You choose this kind of life, you have to face the lifestyle you choose.

First, if you have money, you still have to live an ordinary life. Once we went on a business trip abroad, a developer asked us to do activities and arrange to stay in a super five-star hotel. The lobby of that hotel is described in eight words as "gorgeous and magnificent, like a palace". My party lived in a luxurious big bed room, with an exquisite vase on the bedside table and a novel calla lily in the middle. The toilet seat in the bathroom keeps the body temperature at all times, and there are several buttons to adjust the amount of flushing water and the function of drying. Fortunately, I have seen a more luxurious toilet in the book "The Elegance of Hedgehog" before (when the button is flushed, there is a coiled flat sound on the top of my head that will play music for you), otherwise my diaosi will probably be constipated by those functions. Standing in the middle of the room, I couldn't help but sum up the exaggerated and embarrassing lines of China's international chapter in the movie Jasmine Blossom (the script is adapted from Su Tong's novel Women's Life): "Oh, such a nice room, such a junior toilet, and such a soft bed, ah …" I was so excited that I not only experienced luxury, but also vaguely found the purpose of life: "Suppose me" I found the direction and purpose of life with me. I woke up early the next morning and uncovered the quilt. I found that I only slept a small part of such a big bed, only one fifth of the sheets were wrinkled, and the other four fifths of the white sheets were flat and brand-new. I touched them affectedly with my hand, and then decided to lie down in the middle where I hadn't slept for a while (* * * filar silk temperament suddenly poured out like surging Yangtze River water). The buffet breakfast that day was priced at 288 yuan. It's beautiful and has everything. Eat the same as yourself at home: a bowl of rice porridge, two small meat buns, a few fried dough sticks, a dish of pickles and a cup of yogurt. I spent the whole day thinking about an effect: even if I really become rich one day, will I really be happier than I am now? I still only sleep in the middle of such a big room and eat those complicated breakfasts. My demand doesn't seem to have increased. Actually, I really need very little. What else do I need? You see, in just one day, I fell into confusion again, from a life with a clear purpose to a life without knowing what I really want. I met a woman boss last year. First of all, she is very beautiful, 35 years old, with good looks, smooth and firm skin on her face, which can be broken by blowing bullets. Her breasts are not drooping at all, and her waist circumference is kept at 24 all the year round. She is well dressed and has outstanding temperament. Secondly, her family is very happy. Her husband, who runs several companies, loves her very much, is gentle and stingy with her and gives her gifts every holiday. There is also a daughter who is in kindergarten and looks very cute. In the end, she also had a successful career, running a company with 100 employees and an annual profit of 1000 million. To outsiders, she is really happy, and everyone will envy her life. She is the object of envy and jealousy, but one day she actually said to me online: "I often feel that life is desperate, really desperate." Mr. Zhang, the enemy of my enemy, is a big boss in Taiwan Province Province. His father founded a big company, and he inherited his father's rich second generation, with a net worth of over 100 million. At the age of 50, he flies to factories in Taiwan Province Province, Chinese mainland, Viet Nam and Singapore every month. At the same time, he also specializes in traveling, eating, drinking and having fun, and looks very chic. Once an enemy invited him to dinner and chatted during the dinner. He said he felt confused and tired, and didn't know what he was going to do next. The enthusiasm for doing business has faded a lot, and I can't find the enthusiasm for working hard when I was young. Then he told his experience of a trip. Once when he was playing in Yangshuo, he met a wandering artist who played African drums. He watched each other play for a long time, and then the two groups chatted. He knows that wandering Han is very comfortable and has been to many central places. He envies each other very much and especially wants to give up his task and wander with him. He thinks this is the life he wants. He went to Yangshuo for the second time and went to that street to find a stray artist. He was glad that he never met him again. As long as there is a kind of heroism, I still love life after I know the truth of life clearly. I recently read a book, The Hours by Cunningham, which tells the stories of three women:1Virginia Woolf, a talented writer in London in the 1920s, Mrs. Brown, a housewife living in California after World War II, and Clarissa, a publishing editor in new york in the 1990s. The structure of this novel is undoubtedly very innovative. With the help of the relevance of Mrs. Dalloway, women from three different times and families are placed in the same time dimension, and a chapter tells a woman in a parallel narrative way, which is neat and full of rhythmic beauty. But in my opinion, the way is not the most important. The content of the book is that many people talk about feminism, female values, female heterosexuality and so on. I think its theme is not limited to women, but bigger, about life, about the essence of life, and how to love it after realizing the essence of life. Woolf left her husband a suicide note: "I'm sure I'm going to be normal again: I feel we can't go through such a terrible time again." ..... "After leaving home, she filled her heavy coat pocket with stones and walked to the middle of the river. Her body sank with the current and was finally stopped by a pile of a bridge. With her back to the river and her face to the stone, a mother and son walked by the bridge. Laura? Brown just bought a birthday present for her husband and baked a birthday cake with her three-year-old son. She has a baby in her belly. Before her husband came back, she entrusted her son to the care of her neighbors. A group of people drove out, anxiously rented a single room in a hotel, and then lay in bed watching Mrs. Dalloway, thinking that it was so easy to die, just like booking a single room in a hotel. Clarissa held a party for her ex-boyfriend Thomas, a poet suffering from AIDS, to celebrate his winning an important poetry award, but she witnessed Thomas commit suicide by jumping off a building that night and then looked at his body, not knowing what to do. Obviously, the reasons for their suicide are: Woolf suffered from depression, and she had disintegrated several times before, but this time she found it unacceptable; Laura? Brown is trapped in the role of housewife, and her family life makes her feel suffocated; Thomas is terminally ill and can't give full play to his talents. The reason why practice really makes them commit suicide is that they are trapped in life and tired of it. There are several columnists near my home, one of whom I often read in Shanghai Weekly. One day, he sent a broadcast: "Now I live a life that I want to die every day." Some friends advised him to have a good rest, and he added, "I'm completely tired of life, deeply tired ..." I can especially understand this feeling. I think I am a positive and disappointed person, but I still have that kind of endless rejection of life from time to time. To put it bluntly, it is tired of living and true. I think others are the same. Is there anyone who never gets tired of life? I thought that if a group was tired of living, it needed to die once. This period is very painful. If it survives, it will continue to live. If it fails, it will commit suicide. Seneca, an ancient Roman philosopher 2,000 years ago, said, "Life learns to live from time to time, and life learns to die from time to time. "You need to see through the essence of life again and again, and learn to die again and again to live well. For a long time in the past, I thought from time to time that when I became unusual, such as having a lot of wealth and an enviable reputation, I no longer needed to face an ordinary life, just like Clarissa met a movie star in the street when she was a child, hoping that she could live a dazzling life like a star. By then, I will no longer be trapped in the triviality, boredom, nausea, filth, fatigue, stress, boredom, sadness, pain and nothingness of life ... My life will be full of charm, happiness, happiness, comfort, peace and happiness ... But now I understand that no matter how hard I try, even if I am rich and famous, I can't live without my ordinary life, as long as I am born a human being. Ideally, all of us are trapped in life, trapped in this limited time and the body that is about to leave youth, trapped in various responsibilities, trapped in pressure from all sides, trapped in trivial, boring, disgusting and dirty things in life ... I am not so afraid of becoming an ordinary person as I am afraid of life, afraid of not finding my favorite lifestyle, and afraid of not knowing what I want to live. When I have to face those annoying events in material life, when I need to take on the responsibility of tasks and want to escape, when I have to face people I don't like and pretend to be enthusiastic, I always keep telling myself in my heart: "This is life, you don't have to be afraid of life! "The Hours" quoted Shakespeare's poem: "Don't be afraid of the scorching sun, and don't be afraid of the tyranny in winter. "I know why you shouldn't be afraid of everything in life and accept everything, good or bad. Assuming that we are not afraid of life, we will not be afraid of everything, including death, because death is also a part of life. Woolf said, "Dear Leonard, face life, always face life, know its truth, always know and love its essence, and then stick to it. Thoreau said, "Life has no value unless you choose and give it value." No central government is happy unless you bring happiness to yourself. "I used to think that the pursuit of happiness and happiness is the first meaning of life. Later, I gradually realized that happiness and happiness are not the most important things in life, but the meaning is. Seeking and establishing meaning and living for meaning can help you to live a meaningful life, especially in such an era of rapid information update and full of choices and temptations. Roman? Roland said: "As long as there is a kind of heroism, it is to love life after recognizing the truth of life. "But the hardest thing to do in this world is to' love life'. Third, people should choose a way of life and have the courage to stick to it. Writing here reminds me of a fisherman's story: "An American businessman sat on the dock of a small fishing village on the Mexican coast and watched a Mexican fisherman paddle ashore with several large yellowfin tuna on board. The American businessman praised Mexican fishermen for catching such high-class fish and asked how long it would take to catch so many. Mexican fishermen said that it only took a while to catch it. The American asked again, why not stay a little longer and catch more fish? Mexican fishermen don't think so: these fish are enough for my family! The American asked again, "So what are you doing with so much time left in the day?" Mexican fisherman explained: me? I wake up naturally every day, go out to sea to catch some fish and play with the children when I come back; Take a nap with my wife, wander around the village at dusk, drink with my buddies and play the guitar. My life is full and busy! The American disagreed and gave him advice. He said, I am an MBA from Harvard University, but I can help you! You should spend more time catching fish every day, and then you will have money to buy a bigger boat. Naturally, you can catch more fish and buy more fishing boats. Then you can have a fishing fleet. At that time, you don't have to sell fish to fishmongers, but directly to processing plants. Then you can open your own cannery. So you can control the whole consumption, processing and marketing. Then you can leave this small fishing village and move to Mexico City, then to Los Angeles and finally to new york, where you can run your expanding business. The Mexican fisherman asked, how long will it take? The American replied: fifteen to twenty years. The Mexican fisherman asked: Then what? The American said with a smile, then you can be the emperor at home! As soon as the opportunity comes, you can announce the listing of shares, sell your company's shares to investors, and then you will make a fortune! You can earn hundreds of millions! Then what did the Americans say: You can retire then! You can move to a small fishing village by the sea. I wake up naturally every day, go out to sea to catch some fish at will, play with my children, take a nap with my wife, and go to the village to have a drink and play the guitar with my buddies at dusk. The Mexican fisherman said doubtfully, isn't that what I am now? Let's put aside Maslow's five levels of needs. In fact, no one's choice in this story is right, and no one's choice is wrong. There are only different choices and different lives. Although it seems that the end point is the same-living a leisurely life in a small fishing village by the sea, the process is completely different. If you think that being content with the status quo is what you want, then choosing a life that is content with the status quo will make you happy and satisfied. If you don't want to be great, then choose a path of change, enterprising and compromise, and you will feel happy in the process of pursuing it. The so-called success may be to live according to the lifestyle you want. The worst form is to live comfortably when you want to choose a road that is unwilling to be great, change, forge ahead and compromise, and finally complain that you have not lost the life you want! People should choose a lifestyle and have the courage to stick to it. But you know what you want? Can you make it clear? Dark perception: The fisherman's story explains most people's misunderstanding of life pursuit. The seemingly complex and noble material pursuits are actually castles in the air. I don't know life or death, so it's normal for many people to live in ignorance ... If you think the article is good, remember to share it as soon as possible!