Some feelings can only be identified by * * *. Love at first sight is a little weird after all. Only by getting along with each other for a long time can we know whether this person is suitable for us.
Some people may not have special feelings for him at first, but after a long time, they will find each other's good, so they can't help but move their hearts. Some people may be like being struck by lightning at the beginning, and they can't extricate themselves from the flame of love without hesitation, but in the long run, they will find that two people are not suitable at all. In the end, the distance between them will be strange. Originally, two people lived under the same roof, but there was an irreparable deep ditch.
There are many people around them. At first, they fell in love passionately, but in the end, they parted ways. Although the thousand-year-old love is lingering in my heart, the road of love must go step by step after all. Where to go sounds a bit negative, but it is an objective fact. Feelings do not mean that you can continue to develop according to your ideal position if you are diligent. Feelings can't go on at a certain node, they can only say goodbye and can't expect anything. Whether two people can make a positive result can actually be seen from three aspects.
1 Knowledgeable nodes determine the outcome of two people, and the order in which people appear is particularly important. It's too important to decide whether two people can be together in the end. It's no coincidence that you came early. Some people have known you for a long time, but they go their separate ways when they walk. Some people have been waiting for each other for a long time. Two people have been in love for many years, but they didn't get married in the end. On the contrary, some people may naturally enter the marriage hall after knowing each other for one year, and then accompany them to their old age.
At the right age, meeting the right person is everyone's expectation. Meeting the wrong person at the right time and meeting someone who loves you deeply in the wrong world can't go through this life hand in hand.
Your ideal when you are seventeen or eighteen is very different from your ideal when you are thirty. At the beginning, everyone may be imitating the future partner in their hearts, and time will always knock down imagination. Finally, at the moment we meet that person, we will willingly give up. He may not be your ideal partner, but after losing his childishness and shyness, meeting after polishing is what marriage should look like.
The right person can't appear too early, meet too early, and neither of them is mature enough. Two people will always resist with their temper, and will continue to say some hurtful words and push each other away face to face. It won't be too late. With the other half, you will meet again, even if you are tempted again, but there are various realities in the middle, and there is no way to go on. Whether two people can make a positive result can be seen from the length of time they meet.
The mode of getting along is the fundamental feeling of love. There has never been a fixed pattern of getting along. Just find a way for everyone to be comfortable. Don't envy the way others get along, they may not be suitable for you. If you blindly follow the trend, the final result is just an unreliable choice. I have some good friends around me. When we meet something, we don't hide it from each other. No one will let anyone. After quarreling with each other once, the problem can be solved, and no one will hold grudges. One minute you're fighting, the next you'll be back together.
Some people have the same interests and hobbies. Two people are doing things they like together. They are deeply in love and look very happy. They seldom quarrel and live a happy life. Different feelings and temperament, but they all know how to show weakness and understand. They can get along for a long time, find a balance between the two, and agree on a mode of getting along, which is undoubtedly happiness.
The premise of love must be to make both sides comfortable. If grievances and dissatisfaction are involved, it will not last long. John gotman, the famous "Pope of Marriage", wrote in Happy Marriage: By observing the communication style of a couple, he can predict and analyze whether the couple will be happy, together or sad apart in just five minutes, and the prediction accuracy rate reaches 9 1%. Look at the way two people get along and talk, and you can guess whether two people can last long.
Whether the pace of two people's growth is the same or not, and whether there are differences in the three views of getting along in the future is directly related to whether two people can achieve positive results in the subsequent development. It is very important to fit the three views. Some people may think that two people who can get together must have the same world outlook, otherwise how can they be attracted to each other? In fact, it is obvious that there are some black and white things on the surface. Looking at this world view and determining the right and wrong can be seen from the beginning, but there are also some contradictions that need to be considered later.
Zhou Rong in The World originally wanted to go beyond a long distance. A person went to Guizhou alone to find Feng Huacheng, and two people survived the most tiring and difficult link. At that time, they must be very suitable for each other. However, there are many contradictions between going and not going. Zhou Rong's contempt for Feng Hua has become the hidden rule of the poetry competition. Feng Huacheng doesn't like Zhou Rong's indifference, he doesn't want to understand each other, and he is even more unwilling to make changes for each other. In this way, this marriage can only be shattered.
The management of marriage never happens overnight, but changes regularly. The initial love and fit can't determine the final outcome. Only when two people keep step with each other, recognize each other and get along with each other after going through many things, can they stay together until they are old. Whether two people can be together and how long they can walk can only be seen by getting along slowly.
Love is never a once and for all thing. It doesn't mean that two people can only make a positive result if they come together. The length of meeting time, the tacit understanding between * * *, whether to keep the same screen, and whether there is any contradiction between the three views directly determine whether two people can make a positive result. Two people who love each other are walking on different roads, so there is no need to be extravagant. Let each other be free If the pace and feelings remain the same, then we can have more understanding and humility in that place, so as to ensure that the flower of love will bloom forever.