Three elements of a happy marriage between husband and wife

1, don't blindly compare with others. The most taboo in marriage is always comparing your other half with others. In fact, you think the other half is not as good as yourself. Why is his other half so excellent and has such a good life? As everyone knows, this is actually hurting family harmony, hurting your other half and hurting your own marriage. Everyone is different. Don't measure yourself by other people's benchmarks, let alone your other half or marriage therapy. You chose the road yourself. You can regret it, but don't hurt your other half. I think he will marry you because he really loves you. Put yourself in someone else's shoes. Would you feel comfortable if he compared you with others? If you don't love him, why do you want to marry him or her? Having said these words, I feel that it is always eloquent, inspiring and inspiring. In fact, as you know, there is no motive in these words, only irony and harm, so don't compare your other half with others. 2. Give each other proper space. Everyone is an independent individual, and no one likes to be bound. Give each other a little privacy, because everyone has everyone's living habits. This kind of space does not conflict with love. As long as your love can stand the test and there will be no deviation in the general direction, you might as well give each other some space and don't tie two people too tightly, which will be counterproductive. In fact, a little more trust and freedom, I think it is better for both men and women in marriage. 3. Always discuss with each other. In the past, the man was the head of the family. Nowadays, women are accustomed to self-reliance and self-improvement, which will lead to a contradiction, that is, they hold their own opinions. Many times, a person with a strong opinion will go her own way or act first, because she feels that she has done nothing wrong. Actually, it's not a question of whether you did it right or not. What the other person wants is your attitude or that you are also the holder of this feeling and part of the marriage. So whenever something happens, two people can sit down and discuss it and figure out what to do. Don't monopolize power, it will lead to a series of contradictions sooner or later. Three elements of marital happiness: soul and flesh are inseparable, and the foundation of emotional operation is body; Love and lust are instinctive designs, just as people will get hungry without eating and will not die quietly because of reason. If the long-term sexual life is not harmonious, the body will accumulate negative energy and eventually destroy the foundation. Therefore, a stable marriage needs the harmony between soul and flesh. Asexual marriage is definitely not happy. Pareto, an ancient Greek philosopher, advocated spiritual love, which has been regarded as the highest realm of love since ancient times. But few people can do it in reality, which shows that it is unrealistic. A happy marriage is first of all sexual harmony, otherwise marriage can't be regarded as real happiness. The Water Margin tells the story of Pan Jinlian killing her husband. Pan Jinlian was originally a beautiful woman, but due to the misfortune of life, she married a short and ugly Wu Dalang. If she had married a handsome boy, she might not have killed Wu Da. It should be said that the desire for sex made her devoid of humanity and lost the minimum conscience of being a human being. He became the murderer of her husband and ended up in a tragic end. Although it is often seen in the news recently that young men in their twenties marry old women in their sixties, these are individual phenomena and cannot represent the psychology of most people. The world is big, and people with all kinds of psychological distortions have it. There are great differences in values between people, some regard ugliness as beauty, and some are money worship. This kind of person, psychologically flawed, is definitely unhappy in marriage. Two of a kind is a tacit understanding and a smooth exchange of ideas. A marriage that cannot communicate spiritually is also unhappy. As the saying goes, there is no language like * * *, that's what it means. A happy marriage requires two people to have the same or similar interests in life, the same or similar aesthetic needs, the same or similar hobbies, and the same or similar outlook on life, world outlook and values. If not, marriage will be difficult to be happy. There was a famous poetess Zhu in Song Dynasty, who made great achievements in poetry creation. Unexpectedly, her parents had no knowledge and married her to a playboy with low quality. As a result, she was unhappy all her life and ended her young and beautiful life prematurely. It can be seen that a happy marriage should be based on spiritual communication and emotional fit. Values refer to the views on the value and meaning of life, good and evil, beauty and ugliness, family friendship and so on. Why are values so important? Because values are the basis of all activities, all contradictions stem from the differences of values, which are big and have little in common, so it is not only difficult for husband and wife to be friends. As the saying goes, "bring out the best in each other", what does Mu Zi mean? It is true that two people who grew up in the same similar "portal" have relatively small differences in values and relatively stable marriages. Of course, there are also some love stories with different portals, but those are a few after all, which are particularity in universality, and often spread through art works, which is misleading. In real life, the breakdown of marriage is everywhere due to the difference of values caused by improper family background. So this problem really needs to be treated with caution. What is this relative portal? Judging from the causes, it is the environment and experience of this person's growth, including grandparents, parents, brothers and sisters, seven aunts and eight aunts, and various growth experiences in education. It is these that will gradually lead to and form everyone's values. If you look at the fruit, it is the established concept of all kinds of people and things that this person has formed. It depends on both the cause and the effect, so as to touch the soul and grasp the essence. When a pair of lovers with the same values enter marriage, they face an ordinary life. Perhaps, there is no need to seriously discuss the grand theme of values every day. How should I live at this time? Without the same hobbies, many couples are at risk at this time. The values are the same, but there seems to be nothing to say. Is there a problem? Actually, there's nothing wrong with it. At this time, if you have the same hobbies, you can not only exercise and cultivate your sentiments, but also deepen your feelings in the activities of * * *. If you don't have the same hobbies, husband and wife will play their own games when they seem to have nothing to say. If one of the playmates can talk, risks will arise. When I got home, I had nothing to say. When I go out, I play with myself. In the long run, it seems normal to have problems. Therefore, there must be at least one hobby between husband and wife. In the silent period with similar reasons, two people will have a good time and have a good time, leaving no gaps. Material is the foundation, you can't fill your stomach, and everything else is nonsense. A happy marriage, life care is undoubtedly indispensable. This is a well-known fact. Marriage can't be happy without the care of life. True happiness must be carried out in daily chores such as daily necessities, washing and cooking, instead of shouting "I love you" 1000 times and 10000 times every day! ! Family responsibility belongs to the category of morality, which has a great relationship with one's family and education. With marriage, you shoulder the responsibility. However, not all people in marriage can realize what responsibility they should shoulder. Some people get happiness in the form of marriage and put all the responsibilities they should shoulder on the shoulders of another person. Marriage, because of responsibility, becomes strong. Three elements of a happy marriage between husband and wife 3 1. Love comes first. There should be no doubt? No matter what the future marriage is like, we should start with love and get married because of love, not because of money, not because of sex. A happy marriage is the foundation of a happy marriage. You and he (she) have no love at all, just because he (she) can satisfy your material desires, they come together. Maybe at the beginning, they can be kind and loving, but they are all superficial, and this superficial love will soon be worn away. Look at those big loves, which one started with sex or money? Which is not a vigorous love, and the sky will fall? Marriage with love can bring happiness, but marriage with love will bring difficulties. I saw a news on the Internet yesterday that a beautiful female nurse got married for three months and was diagnosed with leukemia. It stands to reason that as a husband, when he knows that his wife is ill, he should stay with her, comfort her and give her spiritual support. But this man disappeared after learning that his wife had leukemia. This man must be love rat, but doesn't this also mean that there is no love between them, or that love is not so deep, so that husband and wife are birds in the same forest, and when disaster strikes, they fly separately? Maybe after many years of marriage, love will fade away and become a family relationship, but a happy marriage must start with love! 2. There is money and love, but love alone is not enough. Love is the foundation of a happy marriage. Marriage is not a daily affair, but a real life. Without daily necessities, we must first solve the problem of food and clothing. Either rich or expensive, at least, can't live by borrowing money? Money is not everything, but you can't do anything without it. However, unlike those who have been poor together, it is said that life is difficult and facing economic distress, and couples will quarrel and worry about it, which will affect their feelings. For example, if a wife wants to buy a dress, it will affect her living expenses this month. Do you think a woman can't quarrel with you? How can there be such happiness? Have you ever met anyone who says he is happy when he is hungry? 3, sex has several wives, men face the young wife's sexual needs, some can't cope, just say that the wife said that she can't eat as a meal, and it doesn't matter if she comes a few times less. If you say so, why did you go early? If you have no physical strength, don't marry so many wives younger than you. Aren't you starving your wife? If you are dissatisfied for a long time, you will not wear a cuckold. Although sex can't be eaten as a meal, it is absolutely impossible without sex. No matter how strong love is, no matter how much money is, if there is no sex, everything will become dim, and no matter how much love is, it will wither. A happy marriage begins with love and is supported by sex! Say: getting married is a lifetime thing. Don't cling to wealth for immediate interests without any emotional foundation. Such a marriage will go wrong sooner or later, how can it be happy? Of course, it doesn't mean that money is not important. On the contrary, money is important. It is best for two people to work together, so as to cherish it more. Therefore, a happy marriage needs love, money and sex.