1, don't sulk and ignore people!
Quarrel is normal and emotional. After quarreling, I feel wronged and don't want to talk. But don't be stubborn when you are stubborn.
Boys and girls, no one wants to take the initiative to take the lead every time, everyone has self-esteem.
At the same time, many times the cold war can't solve the problem and you can calm down in a short time, but escalating into a cold war will hurt your feelings.
2. Don't avoid contradictions, and speak out if you are dissatisfied.
If you have any questions, you can speak freely. There are not so many embarrassments and concerns. Well said, the other party will understand, but be careful not to say it in an accusing tone.
Even if the other person does something wrong, you can point out his mistake and analyze it with him. What do you think will make both sides more comfortable?
This is an effective way to solve the problem. Many emotions, in fact, solve the problem, and the emotions are nothing. It is strongly recommended to communicate face to face, at worst, even by telephone, and write a small composition+WeChat communication, but sometimes the problem will be enlarged.
3. Express my thoughts and feelings more and blame your attitude and problems less.
When many people quarrel, they will be involved in a lot of old scores. To put it bluntly, they just want to prove that you are wrong, I am right, you are not good to me, and you just don't love me. What's the point of verifying these? Can you feel comfortable in your heart?
Tell me more about your views on this matter, why you feel unhappy, and don't express how bad he is and how badly he did it.
Give a chestnut:
He was so busy at work on Tanabata that he forgot to buy you a gift, but you prepared a gift for him. You felt very lost. Later, he made up the turn.
4. You don't have to win! It is more important for both sides to untie the knot and find a balance point!
Debate can be based on winning, but how can two people who love each other win when they quarrel?
The quarrel between two people is actually intense communication, and communication is to solve problems. Solve the contradiction, and untie the knot if you feel uncomfortable.
Both sides take a step back and find a balance point that is comfortable for both sides. If you don't push your luck, you will be happy to more than 80% couples.
So what you want to say is:
It's that you are thinking about preparing for Tanabata and want to surprise him, but he doesn't remember it at all. This gap makes you very frustrated. Although you know he is very busy, you still expect a little sense of ceremony for this festival that belongs to couples. You don't ask much. You want a thoughtful gift besides forwarding, because when choosing a gift, you will carefully consider what the other person likes and dislikes.
At the same time, you can also put forward some measures that he can make up for and satisfy you, such as making up a gift, having a good date between two people, or buying something you really want.
Instead of holding these and asking him:
Social platforms are talking about Tanabata, why don't you know? Who wants you transferred? Tanabata doesn't even allow girlfriends.
Prepare gifts, not to mention other days! Don't you love me! What have you been doing for so many days ...
Many times, we will fall into the whirlpool that he doesn't think he loves me enough. Really don't, learn it yourself. He can't love you more through entanglement, resentment and complaint, and he will never meet your requirements, but will only keep internal friction. This is not flattering men, but flexible expression can better solve contradictions.