Emotions are our own, and we need to be responsible for them.
Since emotions are your own, you are the one who is injured, and you are the only one who needs to be responsible. No one else can be responsible. Although there are thousands of reasons, it is only for us at present. You will open your own wound and ask others, "Look, it's all because of you that I have a wound!" " What does it matter where you come from? Should problems be dealt with first, or should the responsibilities be investigated first?
We have emotions, but emotions are not all we have.
Do you want emotions to be your own master or do you want to be the master of emotions? You need to see that you have emotions, but all you have is not emotions. You still have reasons, opinions, expectations and so on. Your true self can control your emotions and let them serve you. When emotions are amplified, we must not let them occupy our souls, take away our selves, replace all our willpower and become ourselves.
Don't pick up other people's emotional garbage.
If someone throws a pile of garbage on the road, will you pick it up and take it home to turn your home into a garbage dump? You'll say I'm sick. In fact, how many times have you picked up other people's emotional garbage? Others are angry, obviously it has nothing to do with you, but you are afraid of him being angry; When others are sad, you are also sad; A friend trusts you and tells you a lot. He feels much better, but you're getting emotional. A colleague likes to talk to you about trivial things, pull a long face, and then make you very unhappy. This is picking up other people's garbage.
For emotions, we must distinguish which are our own and which are others'. Then return others' to others, refuse when it is time to refuse, and clean up when it is time to clean up.
Emotion cannot disappear because of depression.
No matter how much injustice you have suffered, you should keep it in your heart. This is the life motto of many people. So once you have emotions, you will choose to suppress and not admit it. But if you suppress the denial, will your emotions be gone? If there is rubbish in your house, you can sweep it under the bed and disappear. So there's no garbage? Won't it affect the house? Obviously not. If emotions are suppressed, they will be suppressed from consciousness to subconscious and continue to affect us.
Emotion itself is not good or bad, right or wrong.
There are some emotions you like, such as happiness, happiness and relaxation. Some emotions you don't like, such as sadness, anger and sadness. So you said, there can be no negative emotions, only positive emotions. But is the mood good or bad? Some children, after being stimulated, ridiculed and considered impossible to enter the university, study hard to prove themselves with anger and injustice, thus winning the first place in the exam; Some people must make achievements after being angry, that is, turning grief into strength and sublimation of emotion. We need to look at emotions objectively and find out the source and meaning of each emotion.
Emotion is in the body, not in the mind.
Do you think you are angry, or do you feel angry? Is it your brain or your body feeling it? Feelings and emotions live in our bodies and are part of our bodies. Every cell in our body has it. When we are angry, we will have physiological symptoms such as blushing, thick neck, rapid blood flow and shortness of breath. When we are afraid, our bodies contract, our muscles tighten and we become extremely sensitive. When the mood gets worse, the body will show itself in the form of behavior, such as dancing happily, gnashing your teeth angrily, thinking about tea and rice, grieving, etc., and our brain has never deliberately controlled it.
Experience and accept
What kind of experience is it when the feeling comes into being? Don't rush to react, first experience it, observe it, taste it and see what it really looks like. Connect with the right hemisphere of the brain, not just "know" and define.
When you experience that feeling and connect with it, there will be some pain. Don't refuse in a hurry, just accept it. Acceptance is not a vague word. Accepting means looking at it without agreeing with it. Acceptance means being with it, watching it, and not rejecting it. To accept is to admit that it is a part of me, not all of it. Acceptance is to understand impermanence. If you feel it, it will disappear.
Deep consciousness
Awareness is to know yourself more carefully and have a deeper understanding of feelings. What was your immediate feeling when it happened? What was your first experience? Is it anger, injustice, helplessness or anger? Don't try to resist, just watch how your body reacts and what that feeling is. There is a feeling behind the feeling. How do you feel about yourself? What do you think of this feeling? Do you allow yourself to have emotions? Do you accept your emotions? What kind of faith do you ask yourself to treat your emotions? How do you think you have emotions? What do you think you should and shouldn't feel?
Decision (conversion)
When you understand what happened, you need to decide how to deal with your emotions. You can release them or transform them. Let go or change your views and expectations, replace them with new ones, and then make yourself more perfect and open, so as to grow emotionally. It can also sublimate emotions. Emotions are neither good nor bad. Every emotion has its own resources. You can turn some resources into productivity, create and sublimate. A strong wind may overturn our house, but we can build a house in another place and then build a wind power station in the original place. Of course, we can also release our emotions through consistent expression, through talking, through exercise and so on.