One can't live without friends. As the saying goes, "a fence has three piles, and a hero has three gangs." People who have no friends usually feel isolated. Friends are the catalyst of success, the sedative of the soul and one of the sources of happiness.
One kind of friend is a fair-weather friend. He swore that he would do anything for you. At this point, I still dislike you as a passerby; Or ungrateful, proud of selling friends, and hitting people when they are down.
There is also a kind of friend who can only be * * bitter, but not * * * rich. When the other person is depressed, or down and out, or reduced to the ends of the earth, or trapped in a wolf's den, he needs your care, comfort and help, and treats you sincerely, and works with you and Qi Xin to tide over the difficulties in Qi Xin. Once your luck changes, you become successful, and your career is booming, you will be regarded as a stranger, a stumbling block or a dangerous competitor.
True friends can share weal and woe with wealth. He sincerely wishes you and helps you, and is willing to sacrifice his own interests, even his life. Such friends are rare in the world.
As the saying goes, "it takes a hundred days to get red, but people can't get well for a hundred days." Friends who keep friendship for life are valuable. Because friendship is not only reflected in loyalty, feelings and actions, but also depends on the degree of soul singing. Generally speaking, there is little room for friendship between the opposite sex, needless to say; When there is a big gap between education level and social experience, friendship is difficult to stand on; When the gap between social fame, status and wealth is obvious, friendship is also difficult to stand on; In the case of great differences in appearance, figure, lightness and dull temperament, friendship may not easily take root and sprout. In addition, differences in living habits and customs and difficulties in language communication are also obstacles to friendship. However, the essence of friendship is based on mutual needs, either from reality or from the soul. The other party can not only provide corresponding words, feelings and even materials as much as possible to meet the needs of the other party, but also actively adapt to some needs of the other party with a sincere attitude.
In many cases, the interests of friends will be directly or indirectly related to the interests of the collective, the region and even the whole society, some of which are coordinated and some are in conflict with each other. It is often difficult for a nation whose feelings or friendship are greater than social rationality to accelerate the development of the country and society on the basis of maximizing interests. Friendship must abide by laws and moral norms, which is the symbol of modern civilized society.
Among all sentient beings, people at both poles have almost no friendship. One is the weakest person, who is spurned by everyone, such as the unkempt mentally handicapped wandering in the street; One is the strongest person who dares not disobey or has to obey, such as a tyrant or dictator. There is another kind of person who is difficult to get friendship, that is, he is selfish. Such people need friendship, but they are unwilling or don't know whether to give it to others. When you get someone's friendship, you don't realize that you should give it back to him.
There are three prerequisites for making friends: truth, kindness and beauty, that is, being able to treat you sincerely, being kind-hearted, and showing good social morality in words and deeds, such as not respecting the old and loving the young, stealing works, and not paying attention to hygiene. These are all bad behaviors; Secondly, the other party should be able to better understand your soul connotation, such as ideals, views on various things, agree with your main views, support your career and understand your difficulties. If you want others to do it, you must do it first, and the requirements of your friends should also be used as a constraint on yourself. Such friends and friendship are idealized, like Chun Xue. To achieve this state, we must constantly improve ourselves, establish an ideal friendship in the process of perfection, and achieve.
In real life, the standard of measuring a friend is relative. The fact of friendship is often very complicated, and the background of its formation is varied. If we use "birds of a feather" and "like-minded" to summarize a certain type of friendship, then the present situation of friendship is a mixture of good and bad. But in a word, friends are necessary to people.