I think I will write to you every year in the future. One day, you will understand Chinese, and you will be more interested in reading dad's intentions. I hope it will always be there, and I hope these words can bring you some warmth and comfort.
Three years ago, I took you and your mother to the land of Canada, which is a distance that our family has never reached, spanning the whole earth. But we are in the same mood as many immigrants, for family, for future generations and for a better life for future generations.
Migration is human instinct. I love my hometown deeply. I always go back to that infinitely beautiful Shandong in my dreams, but from the first day I left, I also know that I belong to a distant place. So immigration is really no big deal, and Canada is not necessarily your destination. You may fly farther in the future, and you may even return to China.
About home
It is true that patriotism is the easiest to understand after emigration. Only living abroad is where you really want to find yourself. Like my alma mater. I can scold, but I can't hear anyone speak ill of me.
Thanks to Canada for letting our family come here with an application and giving us so much help and tolerance. I love and enjoy everything here, but it doesn't prevent me from missing China. Slowly, your mother and I began to adapt to life abroad, and it is very likely that we will not adapt to it when we return to our motherland in the future. But that doesn't prevent me from identifying with where I belong. Chinese people with black hair and eyes will never change. One day I may become a Canadian citizen in the legal sense, but my China status will never change.
You will definitely feel more about Canada than we do, because you grew up here from birth, and everything here is the most important memory and cognition during your growth. But I still hope you remember that Canada is your home now and China is your eternal root.
About Chinese
Since you started speaking English in your sleep two months ago, I know what I have been worried about has happened. Chinese must be more difficult for you than English, because you speak fewer scenes in Chinese than in English. No matter how strict you discipline or create an environment, your first language is still English. But I still stubbornly hope that your mother tongue is Chinese.
I may be related to learning English all my life. Even so, my English level can't catch up with you. I don't want future communication to be limited to eating and studying. I want to talk to you about history, humanities and the hazy feelings of adolescence, and I will tell you the story of our family.
From your personal point of view, speaking Chinese well will also be a great advantage. China has become one of the most important countries in the world. As a China person, I believe you will benefit a lot in the future, and Chinese is the most important way. Most importantly, language is the carrier of cultural and national inheritance. You may find Chinese difficult now, and you may hate it. But maybe at my age, you'll feel like you're looking for your roots.
Wherever we go in the world, as long as you have the blood of Chinese people, when you find yourself wasting food, you will definitely think of the blame of your elders: "Who knows that every meal is hard." As long as you are a wandering wanderer and miss your mother in your hometown, you can certainly understand that sentence: the thread in the hands of a loving mother makes clothes for her wayward son's body. As long as you leave your hometown to study and work in other places, when you are tired and homesick, and you look at the bright moon in the sky, you will definitely think of that sentence: lift yourself up to see it, I find it is moonlight, and then sink, and I suddenly think of home.
I think the Chinese in the elite mainstream society must understand that as a minority in western society, the most important thing is not to become them, but to become themselves.
About bullying and bullying
Vancouver, Canada is probably the most culturally diverse and racially tolerant place in the world. But even so, when you grow up, you will certainly encounter discrimination and bullying brought by race.
On Pink Shirt Day in Canada, all primary and middle school students in the country should wear pink shirts against bullying. Racial discrimination is abhorrent in Canada, and it is also the basic value of this society. A seemingly harmless look of contempt, the indifference of a group rejection will hurt your soul. I don't want to hide or avoid this question from you at all. I just want to teach you how to handle it.
All kinds of unpleasant things you will encounter in the future don't need to be blamed on any problems, especially race. What you need to do is to face it bravely and overcome it.
In the nearly six years I have been with you, especially in Canada for three years, although I have been insulted, angry, depressed and embarrassed, I actually feel more like growing up with you, and we are learning this brand-new society together.
Believe me, you are not alone. No matter what setbacks and grievances you suffer outside, home and family will always be your safe haven.
About your occupation.
As for your career, your mother and I will not interfere in your choice. You can be a teacher, doctor, nurse, designer, planner ... but we hope you are an idealist from beginning to end. We let you contact with poetry, painting and music in order to fill your mind with noble interests, which will support your life, make you never forget the fragrance of roses in the harshest winter, and make your ideals stand out.
Your mother is an excellent angels in white. She is not only the one who gave you life, but also the one who took many lives from the beginning. You should thank her. High-intensity work, low wages and unsafe environment in China make many people feel chilling. However, your mother survived. I remember when she was pregnant with you for seven months, she still insisted on working in the hospital. It's really great, and it makes me understand that doctors can't save all lives with drugs, but they can save souls drowned by diseases with kindness and kindness. Remember, everyone's ability is limited, and it is enough for us to do one thing well in this world.
About your future.
We choose to emigrate completely out of our inner call, choose a different life, and we want to find our own peace and value. You are not the only reason why our family immigrated, and we didn't come to this country entirely because of you, so you don't have to bear this burden at all. Immigration is a way of life.
We don't want to make any plans or restrictions on your future. First of all, life is your own, and everyone should have an independent will. At the beginning of your life, we will always be with you. Besides accompanying me, I will create more choices for your future. So you have to choose your own life, and you have to choose.
Secondly, the arranged life and the unchangeable life are the most unacceptable things for me. If you decide now whether to be a musician, an athlete, a mechanic or a teacher in the future, it will be really boring. The joy of life sometimes lies in the unknown and infinite possibilities.
So, in the future, you may stay in Canada, or go back to China, or go to the United States, Europe or Japan. When you are young, I hope you can use your imagination as much as possible to explore your own value. In my opinion, the beauty of life lies in more experiences.
You are so nagging, I don't know when you will understand. Even if you understand, you don't necessarily agree. What parents say is not always right. What is the future like? Maybe I'll never think of it now The only constant in this world is change.
But I believe that if there is one thing in this world that is eternal, it is parents' love for their children.
When you are asleep at night, your mother and I often look at your immature face and imagine what you will look like when you grow up. Even from now on, we still have a little sadness in our hearts, because you grow too fast, and we are afraid that you will fly away in an instant. Yesterday, you curled up in my arms, yesterday, you were still imitating my babbling, yesterday, you could still sit on my shoulder. ......
Any parent in the world loves their children the same, feeling sweet, beautiful, worried and sad. Even if I am 40 years old, your grandfather will love me as much as he did with the baby, and will never change. The future is in your memory. I hope the sweetest part belongs to this family. ......