We know that people live in this society and bear many obligations, and sometimes there are contradictions between them. When one obligation overrides another, it is necessary to alleviate the other. Therefore, the essence of white lies is a more urgent and important obligation.
If a "lie" is untrue, then it is obviously neutral in emotional color. Lying for different purposes will lead to very different results: one is to cheat by cunning and treacherous means for the purpose of harming others and benefiting themselves, which is malicious fraud and will inevitably lead to the decline of social morality and disorder of order. The other is to hide the truth for the benefit of others. It is a kind of concealment, which will make feelings more harmonious and society more harmonious. Therefore, good faith concealment and malicious fraud are very different from motivation to result, and cannot be confused. When a poor mother only leaves food for her children and hides the fact that she is still hungry, do you still want to accuse a kind and noble maternal love of being "dishonest"?
What is "honesty"? Honest and trustworthy. The ancients advocated honesty very early, emphasizing the consistency of words and deeds and the unity of knowledge and action; The principle of good faith requires people to consciously abide by the law and be sincere and trustworthy. But none of them simply ask people to tell the truth 100%. It is extremely terrible to tell the truth regardless of the situation: can we tell our military information to the enemy during the war? Can you tell your business secrets to your competitors in the mall? Therefore, since the principle of good faith is not equal to the simplified 100% truth, the good faith concealment when necessary will not conflict with the principle of good faith.
As a correct and friendly way of life, white lies are consistent with honesty in motivation, purpose and result. The significance of promoting honesty in society lies in cultivating people's noble moral sentiments and establishing mutual trust and mutual benefit among people, and those white lies full of goodwill and compassion are used to make feelings more harmonious, life more warm and society more harmonious. "The way of a university stops at perfection", and out of the same goodwill, the two are closely unified. To sum up, reiterate the view:
Lies can be divided into malicious fraud and good faith concealment according to their essential differences, and the two cannot be confused.
"Honesty" does not mean that 100% is true without specific analysis. In some cases, it is essential to conceal in good faith.
White lies conform to the principle of good faith from the purpose to the result. Therefore, we believe that white lies do not hinder honesty.
Example: 1, the famous American writer Ou? Henry's novel The Last Leaf tells a white lie. When the sick old man looked at the dead leaves and was sad and desperate, the loving painter decorated the withered tree of life with a carefully sketched green leaf, thus maintaining a dying light of life.
An old lady in her sixties is ill and needs hospitalization. At the request of her family, the doctor played down her illness. Unexpectedly, the anesthesiologist told her the risk of the operation before the operation. The old lady was frightened and immediately fell down and died on the operating table. If the anesthesiologist hadn't said those words to her, the old lady wouldn't have fallen down so soon.
Five miners were trapped in the mine in an accident. Before they know the time outside, they must be told the time by someone. The tellers cheat them for an hour every hour. He lied for half an hour, which gave them confidence to survive.
4. There was a student who was not very good at long-distance running, but in an exam, the teacher told him that the speed of long-distance running was faster than other students, and that he had the opportunity to participate in the competition on behalf of the school and told him to work hard. The student was very excited after listening to the teacher's words, because he always thought that he had no talent for long-distance running and could actually participate in the competition on behalf of the school. From that day on, he really liked long-distance running and kept running every day. After a while, he was really chosen because he couldn't represent the school at all.
5. A teacher once lied that he could predict the future for his students: you may become a mathematician in the future, he may become a writer, and which one has artistic talent ... Under the guidance, edification, encouragement and shaping of the teacher, the children become diligent, sensible and studious. A few years later, a large number of students entered the university with excellent results, and the village became famous. People think that the old teacher can pinch and calculate and can perceive the future. In fact, the teacher's good intention is to plant a beautiful lie in the child's heart, just like planting a seed in the soil, which will eventually grow sturdily and blossom.
6. On August 2, 2005, the Wenlian Coal Mine in Louxia Town, Pu 'an County was flooded and roof fell, and Xiao Hongyang Tongshun and others were working underground. Ten minutes later, the flood flooded the roadway and ceiling, and the way out was blocked. After that, there is no way out. They were forced to a platform one meter high and three meters wide above the drift, and the water level was still rising. The situation is extremely critical. The four of them divided into two groups to dig coal ash above the platform, and two steps more than one meter high were dug in two days. When the ammunition was exhausted, they didn't eat for three or four days, and they were hungry and cold. In order to encourage everyone to fight against the impending death in despair, Hong Xiao lied again and again that the water level was falling, and whoever could persist would get out alive. On the fourth day, someone had collapsed in the tunnel in the thin air, but at this moment, the water level really dropped. The four of them felt an opportunity to escape and climbed to the wellhead hand in hand step by step. At this time, the nine pumps at the wellhead are draining water day and night. The people on the well thought that the four of them had no hope of survival, but they won the final victory in the struggle with death.
7. In the last century, an American transport plane was forced to land because of a desert sandstorm. The plane was badly damaged and could not resume taking off. Communication equipment was also destroyed and communication with the outside world was interrupted. Nine passengers and a driver fell into despair; Survival instinct makes them fight for limited dry food and water. In an emergency, a passenger on a temporary flight stood up and said, "Don't panic, I'm an airplane designer. As long as everyone Qi Xin listens to my command, the plane can be repaired. " It's like a shot in the arm, which has stabilized everyone's mood. They consciously save water and dry food. Everything is in good order, and everyone is United in fighting against sandstorms. Ten days have passed and the plane has not been repaired. However, a caravan passing through the desert saved them. A few days later, it was discovered that the temporary passenger was not an airplane designer at all, but a primary school teacher who knew nothing about airplanes. Someone called him a liar after knowing the truth, and asked him angrily: Everyone's life can't be saved, and you still have the heart to lie to us? The teacher said: If I hadn't lied, would everyone still be alive now?
8. A mother and her husband divorced. At that time, children were not sensible. The mother told the child that your father is a sailor, and now he is abroad and will come back in a few days. Children are full of expectations for life, and they have never been distressed and feel inferior because they have lost a member of their family-their father. Later, the mother split up twice, found a new husband and established a new family, so she said to the child: Your father came back from abroad. In this way, there is no gap between the child and the father. The father regards the child as his own child because he is not a stranger. Counseling children every day will help them grow up healthily and become students in famous universities. One day, the child graduated from college, and she finally found out that her father was not a dear father. Although she cried, she was also distressed to be cheated. However, he will eventually understand that her mother is right, otherwise she won't have a happy childhood, a healthy mind, good academic performance, a happy family, and ... (too much).
9. My mother likes to eat shrimp, but she always gives the best shrimp to her dear daughter, saying that she likes to eat bitter shrimp heads. On this day, my mother brought out a pot of hot shrimp, and fresh and tender shrimp meat appeared in front of her daughter. My mother has to cook some other dishes. She wants to catch shrimp meat, but my mother always eats shrimp heads. She thought, the shrimp head must be delicious. I'll try it, too. I grabbed the shrimp head and threw it all up as soon as I ate it. I asked my mother why she likes to eat shrimp heads. Mother said, "I like eating." But I totally understand. My mother made me eat it. It's very kind of mom.
10, in the late 1950s and early 1960s, China had a dispute with the former Soviet Union, and the former Soviet Union government tore up the contract and withdrew its experts, which paralyzed our national industry for a time. In order to pay off the debts owed to the former Soviet Union, Chairman Mao called on the people of China to practice steel and launched an unprecedented Great Leap Forward. At that time, no one in China would know that our country was still in debt to others. I thought our country would live a carefree life after liberation, but the party and state leaders shouldered this burden. At that time, the state leaders lied to the people in good faith and honesty. At that time, China people's enthusiasm for working without pressure created an unprecedented miracle. At that time, the Iron Man Wang Jinxi was created, and Wang Jinxi led his oil drilling team to drill the first oil well in China … ..
1 1, an old mother has kidney disease, and her life will be in danger if she doesn't change her kidney. At this time, the eldest son stood up and asked for kidney donation, which hurt the old mother. The old mother strongly objected, saying that if so, it would be better to die. No way, we can only wait for a kidney source that matches the conditions, but it is really not easy to wait for such a kidney source, and my son is afraid of delaying his illness. I lied to my mother. I donated a kidney from my youth to my mother. After the operation was successful, the family kept it from their old mother. The most touching thing is that my mother and son live in the next ward. My mother doesn't know. When my mother wanted to see her eldest son, my family just lied to her that her son was on a business trip. After reading this report, I was moved to tears. Friends, does such a lie hinder honesty?
12, a little girl with leukemia, at the end of her life, when the doctor asked her what her greatest wish was, she said she wanted to go to Tiananmen Square to watch the flag-raising ceremony. How can doctors and parents not satisfy a dying girl's last wish? However, because her family lives in a distant Xinjiang, if her requirements are met, the doctor is afraid that the girl can't stand the fatigue of the journey, so a collective fabrication activity organized by more than 2,000 volunteers, doctors and the girl's family began. From boarding the train to taking the tour bus, along the way, from reporting to the waiter serving tea, and even to the conversation of passengers, everyone deliberately arranged. Finally, they came to a school, accompanied by the national anthem of a military band. The blind girl thought she really came to the long-awaited Tiananmen Square. When she was unable to raise her little hand to salute the national flag, all the people present shed tears. This collective lying action organized by more than 2,000 people, can you say that their white lies hinder honesty?
Debate question: 1, please give your opponent an example. Who was hurt by a white lie? Lead to the loss of integrity?
I want to ask the other debater to ask himself, who in the world will doubt the other person's personality and integrity because of a white lie?
Some novels in literary works are fabricated. Can you say these are all lies?
Debate sentence: 1, white lies are the hope of life, and sometimes they really change the trajectory of our lives.
2. We know that people live in this society and bear many obligations, and sometimes there are contradictions between them. When one obligation overrides another, it is necessary to alleviate the other obligation, so white lies are needed.
3. White lies are beautiful. When we tell some little lies for the happiness and hope of others, lies become understanding, respect and tolerance, which has magical power.
4. Lies out of good wishes are the nourishment of life and the source of faith. It makes people ignite the fire of hope from the heart and firmly believe that there is love, trust and emotion in the world, thus finding more reasons to laugh at life.
White lies endow humanity with spirituality, embody delicate feelings and mature thoughts, make people strong and persistent, fight for it involuntarily, and finally overcome vulnerability and survive.
If it is a mistake frankly, I choose a lie. If telling the truth, being frank and being reckless is a kind of harm, I choose lies. What's the harm in telling more lies if it's to stop being miserable and sad?
6. White lies, judging from the starting point and results of all kinds of white lies, are all aimed at protecting each other's feelings and maintaining each other's mental health and pleasure, which is a humanistic spirit.
7. Because of the existence of white lies, the world will become beautiful, warm and harmonious, full of love and sunshine, children will grow up healthily, the elderly will enjoy their old age and patients will be full of hope.
8. A white lie is not a malicious lie, just as a whale in the sea is not a fish and a mouse is not a mouse.
9. The other party argues that white lies are needed in life. A doctor told a cancer patient that your illness can be cured as long as you drink a coke every morning. So after hearing this, the patient's mood improved, he had confidence in his future life, and his condition miraculously recovered.
10, I also want to ask another debater, you just said that drinking coke can't cure cancer, which is correct, but it is not coke that cures cancer, but the patient's optimistic attitude.
1 1, I want to remind you that the starting point of honesty is good, and so is the starting point of white lies.
12, as far as Lian Wenxue's works are concerned, some novels are fabricated. Can you say these are all lies?
13, honesty is important, but white lies are indispensable in life. For example, when you meet a colleague at work, his makeup is ugly, but he asks if you draw well. Can you say that your painting is not good?
14, white lies are based on everyone's interests, so they are beneficial and indispensable in life. Therefore, I support the need for white lies in life.
When the poor mother left the only meal for her child and concealed the fact that the child was still starving, do you still accuse the kind and noble maternal love of being "dishonest"? In fact, we can see the shadow of white lies everywhere in our lives, from the comfort with tears before our sickbed to the politeness when we politely refuse, from the dried-up sea of love to the beautiful exaggeration written by poets, but they are not so terrible that the other debater turns pale when he talks about "lies".
15, white lies and honesty are different categories of ethics, and there will be no contradiction, just like cars will not crash into planes.
16, honesty: loyalty. In China culture, "faith" and "righteousness" constitute "faith", which is a humanistic spirit and code of conduct. "Faith" and "sincerity" are interlinked, forming the moral standard of "sincerity" and being a product. Modern western legal sages put forward the concept of "contract society", and all kinds of relationships between people are contract relationships. In such a society, honesty is the bottom line of social morality. After the establishment of market economy in China, honesty has become the most important criterion for establishing a standardized and orderly market. Therefore, "honesty" in the modern sense is the moral principle of market operation.
17, white lies and all kinds of white lies are aimed at protecting each other's emotions and maintaining their mental health and pleasure, which is a humanistic spirit. Because of the existence of white lies, the world will become better, warmer and more harmonious, the world will be full of love and sunshine, children will grow up healthily, the elderly will enjoy their old age and patients will be full of hope.
18, a white lie is not a malicious lie, just like a whale in the sea is not a fish and a mouse is not a mouse.
19, may I ask the other debater to ask himself, who in the world will doubt the other person's personality and integrity because of a white lie?
20. People always habitually give derogatory meanings to lies. This is because of the credibility crisis in today's society. In fact, lies are neutral. Even if the morality of honesty is put forward in today's society, it is not required to tell the truth in all situations and it is not allowed to lie. If you don't like the word "lie", we can mind that linguists invent a word, such as "false word" and "gentle word" to express the meaning of white lies.
2 1, a white lie, put aside ugliness and come to a beautiful world! White lies abandon selfishness and come to an honest world!
22. White lies are umbrellas of pure friendship, and the breeze is getting colder and colder because of kindness; White lies are the decoration of great love, and beauty shines with kindness; White lies are a dictionary of selfless affection, and doubts are particularly clear because of good intentions; White lies are the embodiment of moral integrity, and white lies are equal to honesty! White lies weave good hopes; A white lie can wash away the sadness of the soul. White lies are associated with morality; White lies are integrated with morality.
23. If you don't violate the principle of kindness, you won't violate the principle of good faith. "It is for this reason that we have to violate the principle of good faith.
Conclusion: First, white lies are out of goodwill, with the purpose and starting point of safeguarding the interests of others. As we all know, contradictions can be divided into universality and particularity, and particularity is contained in particularity and different from universality. The essence of a white lie determines that it is not a bad benefit, but is based on sincerity and kindness in the heart, while a malicious lie is an act of seeking benefits for the liar, which only regards others as a means and does not hesitate to hurt others, with a strong desire for profit and weak rationality. The lies that people who are kind in themselves are "forced" to tell in a certain state are well-intentioned and a kind of friendliness and concern for the subject. However, unscrupulous people, no matter how to disguise, how to rhetoric, how to rack their brains to crown their malicious lies with malicious purposes. Obviously, a white lie does not hinder honesty. Second: White lies are a way of life and a reflection of considerate quality. On the contrary, it is malicious and true. A prisoner was lured by the enemy to tell about his troop deployment. Does anyone think he is honest? Sincerity to the enemy is betrayal to the country! The director of the judicial expertise department of Guangzhou Brain Hospital said: "Lying is a human instinct. As for honesty, the key is what kind of lies to use. " A lie that rejects love without directly hurting the suitor; An expressive lie that is unwilling to disappoint the inviter under the attentions of men is indispensable in interpersonal communication. It makes us more handy when dealing with the world, instead of cutting off other people's heads and scratching ourselves like a hard stone with many edges. It can be seen that people need a layer of protective color and lubrication. Since being expelled from the Garden of Eden, people are not naked but surrounded by bark and grass leaves, aren't they? Third: white lies are a kind of lies, but not telling lies will definitely hinder honesty. It is necessary to analyze specific problems. Honesty is respected by everyone because it is kind and does not cheat. On the surface, white lies seem to hinder the principle of honesty, but in essence, they exist because telling the truth hinders the principle of good faith. White lies and honesty are actually the relationship of unity of opposites, and the so-called violation only provides a useful supplement to honesty, not an obstacle. For example, it is stipulated that pedestrians in the same direction can only occupy half of the road, which does not hinder everyone's passage! Fourth: A world without lies is like a dust-free earth. We agree that white lies do not hinder honesty, but this does not mean that we advocate honesty. The key is the degree. What is lying? If it is indiscriminate, it is defined as: not seeking truth from facts, telling lies, exaggerating, covering up and distorting the truth. Then our life is full of lies, big and small, from inflammatory advertisements to sweet words between lovers, full of exaggerated words, and even Lian Wenxue's works have become lies. Everyone has a standard of lying in his heart. How to grasp this degree is our first consideration. Compared with lies with bad motives, white lies will make people's feelings more harmonious and harmonious, and life more interesting. It can skillfully avoid conflicts, realize emotional communication and communicate smoothly. How can it interfere with honesty? So learn to distinguish malicious lies and protect yourself from harm; At the same time, improve your self-cultivation and think about the best way to solve the problem. "The way of a university lies in virtue, being close to the people and stopping at perfection". As for those that are warm and make life full of interest; As for those lies full of kindness and compassion, let them bloom!