Poetry that treats marriage as a joke.

Some people regard marriage as a child's play, get married hastily and divorce hastily. When they met, they hit it off immediately. There seems to be no problem, and we don't know each other well enough, so we hurried into marriage. After marriage, when we really started our married life, we found that there were many differences and contradictions between them, so various problems began to appear in our married life, which were not handled well and eventually it was easy to divorce. Nowadays, marriage and contemporary love seem to pursue more freedom and individuality and consider their own feelings more. This is about people. Too much ego, too much emphasis on self, it is easy to ignore each other's feelings. A woman's first marriage is very important, which will affect the happiness of her life. The wrong choice, or the wrong person, affects not only a marriage, but also the subsequent feelings. In fact, marriage and divorce are normal phenomena of marriage. What we know about freedom of marriage includes both freedom of marriage and freedom of divorce. However, divorce is free, not hasty, not free. For men and women whose feelings have completely broken down, divorce should be the last resort. But sometimes, there will be an impulsive divorce between men and women, and the divorce will not be calm. In fact, I still have feelings for each other, and some of them are involved, not to the point of divorce. Therefore, in this case, in order to give each other a chance, there will be a choice, and that is remarriage. After remarriage, if they have realized their mistakes, they will manage their life after remarriage more carefully. However, there are three kinds of divorce. Even if you don't give up and regret it, I don't suggest you choose to remarry. What are the three kinds of divorce? 1, one party betrays and leads to divorce. The reason why I put the divorce caused by betrayal in the first place is enough to show the seriousness of this situation. Betrayal is the cancer of marriage. Once symptoms appear, marriage is difficult to recover. More importantly, in many people's minds, betrayal is only the difference between zero and countless times. So once it appears, there is no way to eliminate it. And if it is not handled well, it may become a connivance and give the other party a second and third chance. So, if you divorce for this reason, it basically means that you can't accept it anymore and you can't leave. Therefore, after this kind of divorce, even if one party regrets again and never gives up, don't remarry. If I can give the chance, I won't divorce. I already gave this opportunity. 2. Divorce caused by disagreement of three views. The root of this is the difference between two people, not just simple living habits or behavioral differences, but some differences in consciousness. This difference in three views leads to many differences and disagreements, which are often difficult to solve. You can't communicate with each other, and each of you stands under your own three views, thinking that you are right and dismissing each other's thoughts and ideas. So there is no basis for communication. For example, there are differences in understanding whether to give a bride price and how much. One party may think it is recognition and attention to oneself, while the other party may think it is too much, so it has gone bad and lost the meaning of the bride price. So contradictions will arise from time to time, and once they arise, they will be difficult to solve. Especially for men and strong women with serious male chauvinism, this difference in three views is more difficult to change. 3. Divorce caused by a mother's treasure. When it comes to "mom's treasure", many people think that only men are mom's treasure is terrible. In fact, women also have their mother's treasure, and it is even more terrible when women are their mother's treasure. Ma Bao, a man, our name is Ma Baonan, which will make some women unbearable. And the woman's mother Bao called her mother Bao, which made the man have a headache. Ma Bao's characteristic is that he has no ego, no opinion, and everything is arranged by his parents. But also willing to be arranged. Right or wrong, follow the "close" blindly. This kind of men and women actually have no partners in their eyes. If there is, it only exists as a role. They don't regard it as a partner at all. They are always dispensable roles, or a partner is also used to help them obey their parents. When this goal cannot be achieved, or there are differences, it is the time when the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is irreconcilable. Therefore, if you divorce because of Ma Bao, don't remarry. Because it's hard for Ma Bao to quit. If this problem is not solved, remarriage is tantamount to repeating the same mistakes. Marriage management is a science, even if there may be some problems, if you know how to manage it, you can manage it well, and it may be solved well, and the relationship between husband and wife will get along well. If it is not handled well, then the marriage will go wrong and the marriage may fail. And the divorce caused by the above three reasons, I think even if you regret it, even if you still don't give up this marriage, you don't want to remarry. There is only one reason, because these reasons of marriage failure are hard to overcome, and these reasons of the problem exist, and there will still be contradictions if we continue. Then remarriage is meaningless! So, take good care of yourself and start your new life again! Come on, come on. ! ! ! ! ! !