Modern "lovers" refer to lovers and affectionate couples (only those who trample on love refer to the relationship between men and women). Although China is a country with developed love poems, Chinese culture has a euphemistic and implicit style towards men and women, and generally does not directly express their feelings or sex. Moreover, ancient Chinese is the corresponding expression rule of one word and one meaning, while "love" generally refers to feelings, friendship and friendship, and rarely refers to love, while there are few double words in pre-Qin, so there should be no "lover", and even if there is, it can't be the meaning of modern lovers. After the Qin Dynasty, two words appeared, and there were also many poems expressing love. However, the word "lover" generally refers to an ordinary sentient person (such as a friend with deep feelings), such as the famous folk song "Four Seasons Songs at Midnight" (***29, later included in Yuefu poems, etc. ), the third song "The scenery is as early as Ryutsuki, and the new forest is full of flowers and trees; Lovers play with the years, dragging their skirts. The "lover" here is a general term for women with deep feelings, not male and female lovers. In Zhang Jiuling's "Looking at the Moon and Thinking Far", "The lover is far away, and the night is long." The lover is a relative; The "lovers" in Wei's Master Book of Sending Fen Wang are ordinary friends, acquaintances and neighbors. These are the sources of "lovers" as friends and relatives.
However, there are also special circumstances in which love is expressed euphemistically. For example, in the Northern and Southern Dynasties, Xiao Yan wrote three love poems in Xiangyang (then called "colourful poems"). He wrote a pair of unmarried lovers (ancient lovers generally refer to men and women who have love, can refer to husband and wife, and can also refer to affectionate unmarried men and women) because the man joined the army, separated, missed and got together again. The first is about the separation of lovers, the second is about girls' yearning for men, and the third is about boys joining the army. The second song "The vegetation is not fragrant, and the flowers and leaves are colorful; Send a message to my old lover, knowing that I am thinking about each other. The "lover" here means "men and women in love" by borrowing ordinary "people with feelings". This is an example of ancient "lover" referring to lovers. In other cases, a "lover" is an ordinary person with feelings (such as a friend with deep feelings).