At the beginning, I was particularly optimistic about Bao Xue and Yu Songyang. One is innocent and lively, the other is considerate and romantic. In most stories, they are the best couple.
From acquaintance to reunion, to confessing their feelings to each other, and becoming boyfriend and girlfriend, this journey, although the progress is a bit fast, it comes naturally and does not seem too abrupt.
After all, they are already adults at this time. Instead of continuing to waste time in a secret love that has no future, it is better to make it clear earlier and put the matter of love and marriage on the agenda early.
Just like meeting each other in a different place, in the cold winter, a bowl of hot dumplings can not only warm people's stomach, but also warm the cold heart.
But as the story progressed, my point of view changed, because dumplings are like noodles. If they are not eaten early, they will gradually become lumpy. By then, what is left is Chicken feathers all over the floor.
Bao Xue is an actor. Although she looks carefree, she is actually an extremely insecure girl. Although Yu Songyang took her skateboarding that time, she had an initial understanding of Yu Songyang's hobbies. I know and have a basic understanding of Yu Songyang’s life.
Understanding is one thing, but accepting is another -
When they first met, seeing Yu Songyang's performance, she would regard him as her hero, But once she fell deeply in love with him, and even thought about moving from love to marriage, she naturally couldn't help but worry about gains and losses.
What love needs is to look up, to see the shining points in the other person, so as to generate admiration; but what marriage needs is to look straight, for two people to develop their talents together and run hand in hand towards their future.
Yu Songyang, who loves extreme sports, is a good love partner, but not a good marriage partner.
Soon after the relationship was established, Yu Songyang was going to participate in a free rock climbing with friends.
After hearing about this incident, Bao Xue was very worried. After all, for ordinary people like us, climbing a rock of more than 100 meters with bare hands without the help of safety equipment would be unsightly. It's a life-threatening thing.
Just like Bao Xue said: If you are hit by a car, maybe someone can save you. If you accidentally fall down during free climbing like this, you will be shattered to pieces.
When she heard Yu Songyang say that he was not the one doing the rock climbing this time, Bao Xue finally felt a little calmer.
When Yu Songyang and Zhang Zhiyuan were going up the mountain, Bao Xue sent him a video to give him numerous instructions to pay attention to their safety.
(As a so-called ordinary person, I really can’t understand that extreme sports enthusiasts like Yu Songyang, in their own eyes, do it to challenge life, but in the eyes of us bystanders, they are Risking one's life. )
Bao Xue has been on tenterhooks since the rock climbing began. Although Feng Xi was with her, she had been restless and checked her phone every few minutes.
Three hours passed without receiving any news from Yu Songyang and the others. Bao Xue was very anxious and sent a message to Yu Songyang, asking Yu Songyang to send her a message after he came down.
It was a prophecy. When I first started climbing, everything went very smoothly, but halfway through the climb, Zhang Zhiyuan wanted to make a crucial leap, so Yu Songyang adjusted the camera. Zhang Zhiyuan jumped up, but his hand slipped and he immediately fell down.
Although Zhang Zhiyuan later grabbed the stone below and Yu Songyang tried his best to rush over to rescue him, Zhang Zhiyuan thought his arm was injured and could not reach Yu Songyang, so he fell straight down.
Before falling, Zhang Zhiyuan specifically told Yu Songyang to help him conquer this cliff.
On the other side of the story, Bao Xue was extremely anxious after not receiving any information from Yu Songyang for a long time. Fortunately, You Shanshan was capable enough to find out the news about the rock climbing scene.
The terrible thing is that after such a big thing happened, Yu Songyang was in a mess and never sent a message to Bao Xue to explain the situation.
Because of this incident, Bao Xue was very angry. Although You Shanshan has been persuading Bao Xue and the barrage also said that Bao Xue is ignorant, I personally feel that this is a normal behavior——
If she doesn't love him and doesn't care about him, let alone him playing extreme sports, even if he jumps off a cliff to die, he won't care.
From God’s perspective, we can understand Yu Songyang’s panic. After all, his best friend died in front of him, but from another perspective, if he really cared about Bao Xue, he would definitely think of Bao Xue. Xue will worry about herself, after all, it only takes a minute to send a message.
It’s not that Yu Songyang doesn’t love Bao Xue, but for him now, Bao Xue is far less important than his so-called “career”, or that Yu Songyang at this moment has not yet dealt with the relationship between love and hobbies. .
Some people say that Bao Xue in this section is very immature and does not consider Yu Songyang’s feelings, but from another perspective, Yu Songyang in this section of the story is also immature——
For most adults, the first thing to consider is not their own interests and hobbies, but to understand that we live in this world not just for ourselves, but also for those who care and love us. Once we If something goes wrong, they will only be left with endless pain.
A truly mature person will never let those who love him worry about him.
In Bao Xue's opinion, after experiencing such an incident, Yu Songyang must give up his insistence on extreme sports. After all, life is only once for most people, and Zhang Zhiyuan's death will definitely touch Yu Songyang.
So, after attending Zhang Zhiyuan’s funeral, Bao Xue took the initiative to ask Yu Songyang about her understanding of the meaning of life.
It is this place that exposes the difference in outlook between the two people. Bao Xue believes that the meaning of life lies in the pursuit of happiness, but Yu Songyang still stubbornly believes that the meaning of life lies in challenging himself. In other words, he still wants to To fulfill his promise to Zhang Zhiyuan and help Zhang Zhiyuan conquer the cliff.
Without a few words, Bao Xue kept talking about her worries about Yu Songyang, which successfully angered Yu Songyang, and the two broke up unhappy.
To be fair, maybe some people can understand Yu Songyang's thoughts, but as an ordinary person, I really can't understand it.
Judging from the trailer, with the help of You Shanshan, Yu Songyang also began to learn to please Bao Xue in order to win Bao Xue's forgiveness, and Bao Xue also accepted Yu Songyang's apology, as long as he would not do it again in the future Just let yourself worry.
Damn it, when that time comes, there will definitely be a big fight between them.
Of course, since extreme sports exist, there is a rationale for their existence, but the combination of Bao Xue and Yu Songyang is really inappropriate if placed in reality.
Just like what was said in the barrage, the person who is really suitable for Yu Songyang is someone who loves extreme sports as much as he does, because such a woman can not only understand his pursuit of extreme sports, but also understand his pursuit of extreme sports. Be mentally prepared for any accident, so you won't be at a loss like Bao Xue.
The elders often say that a good marriage must be a well-matched match.
When I was a child, I always scoffed at such a statement, thinking it was backward and old-fashioned thinking.
Now that I am middle-aged, my thoughts have changed. Only a marriage that is truly well-matched can truly last.
Of course, what I mean by "well-matched" here does not refer to wealth and family background, but to the consistency of two people's educational background and three views. The most important thing here is that two people's three views must be consistent.
The second best thing to do is, even if two people’s views are not completely consistent, at least don’t let the other person worry about you.
I once saw an animation on the Internet. The general content is that each of us is an incomplete circle. The reason why we walk desperately is just to find the corner we have lost. As long as we can find that corner, Our lives will be complete because of this.
The animation is short and has a profound meaning.
When we integrate that corner into our body, we become a complete whole. Once that corner is lost again, a part of our body is taken away. No one can suffer such pain. The method is easy to bear.
When we are young, we always hope that the person we love is a hero, but when we grow older, what we most want to see is that the other half has a safe life.
Of course, when we reach middle age, we also hope that our significant other is a hero, but at that time we hope that they will move forward bravely for the protection of their hearts, not for the so-called "challenge" Don't care about the feelings of your loved ones.
This relationship is meaningful only if two people grow old together safely.
Just like many women in reality, they always blame their significant other for drinking. It’s not that they are too talkative, but that they are afraid that the other person will torment them early and leave them alone to face the whole situation. world.