I woke up when I pressed the home button of my mobile phone a few meters away. I just moved the idea of putting it on the bed, and my ass woke up before I lifted it. I finally fell asleep and woke up after taking a deep breath. When I reached the easy point, I silently counted to three, two, one, and I really woke up. I can clearly know which floor of my house was noisy as soon as I stepped on it. .....
God, I keep nodding across the screen. That is me. I used to be a mother who took a nap. Those who coaxed me into doubting my life and carried me to the dark days are still worried about it. From the first week of birth, the little candy began to have problems such as difficulty in falling asleep, short nap time, waking up on the ground, waking up frequently at night, etc ... Children who are normally confined usually sleep 16- 17 hours a day, while the little candy can stay awake all morning in confinement. At that time, I simply heard the old man say that some children just don't like to sleep naturally, so I thought she was such a child. It was not until later that I was exhausted and grumpy and realized that I would get postpartum depression if I continued like this, so I began to learn all kinds of sleep knowledge. I realized that the baby's sleep habits needed the guidance and cultivation of adults.
Here, I recommend The Complete Book of Baby Sleep, which systematically explains the sleep problems at all stages and gives the solutions. I have probably turned it over three times myself, and I have benefited a lot. Below I will introduce in detail how I bid farewell to "nap residue" and embark on the socialist road.
Three months ago, I fed sugar on demand in the form of intimate parenting. Three months later, I began to consciously fix the feeding time of candy, and at the same time set a day's schedule for my baby according to her sleep time of three months. Of course, every baby has its own characteristics and cannot be completely copied. So, I first spent two weeks recording the schedule of small candy, recording in detail what time I get up every day, what time I breastfeed, how long I breastfeed, what time I defecate, what time I start sleeping for the first time and so on. I find that setting a time to get up in the morning to start a day's work is the most important point of regular work and rest. Based on the characteristics of small candy, I planned her day's work and rest like this:
Get up at seven o'clock in the morning, drink milk and wash, and grandma takes it to the community to bask in the sun and take a walk.
Come back to nurse at 0/0: 00 in the morning, then play, practice turning over and hit the gym.
I slept for the first time at10: 30-11:30 in the morning. This nap is generally about 1 hour, and the sleep is relatively short.
Get up and play around noon 1 1:30.
In the afternoon 13:00, eat milk and play for a while.
Go to bed at 13:30- 15:30 in the afternoon, and you may need to catch up in the middle.
Get up around 15:30 in the afternoon.
In the afternoon 16:00, eat milk and play.
Sleep for about half an hour in the afternoon 17:00.
At night 19:00, take a bath, touch, nurse and do bedtime procedures.
Go to bed at 20:00 at night.
Of course, planning is planning, and there is still a big deviation between ideal and reality, but I still insist on step-by-step guidance, so that little candy knows what to do every time, so that she can live a more orderly and secure life. At the same time, I can better distinguish her needs through this law. I don't want to use milk every time I cry, so that my baby can use milk as a tool to appease. Without milk, it can't be comforted, which makes my mother very painful. If the baby can establish a routine of eating, playing and sleeping, the baby will eat milk after waking up, then fully play and excrete, and then arrange the baby to sleep in other ways almost at the same time, the pain of the mother as a human pacifier can be reduced.
Babies' sleep signals generally have the following types:
1, yawn
2. Rub your face and eyes
3. Bite your hands and things
4. Suddenly lose your temper and scream
5, the eyes have no spirit
After the baby has a regular schedule, mothers can find the baby's unique sleep signal by observing the baby's state and performance half an hour before the fixed sleep time, and arrange sleep in time to avoid missing the window that is easy to fall asleep.
It is very important to let the baby fall asleep at the right time. It is difficult to fall asleep early or late. If the baby refuses to sleep, it may be too tired or not sleepy. If you try to fall asleep for more than 20-30 minutes, you can consider stopping sleeping and waiting for the opportunity. Generally, a new easy-to-sleep window will appear after ten minutes to half an hour.
But as the baby grows up, sometimes the sleep signal will be hidden and difficult to find. At this time, you can make sleep arrangements according to the time and waking interval, instead of waiting for the sleep signal.
The sleep ceremony is to help the baby realize that it is time to sleep with a series of stable, orderly and soothing things. I posted a list of bedtime rituals on the wall, one by one, to let the baby know that it is time to go to bed after finishing this series of things, especially for the arrangement of falling asleep at night.
First of all, I will give candy a bath at 7 o'clock on time. Bathing before going to bed can help your baby relax.
Second, touch the baby. It can help the baby to further relax muscles and help the baby sleep better.
Next, start feeding and burping.
Then, put a sleeping bag on the baby, close the curtains and dim the lights to create a sleeping environment.
Then, I will play some hypnotic music, hold the little candy in my arms and talk to her, telling her that her mother loves her very much and will accompany her to let her sleep peacefully, which is also to build a sense of security for the baby.
Finally, when she is confused, put her down and try to let her fall asleep in bed. Generally, after a set of procedures, small candy can sleep peacefully.
It is a patient process to guide your baby to sleep on his own, so don't rush for success. At the same time, mothers should also lower their expectations and give their babies more opportunities to try. You see, babies are used to sleeping with milk or in their mothers' arms. It is difficult for him to fall asleep when you suddenly put him to sleep. Of course, candy also resisted falling asleep, so I did it step by step.
Step 1: Stop breastfeeding and go to sleep. Breastfeeding is the highest comfort and the most dependent, so I try not to sleep as much as possible and guide the little candy to sleep independently. Pantry gentle removal method is recommended here to reduce the situation of sleeping with nipples: when the baby is nursing, slowly close his eyes, and when the sucking speed slows down, slowly remove the nipples and tell the baby not to eat and go to bed; If the baby doesn't accept it, cry bitterly, then put the pacifier in his mouth, silently count 10-60 seconds, then try to take it away, and appease the baby through massage and words. If the baby still doesn't accept it, repeat the above steps and cycle for 2-5 times or more until the baby can sleep quietly instead of holding the nipple. It takes about 10 days for the baby to know that he can fall asleep without nipples. This is how candy gradually gives up breastfeeding.
Step 2: Stop hugging and sleeping. When Candy is used to sleeping with her arms, I think it's time for her to learn to sleep in bed. So I downloaded the white noise APP (nap is recommended here), and then prepared a small sea horse and a small comfort towel. After the bedtime ceremony, I will turn on the white noise, hug her for a while, and then tell her that the baby can sleep in the bed when she grows up. Then I will put her on the bed, massage her, pat her ass, pat her back, pat her shoulders, sing songs, recite poems and so on. But this process is the most difficult. At first, I tried everything, but I still refused to buy the candy, crying to show my resistance. At this time, I will tell myself, give her a chance to try, don't worry. If she cries, I will pick her up. If she mumbles, I will continue at once. Finally, from hugging and walking to sleeping → hugging and standing to sleeping → sitting on the bed and hugging and standing → finally putting it on the bed to sleep by yourself. This process probably lasted more than a month. You see, this really requires great patience!
Step 3: Go to bed by yourself. After the preliminary preparation, the candy has grown up a little and the sleeping ability has also improved. Coupled with her previous efforts, slowly, she no longer resisted putting the bed to sleep. For about five months, every day when it's time to go to bed, I will read picture books with her, then turn on the white noise and tell her it's time to go to bed, and then turn off the lights. Sometimes she will fall asleep quietly, sometimes she will hum, sometimes she will turn over for a while, so I will hum to comfort her, and there is no need to pick her up. Basically, I will stay with her in bed 15-20 minutes. After going to sleep by myself, the situation of waking up at night of the little candy has been greatly improved, and basically I get up at 2-3 o'clock to drink milk all night. Many times, she wakes up and can sleep by herself again.
Of course, in this process, sleep will also go backwards. Teeth, great sports development and separation anxiety will all affect the baby's sleep, but I have summed up a very important point: keep the baby in a good mood before going to bed, which will not only make it easy to fall asleep, but also improve the quality of sleep.
After more than six months, the little candy's dusk sleep was gradually cancelled and became two sleeps a day. Because of the addition of complementary food, the schedule has been adjusted accordingly. By the time I was one year old, I had slept twice and once. Now I basically sleep for two and a half to three hours during the day, sleep at 8: 30 in the evening and have breakfast at 6: 00 in the morning. After drinking, I can continue to sleep for a while and get up at 7 o'clock. It can be said that it is an angel baby!
From the pain and hardship at the beginning to the joy now, raising a baby is really a process of escalating and fighting monsters, and it has to go through a level. As a mother, as the closest and most dependent person of the baby, we should give the baby enough love and patience, and also give ourselves enough confidence. We should believe that all our efforts will pass. On the way to raising children, we are not fighting alone. Come on!