Similarity refers to the philosophical level of life, not trivial every day. It's not that you and your partner like dancing in the shower. There will be no feelings if the three views do not match, and even if there is, it will be an unstable state.
The unity of the three views is the foundation of being together. Many times we will list a series of similarities, such as two people like the same music, the same movie, the same brand of clothes, like the same person, and even have the same quirks. These are the external manifestations of the consistency of the three views. Only a small piece of evidence proves that the three views are consistent can we feel accepted, which is the cornerstone of a sense of security.
Differences are not just differences. You like spicy food, but he doesn't like spicy food. Just the two of you need to order a mandarin duck pot. This difference will not be happy. ......
Or maybe you like peeling bananas from one end, and he likes peeling bananas from the other. It has nothing to do with it. The differences that can really be constructed as soul mates must be different interpretations of the same three views. Only in this way can two people attract each other.
What do you mean by different interpretations of the same three views? Just like you both like to play the same game, you like to be a dps, he likes to be a therapist, he likes the same game to represent the same three views, and he likes different professions to help each other. In life, a lively and enthusiastic person is easily attracted by a quiet and calm person, because lively people are not stable enough, and they will feel deep and attractive when they see a stable person.
Similarly, a quiet and peaceful person will feel that lively and enthusiastic people are full of vitality and appeal, which is exactly what they desire. In other words, a person who is unconstrained style will be attracted by a slow and steady person, because if he is unconstrained style, he will crash; A slow and steady person will appreciate the romantic temperament of an unrestrained person. To sum up, the similarities make them feel accepted, and the differences make them attract each other.