight? What is the difference between insight and insight?
After much consideration, I think this answer is more appropriate.
Insight is to see yourself clearly, insight is to read others;
Epiphany is based on consciousness, and epiphany is based on love;
Epiphany is painful and epiphany is happy.
Recently, I often think, why is it harder to read yourself than to look at others? Everyone acts like a philosopher when trying to convince others, but when he is in trouble, he acts like a fool.
The final conclusion is that the reason is that people never want to really see themselves. Because he is afraid, afraid to see his own darkness and defects, afraid to dissect himself and face reality.
It can be said that most people lack self-insight. Because of this, self-insight is more valuable, but it is also something that everyone must do.
So what do you think of yourself?
First of all, self-insight requires technology. That is to know yourself, your ignorance, your abilities and boundaries, your strengths and weaknesses, and your way of thinking and behavior.
Because many times, people's self-awareness may not be clear, and they will blame others for the problem. In fact, the root of all problems is you.
Second, self-insight requires self-discipline. Pay attention to record your psychology and actions at critical moments at any time. If it was not recorded at that time, it would be difficult to restore the whole picture of the facts only by later memories.
Sometimes the patience of this kind of recording must be goal-driven, that is, from the first day of recording, you know that you will use it to reflect on yourself and guide your actions in the future. You also know that it is not difficult to record a day, but it is difficult to resist the temptation to continue recording.
Third, self-insight requires more courage. Admit and face your weaknesses, defects, gloom, etc bravely. Especially when people who don't know you at all but like you suddenly find that the people they like are actually like this, and they may all run away. At this time, you should be rational and don't lose heart.
Because human nature is that what people like is actually the illusion they imagine, not the fact, which is why stars must be vigilant in their hearts and need to keep their inner distance from fans at all times to establish a sense of mystery, because makeup removal is not beautiful and the truth is not necessarily beautiful.
Self-insight is a lifelong course. When you start to gain insight into yourself, you can step by step to a new height in life. The real gap between people lies in self-insight.