A real example can let you know the influence of family education on children. Buddy, a famous American writer and playwright, wrote his first poem when he was 8 years old. He showed it to his parents excitedly. Buddy's mother just finished reading the poem, her eyes lit up and she shouted happily, "Buddy, did you write this?" What a beautiful poem! It's wonderful! "My father shook his head and commented," I think this poem is terrible, son. You need to keep working hard. " Baditon was happy and encouraged by his mother's "wonderful", but his father's "bad" was a great blow to Baditon, so he worked hard with his mother's expectation and his father's spur, wrote and revised again and again, and finally created a large number of well-received works. At this time, he looked back at his childhood "works", and Buddy had to admit that his father was right.
Mother's bland words of encouragement strengthened the children's confidence and finally created brilliant achievements. Actually, this is the embodiment of family education. "Wonderful" is affirmation, appreciation and encouragement, which embodies the mother's broad love for her son. "Terrible" is denial, criticism and warning, which embodies the father's rational thinking and rigorous attitude. Appreciation and criticism are important components of a good family education, and they play different roles in children's growth. No matter which one is missing, it is not conducive to the healthy growth of children. Every child wants to be encouraged by his parents, but not every parent is willing to give his appreciation to his children. Parents should constantly cultivate their children's self-esteem and self-confidence by discovering their children's advantages and giving them psychological hints through praise, so as to stimulate their internal drive and give them both self-confidence and motivation to make progress.
Father's negation also plays a vital role in children's growth. Parents should not underestimate a negative sentence. In life, there will be two extreme situations. One is that parents are afraid of hitting their children and will never sayno. On the other hand, parents can only find faults in their children and attack their self-confidence in an unscientific way. Both of these situations may make education deviate from the normal track. If there is no principle and unlimited appreciation, children will be immersed in narcissism all day, satisfied with the illusion provided by "appreciation", but they are not clear about their self-knowledge in reality and lack the motivation and action for self-improvement. And unscientific criticism is likely to really stab the child's heart and dispel his enthusiasm. If parents are good at criticizing their children and know how to regulate their lives with criticism in time, criticism will become wisdom and courage. Correct criticism is based on rational thinking, wise judgment and high vigilance against reality, which can make children have a correct understanding of the true self and keep a clear vigilance against self-development. Although my father was deeply disappointed at that time, I had to admit that my father was right a few years later. It is with his father's sternness and criticism that Buddy can constantly reflect and improve himself in his writing.
Good family education is like a lighthouse on the sea, guiding children to success, while bad family education is like a black veil before the light, allowing children to find a way out in the dark. Parents love their children from the heart, so it is every parent's hope to give their children the most correct family education. Try to say "great" to your child and try to let your child hear "terrible", and your child will have a good grasp of the direction of life and will not get lost again.
Children are parents' mirrors, and children are parents' "works". Parents play a decisive role in the formation of children's character. Family is the harbor and starting point of children's success, and parents are the mentors and assistants of children's success. They are responsible for children's physical and mental development. We should not only pay attention to children's intellectual development, but also pay attention to the cultivation of children's abilities in all aspects; Children should be taught not only to learn knowledge, but also to learn to be human. On the road of children's growth, personality and behavior habits play a decisive role, and the formation of children's personality and behavior habits is closely related to the family. With the growth of age, many times, we will find that children are more and more like their parents, but no children will become more and more like teachers. American Tyman Johnson believes that "a successful tutor makes a successful child, and a failed tutor makes a failed child". In this sense, family education is the foundation of all other education, and parents play a decisive role in children's growth. How to evaluate the importance of parents in children's education cannot be overemphasized. Practice has proved that the foundation and key of many children's success is excellent family education. Educating children is the responsibility and obligation of parents. In order to cultivate and educate children and make family education an inexhaustible source of nourishing the soul, parents need to understand the mystery of education, find educational methods suitable for children, seize the opportunity of education at all times and tap the potential of education.
Throughout the history of human civilization, what has never changed is that parents are children's first teachers and lifelong teachers. Family is a person's first class and a lifelong school. The national education platform is supported by three pillars: family education, school education and social education. Modern school education and social education are supported by legal norms, scientific guidance and modern technology, while family education is almost in a natural and primitive state, lacking scientific guidance, ignoring or even contradicting the role of modern technology. If the pillar of family education continues to be weak, which is very different from the other two pillars, then the platform of national education will be tilted, and it is even more impossible to develop in a stable, harmonious and healthy way. So the state must legislate for family education.
Family education is very important for a person's life. Children with positive parents are easy to do good, while children with evil parents are easy to do evil. Parents' equality with children and girls is democratic, arbitrary, kind and cruel to children. Meng Mu moved three times, and her mother-in-law got a tattoo. "Those who are near Mexico are black, and those who are near Zhu Zhechi are black." And so on, all show that parents' literacy and family environment are closely related to people's lifelong education. Human education is the same as the three basic contents: health, emotion and knowledge. Corresponding three habits: neatness, smiling and reading. Without family education, it is almost impossible to ensure that these three contents fall into the cultivation of three habits in real life. However, the current problems in family education have affected or even seriously distorted the healthy growth of infants and adolescents. Therefore, it is necessary to legislate for family education so that every parent and child's guardian can practice it for educating their children and grandchildren.
At present, there are marriage laws and education laws that regulate the general principles of family behavior, but there are no detailed rules to regulate the educational behavior in family behavior and family behavior. Just like a constitution without departmental laws, if there are only general provisions and no detailed rules, there is almost no actual operation. Therefore, it is necessary to formulate a family education law, improve the legal system and improve the quality of the people.
In reality, it is a mistake to omit the family educator as a tutor and equate tutoring with tutoring children's learning. What's more, if you don't educate your parents, you want to educate your children. If you don't improve your parents' literacy, you want to improve your children's literacy. Modern education and teaching theories all recognize that to educate students well, teachers should be educated first. Then, to educate children well, we must first educate parents well. At present, the problems existing in court education mainly include: guardians lack scientific education methods, especially in recent decades, the social and natural status of the one-child education, the mixed quality of family education instructors, and the lack of special family education management institutions and systems. If it is not guided and standardized from now on, it will leave a bad root for future national education. Family education is not only the cornerstone of basic education, but also dominates other education, which is irreplaceable by any school education and social education. Family education can better shape children's moral conduct, cultural taste and values than school education. Scientific guidance, modern technical support and legalization of family education can play a role in promoting and guiding, and ensure the stable, harmonious, sustained and healthy development of good family education. Scientific family education is an important guarantee for people's healthy growth, and it is also a guarantee for people to have good humanistic literacy and high-tech literacy.