For a simple example, a boy failed the exam. After returning home, his mother scolded him: "You are so stupid!" " "So the boy branded the words" you are so stupid "deeply in his heart and always regarded it as a synonym for himself. Boys will attribute all their failures to "stupidity" and make some "stupid" behaviors to match their labels. In this way, the boy really became "stupid" under his mother's evaluation.
Many parents around us are good at using "provocation" to encourage their children to make progress. Although the "challenge method" can play its positive role, psychologists have found that in the "challenge method", if the label is not positive, positive or even absurd, it is very likely that the labeled child will acquiesce, or the child will act contrary to the label because he feels unfair.
In life, we adults will become "stupid" from time to time, because people often can't know ourselves clearly and always like to live under the label given by others. If we can't correctly understand and treat the labels that others put on us, but blindly accept impersonal evaluation with vague expectations and needs, it will produce complex and unpredictable results.
First of all, we may be fooled by these labels. Like the above example, it is obvious that a clever child has become dull after being labeled as "stupid" by his mother. Secondly, we may be fooled by these labels. For example, a mediocre person accepts the label of "excellent" frankly, while a mediocre person, like a descendant of a noble, has a distinguished life experience, but has no practical action and ability, and can only be overwhelmed by this invisible expectation. Once such a label lacks clear requirements and support, it becomes shaky and the whole person's gas field dissipates and weakens.
In addition, the bigger the hat, the longer you wear it, the more nervous you will be when asked to do something, and you will struggle in your heart whether you deserve your own label and fall into endless sorrow. Therefore, the "label effect" is not as perfect as people think, and it may also bring great harm to people.
Since we know that we are being violated by some false labels, why should we continue to live in its shadow? When anyone comes to this world, God gives him a different mission and a unique personality. Only when we know ourselves objectively and correctly, improve ourselves and tear off those unrealistic labels, can we grow into our true self according to our own path and find the road to success; And those who mistakenly know themselves and live under the absurd label of others will only lose themselves and be insulated from success.