This book mainly talks about a kind of meditation and painful warning that women, as the wives of Japanese families, collectively produce when the carnival triggered by the bubble is coming to an end. This is a cry and painful description of the helpless and dry relationship between husband and wife, and it is also an indictment of the times.
I have many questions before reading this book.
What kind of ideas did they generally have at that time?
How did they later become women's rights advocates?
What's the difference between them and women in China today?
At that time, a group of young people received education in the war years, telling women that the excellent template was the image of a good wife and a good mother. At the same time, they received higher education and there were women who were eager to live for themselves.
In that society, that era, those miserable wives were dragged by traditional values (a good wife and a good mother) and the new concept of becoming independent individuals. On the one hand, they longed for freedom and independence, on the other hand, they were restrained by the evaluation of others brought by the old ideas and lost the courage to escape.
This is a period of longing for his wife.
Such a familiar scene reminds me of Home written by Mr. Ba Jin. The eldest son in the book grew up in traditional family and values, and was exposed to new ideas in the new era. But as the eldest son, he is burdened with too many expectations from his parents and family. Filial piety and responsibility bind him like chains, making him unable to be the person he really wants to be.
He was just a representative individual in that split-minded era.
Just like the Japanese wife interviewed by the author in 1980.
What are the similarities or differences between them and women's thoughts in modern China?
The difference is that we once liberated women from it and took part in labor and production movements, and the economic base improved women's status.
The difference is that because of those movements, many old ideas have been broken, so the social atmosphere will not attach very strict traditional values to women in terms of values, so it will be better than Japanese women in that period in terms of psychological burden.
However, the same place still exists, especially in the modern 2 1 century.
At present, the labor participation rate of women in China is still very high, but once they become wives or mothers, they will inevitably be considered to be more inclined to the family and pay more for the family.
Because of this, many women are painfully dragged between family and work.
In modern Japanese society, the proportion of women participating in labor after marriage is increasing year by year. I read a report before that because of the social and economic downturn, about half of women still participate in social labor after marriage, not just being full-time wives.
From this perspective, the two groups have similar difficulties.
So behind the plight of women, what is the group image of those disappeared husbands?
In family relations, some husbands are still attached to their mothers and cannot give up their parents' family, so their wives become outsiders or tool people.
Because I didn't learn how to be a mature person in Origin and Fate, I don't understand or feel the need to understand my wife's thoughts. Needless to say, this relationship between husband and wife is natural.
On personal value, combined with the author's other documentary books, we can see that capitalism, social Darwinism and the survival of the fittest are widespread in Japanese society. This makes Japanese men generally bind their personal values with work, salary and status. In order to get a promotion and a raise, they go out at 9: 00 in the morning and go home at 12 in the evening. They may even take a day off a week to visit customers. They affirm themselves by their work achievements, so naturally they feel that it is a waste of time to spend time on family, wife, parents and children, or shouldn't these be done by wives?
In such a family and social environment, even the rest of husband and wife has become a luxury. Where can we have time to get to know each other better and promote the development of intimate relationship?
It is this kind of husband who devoted all his energy to his work that made Japan's brilliant economic achievements that year, and the price of burial was the life time of his wife's best years.
Individuals are to the times what water drops are to the sea of Wang Yang.
But we, forged by the times, are also a great driving force to promote the times.
Can't change overnight,
Ideological progress is a necessary condition for the progress of the times.
Don't think that times will lead you to become better.
Only when everyone has changed, the change of the times will come.