Love needs to be based on equality of personality, independence of personality, mutual respect and admiration, and mutual affection.
What the poet wants is the kind of love where two people stand side by side and share the same boat through thick and thin. The poet compares himself to a kapok, a kapok standing side by side with the oak tree. The roots and leaves of the two trees are closely connected. The poet's persistence in love is no less than that of the ancients who "wish to be a winged bird in heaven and a twig on earth." The oak tree and the kapok stood quietly and firmly. When the wind blew, they swayed their branches and leaves and greeted each other, and they became connected. That is the language of their world, the fusion of souls, and the silent understanding.