A good friend was admitted to college with her twin brother at the same time, but she was born two hours earlier. Because only one person could study at home, she was forced to give her brother the opportunity to go to school.
Yes, it was forced. In fact, her initial idea was to let her brother go to school, but before she could say it, her parents tried to persuade her: "You are a sister, let your brother go."
"Why? ! "After hearing this sentence, she didn't want to give up.
"Just because he is your brother." Parents are unanimous and firm.
"I won't let it!"
In a stalemate, her father tore up her admission notice.
The affection between her and her brother and parents dropped to freezing point.
Brothers and sisters are the closest relationship in the world, and it should be "love" rather than "letting" or "listening" to maintain this relationship.
With love, the big one will naturally give way to the small one, and the small one will listen to the big one.
This kind of love is based on the love of parents. In other words, children at home get the same love from their parents, and will not be treated differently because of age or gender differences, let alone worry about losing their parents' love.
When parents give the same love to each child and let them know that they are as beautiful and important in their parents' hearts, children will share their love with their brothers and sisters like parents.
When sharing love, children begin to be humble and respectful involuntarily, which is what we emphasize "letting" and "listening".
Just like the story of a good friend, if her parents give her the same love as her twin brother, then she will willingly let her brother go to school. At that time, she seemed to be competing with her brother for the opportunity to go to school, but in fact she was competing for the love of her parents.
When a child is sure that his parents love him and his brothers and sisters love him, the struggle loses its meaning. Finally, no matter who goes to college, they all go because of love, and those who don't go leave because of love.
There is no need for "comity" and "obedience". No matter who is older or younger, there is "love" to solve disputes, isn't there?