Adversity in life
Everyone may have a bad environment, rough times and hard work. To put it more seriously, it can almost be said that each of us is doomed to suffer all kinds of hardships before we are born into this world.
But this does not mean that, therefore, we should think that there is no fun in the world, or that life is worthless. Although we are destined to live by labor and work, although we are destined to have secular desires to taste all kinds of joys and sorrows in the world; But on the other hand, we have a chance to enjoy the world with flowers and birds. We still have the wisdom to understand the true meaning of human suffering, and we are also in the mood to understand how precious human love, kindness and sympathy are. In a word, compared with the price we paid, our harvest is worthwhile.
I often compare life to a trip, and hardship and suffering are regarded as the travel expenses we have to spend. During this trip, we can get all kinds of colorful experiences. When we are in pain, we can imagine it as wading through mountains and rivers, taking narrow paths and crossing dangerous bridges on the journey. When we are happy, we arrive at a beautiful place, unload our luggage, wash away the dust and enjoy our stay. Just like traveling, you won't stay in a certain scenic spot forever, just stay for a while, so you have to pack your bags and find another beautiful place.
Therefore, we should all take it for granted that the world is bitter and happy. When doing business smoothly, the financial resources are rolling and inexhaustible, and that is a good time. Once you encounter risks and adversity, you will have to live a hard life again. When adversity comes, people who are not strong enough will inevitably end their trip in a hurry and admit defeat early.
If we are strong enough, we should understand that we are here to experience these risks.
As a decent traveler, it takes courage. Only those who have the courage to take risks can reach the scenic spots of life and experience the joy of "saving the day", "letting the night break" and "bringing spring back" that ordinary people can't experience. Therefore, in the face of adversity, be patient, be patient, and show more courage and confidence; Don't just look at the hardships of the journey, but light the lamp of hope and see where you are going.
Each of us sometimes faces environmental pressure; But at this time, instead of crying, it is better to cultivate what you have slowly. When the opportunity comes and you have enough conditions to deal with it, things will get better. Many facts make me believe that a person's life needs can be minimized while maintaining an optimistic attitude. As long as you don't let yourself be depressed, the environment can't help you.
People who know the fun of traveling are often not interested in flat and accessible places, but just like looking for steep mountains, undeveloped forests or uninhabited islands. They believe that the fun of traveling lies in overcoming the difficulties on the way, in reaching places that are difficult for others to reach, and in discovering new and beautiful places.
The same is true of people who know life. They often don't like a stable and ordinary life, but they have the courage to try some difficult and adventurous lives, but this kind of life is meaningful and meaningful. Because they know that when the difficulties are overcome and the danger is over, they will taste some real tastes of life, and they will truly understand how bitter, happy, poor and lovelorn life is, but their greatest gain is often the happiness of success.
As the saying goes, "you have to suffer to be a master." The so-called "people are superior" is not a general utilitarian thought; On the contrary, you can be more open-minded, far-sighted and do things with ease than the average person in life. What's the point if we lived in a greenhouse like a flower when we were young and only saw a little sunshine and the temperature we could adapt to?
A contented mind is perpetual feast.
Whenever I feel clear and depressed, or when I feel tired after being busy for a while, or when I am tired of regular work occasionally, I just force myself to walk in the street.
Maybe it's a hot day with a high umbrella and noon. At this time in the street, I will see some sweaty people, pulling carts or carrying burdens, busy with their lives.
I also saw one or two women in rags, carrying their children on their backs, holding them in one hand and carrying baskets in the other. They never knew how far away they were, and they were going to unknown places.
It may be a stormy night with few pedestrians, but there are still one or two lonely noodle vendors waiting for their customers on the bleak street corner. He was tired all day and looked forward to it all night, but he didn't necessarily get what he wanted.
The girl in the fruit shop on the corner is dragging her sore feet, cleaning the peel with rough hands and counting the goods. She has a tired and bitter expression on her face, which she must admit; After she slept for four or five hours, it was still a tiring day, another day.
These people, they work hard for their lives. They lack much more than I do, but the weight of their lives is much heavier than mine. After seeing them, I began to feel glad for my unique advantages. Then those who are tired, bored and depressed will be relieved. As for disappearing; At the same time, a new belief may be born, which stems from a feeling of luck-that is, I should live up to this unique grace. It's not an exaggeration at all, because I made a comparison with others' greater efforts and found that I was not satisfied with my life and felt ashamed.
We will see people who are as hard, meaningless and burdened as camels at any time. Just being "alive" has exhausted them. But they can still pin their hopes on tomorrow or some day in the future. They just want to be so tired one day, and that's enough. I believe that if I were in their position, I would be like them. When I have no money and have to hike in the hot sun, my best hope is only a bus ticket. When I only have four hours of sleep and twenty hours of work all year round, my best hope must be to sleep with my head covered for a day without being disturbed.
However, I also understand that every time a person meets a minimum wish, there will inevitably be a second wish;
And there will be more and greater wishes in the future. No one thinks that there is nothing missing in his life, although if he retreats to a bad living environment, he will yearn for or miss this life; But when he is in a life worthy of satisfaction or even envy, he always feels poor and unhappy.
Of course, on the bright side, because we are often dissatisfied with our present situation, we will invest more intelligence and physical strength to make greater progress, and we will have more creations and inventions. But the bad side is that if a person is only dissatisfied with life, bored and complaining negatively, it can only be said that he is ungrateful for luck.
Because no matter whether we feel that we have suffered enough or not, there are always people who live harder, more meaningless and even more hopeless than us, but they live there seriously with hope. In their hearts, if one day they can live the life we live now, they will certainly thank any god they believe in with the greatest piety. They will feel satisfied and have no more extravagant hopes and demands.
Everyone is tired, bored and unsatisfied. At this time, we should imagine ourselves in a more desperate, more difficult and more difficult situation.
Happiness needs comparison. It has no end, no standard, only depends on how you know it and how you explain it.
The pleasure of reading
The ancients said, "If you don't study for three days, your words will be tasteless and your face will be disgusting."
At first glance, this seems serious. However, if you think about it carefully, it makes sense.
If a person who likes reading hasn't been near books for a long time, it must be because he is busy, or because his mind is distracted by other trivial things, so that he has no time and mood to study. And these trivial life projects make people busy, which is the biggest reason why a person's thoughts are superficial and vulgar. When thoughts are superficial and vulgar, words will naturally be tasteless and face will be a pity.
Of course, we can't live without reality, but taking a small part of time to read books every day can keep our minds clear and flexible.
There is a saying in ancient poetry that "ask the canal to be clear, so that there is flowing water at the source". Our thoughts need living water from the source, and a large part of this living water comes from reading. Reading some useful books every day will nourish the spirit, and our manners will not be "tasteless" and "disgusting"
It is really unfortunate for a person to say that he is too busy to study. However, most of us are very busy, as if we were exhausted after finishing the work we had to finish in a day. However, we can still admit that no matter how busy a person is, he can still spare ten or twenty minutes a day. The problem is that when we are free, we may not have suitable books to read at hand, and we are too lazy to move at the thought of rummaging through the bookcases.
Therefore, in order to use our short free time to read books at any time, we might as well always put one or two books we intend to read in the most accessible place. For example, if you are a civil servant who works eight hours a day, there will always be some time to rest on the sofa or rattan chair after work and dinner. At this time, if your book is placed under the coffee table next to you, you don't have to get up, you can get it as soon as possible, and you naturally want to read while smoking and drinking tea.
Or if you are a housewife, you can put books you want to read but have no time to read on your pillow. Most of the time, housewives are busy eating lunch, cleaning up, lying down and taking a nap. You can read a book while resting. Although you may only read one or two pages, after a long time, your academic performance will be considerable.
For people engaged in manual labor, reading is a kind of rest. Reading is a relief for people who use their brains to do things. When we are bored, reading can certainly relieve boredom; When we are sad, reading can also help us forget our troubles.
Reading useful books can lift us from trivial and messy reality to a more detached realm, and we can look back at our busy addiction. Every day, all the anxieties, troubles, worries and sorrows that lead to major events, and all the disputes involving you, are no longer worthy of your serious attention!
Books are the nourishment of human spirit. Without it, life would be flawed.
Dr. Lin Yutang suggested that people look for "literary lovers" in the art of life. He said: "There are so-called similar things in the world. Therefore, one must find people with similar temperament from writers at all times and in all countries. " If you can often borrow a book and talk to a writer close to your spiritual field, what he says is what you want to say, and his joys and sorrows are your joys and sorrows; And he gave you some inspiration to know the world outside your narrow world; At this time, you can get the same happiness as making intimate friends.
If you are glad that you are not a "busy man", then, on a lonely rainy day, in a long afternoon, during a week-long holiday, you will find a book that you can understand and read best, and you will really feel like an old friend.
Some people in the world like to save money, some like to collect antiques, some like to collect stamps for fun, and some like to store famous sayings in books in their minds. I think the last storage method is the most economical and safest. Because it is not afraid of being stolen and lost, and it is easy to carry and take.
In particular, it can make people elegant and majestic, far better than the luxury on clothes or the accumulation of gold and jade in the house, and it can make you enjoy leisurely and comfortable happiness, and it is by no means comparable to those who are diligent in making profits all the year round for fear that their savings will go down the drain.
Trilogy of success
Only by working hard can you get ahead.
Many people with lofty ideals ignore the truth that many a mickle makes a mickle. They just want to impress others instead of working hard. It was not until one day that he saw that those who started later than him and those who were less talented than him had already made considerable gains that he realized that he still had nothing in this garden. Only then did he understand that it was not that God didn't give him an ideal or a wish, but that he only waited for a bumper harvest and forgot to sow.
I have a friend who often comes to chat with me in his spare time. He studies law, but he is keen on drama. He often wants to have a chance to jump on the screen and become a big star. However, I have never seen him try to enter the film and television industry. So I asked him, "Why not give it a try?"
He said, "I don't want to compete with those fledgling children." I'm almost thirty years old, and even if I get in, I'm just a bit part. What's the point? I have to wait for the big company to find the protagonist of a movie and my personality. As soon as I go, I will be hired, and that will be a blockbuster. "
However, how many lucky people like this can there be? So, he had to let the years pass, and the wish was still a wish. Because he refused to start from scratch, he would never reach his ideal heaven.
It's no use worrying about your unfulfilled wishes. If you want to achieve your goal, you must start from scratch. The so-called "climbing high will make you feel inferior, and walking far will make you feel inferior"; Just like climbing a mountain, you should keep your head down and climb patiently. Only when you have worked hard and bowed your head can you see how many difficulties you have overcome and how many dangerous roads you have gone through.
This small success again and again will gradually accumulate into a great success closer to the ideal goal.
The ultimate goal can never be achieved in a blink of an eye. It's useless to look at distant goals in an empty way before paying the price of hard work and surrender. Only by starting from the foundation and moving towards the goal step by step will we gradually approach the goal and achieve it.
The ancients said, "Only by working hard can you get ahead." If a seed does not go through the process of struggling in hard soil, it will stop at a withered seed and never germinate and grow into a big tree.
Ride the tide at high tide.
Madame Curie said: "The weak wait for opportunities, and the strong create opportunities." This is really a wise saying. In Taipei's National Evening News, there was a story about Dr. Lin Yutang in those days:
"One day, a gentleman invited Ms. Pearl Buck, a famous American writer, and Mr. Lin Yutang was also invited, so he asked the host to arrange his seat next to Pearl Buck. During the dinner, Pearl Buck knew that there were many China writers on the table, so she said,' Why don't you publish your new book for the American publishing industry? I want to introduce myself. "
"At that time, the people in the seat thought that this was just an ordinary perfunctory remark and ignored it; Du Linbo agreed on the spot, and returned to China two days later to integrate her English prose published in China into a huge volume and send it to Pearl S. Buck for revision. Sai was very impressed with Dr. Lin, and then she tried her best to help him succeed.
"It is said that there were Wu, Wen, Quan Zengqi and others among the guests that day, and their English level was no less than that of Dr. Lin. Therefore, if they are serious about Lin afterwards and can send their works to Sai's on the same day, then the winner today may not be Lin. "
From this story, it seems that a person's success depends on genius and hard work, but he is good at creating opportunities, grasping opportunities in time, not following the rules, not waiting, not shrinking, not hesitating, doing what he wants, having the courage to try and the determination to practice, and how many factors add up to be a person's success. Therefore, although some people's success lies in a very accidental opportunity, it is no accident that this accidental opportunity can be discovered, seized and fully utilized.
Opportunity is a gap in your favor, because there are many complicated factors in the world.
This gap is fleeting, and it is really necessary to "seize" the opportunity quickly, instead of sitting there waiting or delaying.
The western proverb says, "Opportunity won't knock on your door again." This is not to say that it is too big, but it is also manipulated and pushed among all things.
Waiting is the biggest reason for people's failure, so it is said: "the weak wait for opportunities, and the strong create opportunities"; The so-called "creating opportunities" is just to add one thousandth of one's own strength to the operation of thousands of factors, hoping to make the operation of "opportunities" a moment that is beneficial to oneself. Dr Lin Yutang's story can be said to be the best proof.
Wandering and waiting are the enemies of our success. Because many people have no confidence in the opportunity before them, they easily let it go when they hesitate. It's true that the opportunity never comes again, because even if it is willing to come to your door again, it will still slip away if you don't get rid of the habit of wandering around.
take the bypass
We often see the lost dragonfly desperately flying to the window in the room, intending to go to that vast place. It saw the light coming through the glass window and flew indomitable, but it hit the glass every time. You must struggle on this issue for a long time before you come to your senses. Then it walked around the room, plucked up courage, and still flew towards the window. Of course, it is still "hitting the wall and returning."
In fact, the door next to it is open. It doesn't want to try that door because it doesn't look as bright as this one.
The pursuit of light is the nature of most creatures. No matter how they suffer failures or setbacks, they always strive for a bright place. However, when we saw the dragonfly that hit the wall and returned, we couldn't help but tell it: sometimes in order to achieve our goal, we have to change to a seemingly distant and hopeless direction; Otherwise, you will have to beat around the bush between trying and failing forever until you come back completely failed.
Although the indomitable spirit is admirable, if we can see the target here, but there are only steep peaks in front of us and there is no path to climb, we have to change direction and make a detour.
In order to achieve the goal, taking a temporary road contrary to the ideal is sometimes a sign of wisdom. In fact, there are few convenient direct paths on the road to life.
We often have to put our goals behind us and patiently do the work of cutting through thorns and paving the way. We often have to try many seemingly dark and hopeless roads before we find ourselves a little closer to our goal.
As long as we remember our ideal direction, it may not be a mistake to beat around the bush.
Don't try to be brave, don't be like that stubborn dragonfly. Please use your wisdom and patience! You can temporarily condescend to a career you don't like, you can temporarily deal with people you hate or despise, you can temporarily walk into a dark culvert-as long as you don't forget to come out from the other end of it, as long as you always know that all this is just a means, not your ultimate goal, you don't have to be discouraged and sad; You don't have to care how people around you criticize or laugh at you.
French writer Lennon said, "Don't worry! The road we took was a winding mountain road. We have to turn a lot and walk a lot. Sometimes we feel as if our backs are on the target. In fact, we are always getting closer and closer to the goal. "
People who know how to beat around the bush and take fewer detours are often the first to climb the mountain.
Tuesday, July 28th, 2009, 04:0 1, save your own function.
There is a movie "Cherry Blossom Love" in Taipei. The heroine is a Japanese girl, and her American husband is very angry because she wants to be a double eyelid surgery.
Old-fashioned big families, because many people talk a lot, are often full of speculation and resentment. People tend to form the habit of cynicism and revenge.
It is common for people to talk cruelly. If you hurt me, I will get back at you, which is considered a great spiritual victory. But in fact, we know that no matter how big or small the dispute is, we will not feel comfortable when we have disputes and opinions. Whether we win or lose, we will inevitably suffer considerable mental losses. The result of fighting for trivial matters must be to turn unintentional into intentional, to expand trivial matters into major events, and it will be even more difficult to live in peace in the future.
Harmony can bring good luck. If you want to make your life happy and peaceful, don't forget the word "harmony".
Harmony is not weakness. A person who knows how to use the word harmony will become his invisible weapon. You can passively avoid being involved in the whirlpool of useless arguments, take the initiative to defeat the enemy who is unfavorable to him, and further turn the enemy into a friend.
Overcome inertia
You may ask: How can we overcome our inertia and push ourselves up?
Of course, inertia is really something that is not easy to overcome.
There are not many people who are not lazy, and diligent people are driven by the power of will.
Therefore, we might as well say: "Will is a force to overcome inertia." And the formation of this will depends on a goal worth pursuing. With this goal waiting for us to achieve, we will feel justified in getting ourselves into the water.
As the saying goes, "Who wants to get up early if people are not profitable?"
"Profit" is one of the purposes. People who like "profit" will naturally let themselves get up early in pursuit of "profit" Of course, not everyone in the world likes "profit". Even if everyone likes "profit", not everyone takes "profit" as the most worthy goal.
Then, what to replace this "profit" depends on our own ideals or preferences!
Therefore, if you want to overcome your inertia, you must first set an ideal goal for yourself.
Ask yourself, what do you want? What do you like most and yearn for most? Find this answer for yourself in your mind first. Maybe, you like to get rich. Maybe you want to get yourself an orchard after you get rich. Maybe you plan to go abroad, maybe you want to take the college entrance examination, maybe you want to be a musician, painter or writer. Then, after you set a goal, you will find that many items in your life suddenly become meaningful, while others suddenly become unimportant. At that time, you will find some motivation to start yourself and stop being so aimless and lazy.
Of course, it's just a big goal, sometimes it feels far away and too abstract. Then, we might as well set some small goals for ourselves after setting big goals.
For example, if you want to save money to buy yourself an orchard, you must first try to save money. The so-called saving money, on the one hand, is of course open source, on the other hand, it is throttling. The way to open source is to work, and the way to cut expenditure is to work hard and not wander around. After this small goal is established, you will begin to feel that you must get up early in the morning so as not to waste time in bed. You can use this time to deliver newspapers and milk, or to clean up the garden instead of domestic workers.
So, you think it is meaningful to get up early. You used to think it was okay to get up early, or you didn't know where to start. And when you have a goal, before you get up, you already know what to do after getting up, and you will pull yourself out of bed and do things smoothly.
In the same way. If you want to achieve something in your studies, the only way to achieve this goal is to study hard. Then, you can start to find some books you should read and put them on your desk, arrange them in order and read them in the same way, so that you will naturally be willing to make full use of your time to read, remember and write. Instead of just worrying in your heart and not knowing what to do.
Setting goals is one of the ways to help yourself overcome laziness. In addition, try to find some strength to encourage yourself. Because the road to success is very long, it is not easy to keep interest for a long time without encouragement in this long road. And the power of this encouragement depends on what you want to pursue. If you want to save money, you can naturally get the most comfort and encouragement from the bank passbook. If it is other, then, like friends who encourage each other, their own work achievements, teachers' rewards and so on. Pay attention to arrange some such opportunities for yourself.
Clear goals and appropriate encouragement can make our progress faster and smoother.
However, the most important thing is that we should always remember one sentence repeatedly in our hearts:
"Life is too short to allow us to waste too much time!"
Xizhe said, "Live as if you were going to die tomorrow."
This really has extraordinary urging power, and no one knows when his life will end.
Most people expect to live to be a hundred years old, so in his twenties and thirties, he was still there leisurely and unhurriedly.
People who live seriously often believe that only the short present that they can master is his reliable life.
So he tried to use every minute of his life to push himself.
If life is not wasted, there will be more chances of success.
For losers.
A person will be particularly depressed when he has just received some blows. "During that time, you will feel like a boxer who failed in boxing. You were knocked down by that heavy punch, and your ears were full of laughter from the audience and the feeling of failure. At that time, you will feel that you don't want to get up at all! I don't think you have the strength to get up!
However, you will get up. Whether before or after the referee counts to ten. Moreover, you will gradually recover your strength, your wounds will heal, your eyes will open again and see a bright future.
You will forget the ridicule of the audience and the shame of failure. You will find a way that suits you-don't be a beaten player again.
Since you are not fit to win in the ring, you should calm down and look for another direction. You can win in this respect. Or, if you don't strive for victory, you can be safe and happy without the humiliation of failure.
Ignore other people's ideas! Some people are possessed by a little magic and superstitious about that glorious name, ignoring everyone's unique expertise.
I advise you not to be nervous! It is inevitable that you are depressed these days. You need time to regain your sanity and strength.
Relax. After a while, try to find a correct direction and try again. These days, you might as well find something you like to do and write your troubles in your diary. After a while, you will find that the pain of failure has gradually healed, and then you will have new courage and strength to open up new prospects for yourself.
Wish you success!
All detours will not be in vain. Every step you take on the road of life is bound to gain experience. No matter whether this step is right or wrong, "right" has the right harvest and "wrong" has the wrong lesson. As a result of detours and taking the wrong road, you are like getting lost in the mountains. When others are anxious about your danger, you have collected some rare flowers and fruits and obtained some rare birds and animals. Moreover, you know more about the road and exercise more strength and courage.
Smooth sailing is enviable, but that kind of godsend luck is rare, which can be met but not sought. The only reliable thing is the compass in your heart. No matter how far you go, no matter how tight the traffic jam is, as long as you don't forget the direction, you will reach your goal one day.
Somewhere, tomorrow
As the saying goes, life is somewhere tomorrow. Sometimes we feel that the world is very big, and the aggregation between people depends on rare luck or chance. If there is no fate, you may never meet once in your life. However, sometimes, we feel that the world is small. I know everyone I come into contact with. People you didn't know before may find out after chatting for a while.
Ah! So you know someone! Or we may find that we are actually related. Then, everyone will sigh and say with relief: the world is too small!
No matter how big or small the world is, the encounter between people is always unpredictable. Maybe there are so many people who miss each other so much that they can't meet each other. Some people may be afraid to touch each other, but the narrower the road, the more they will touch each other.