"That's very kind of you! Everything can be successful. "
"How do you do it every time? All thumbs! " ?
"Why are you so not sensible? Mom and dad work every day, not just for your future success? " ?
"Why can't you even do this well? If you can't do it today, don't think about this month's bonus! "
"And scored a big order, not the kui is a pin crown! ! ! "
You must be familiar with all this.
Whether children or adults, we often hear such comments and are inadvertently labeled differently.
Under the influence of these labels, it will also unconsciously develop in the direction of guidance.
What is tagging?
Simply put, a person judges according to the performance of others and sums up a word that best represents its characteristics. At the same time, the subjective consciousness and one-sidedness of this evaluation exist.
Why do you like labeling?
When shopping in the supermarket, labels can help us quickly locate and find the goods we need, shorten the purchase time and improve efficiency.
In interpersonal communication, through the form of labeling, we can simply sort out, establish a preliminary impression and quickly understand.
Limitations of labels
As mentioned above, labels can facilitate us to quickly understand and make judgments, and at the same time, due to the subjectivity of evaluation and the small sample study of the observed objects, it is not enough to make a true and objective evaluation.
At the same time, labels are oriented, whether positive or negative for yourself or others, will directly or indirectly affect your judgment and consciousness.
Labels are fixed, but people can change and evolve. This is only a preliminary impression.
You can't define yourself and others with a simple label, because people's knowledge and realm are constantly changing. Through simple label definition, it is easy to solidify our thinking, but it is also in a misleading situation.
How to face labeling
Labeling is easy, but it is difficult to make labels play an active role.
For yourself, downplay the labels posted by others. Encourage and guide yourself with positive words and maxims in the morning, and start a new day with a positive attitude.
Give others affirmation and encouragement and find the "bright spot" in them. Use words to strengthen his/her advantages and guide him to develop in a better direction. With more positive people around you, you will be influenced by this enterprising environment and become a better person.
I hope that everyone will warm people's hearts with warm-hearted and positive words in their work and life, guide others with high-quality and upward labels, and achieve themselves at the same time.