The most sincere maternal love, the most selfless maternal love, the greatest maternal love and the most eternal maternal love in the world. After that, I have a deeper understanding of maternal love. ...
Snowflakes were floating in the sky that day. I took my umbrella home, and accidentally, it fell into the mud and got dirty. When I got home, I was afraid that my mother would scold me and wanted to wash. But on such a cold day, how cold it should be to get into the water! So I quietly put my umbrella in the corner of the door.
I was about to go to bed at night when I suddenly heard the rhythmic sound of "brushing". I crept into the bathroom, opened a door and looked inside. My mother is brushing her umbrella. I saw her hunched over, holding the scrubber tightly in one hand. The scrubber was covered with black mud, and black foam floated on her hand. Hold the umbrella with the other hand, and the umbrella is tilted in the basin. The water in the basin has almost turned into sewage, but my mother is still brushing it carefully. Her hands wiped the mud on the umbrella and pressed her waist against the wall from time to time. She has a painful expression on her face. Sweat oozed from her forehead. She frowned and brushed meticulously. The white umbrella surface slowly appeared, and the black mud was slowly smoothed out. Mother gradually showed a gratified smile, and her locked eyebrows relaxed again.
Suddenly, my mother pulled back her blushing hand with lightning speed, and her brow wrinkled into a ball. There are several blood stains on the hands, so many calluses! My mother choked back the pain, gasped, as if it could relieve the pain, and reached into the biting cold water ... I pursed my lips and couldn't believe it. Mother's hand retracted and extended again and again. How much pain she has suffered! Finally, my mother reluctantly cleaned the umbrella, and several elegant and pure lilies appeared on the white umbrella surface, but can this lily compare with my mother's love for me? Can't! No matter how elegant and pure the lily is, how can it compare with the sincerity and touching of maternal love? Nothing in the world can compare with great maternal love! Slowly, my eyes are moist, and I don't know why, my heart is always uneasy. ...
At this time, my mother stood up and leaned against the wall, but I couldn't move against the wall. I wiped my tears, hurriedly pushed open the door, hugged my mother, but accidentally touched her hand. Oh, my God! Is this still mom's soft, delicate and warm hand? I choked up and said, "Mom, your hand ..." My mother was taken aback and then smiled and said, "Son, why are you awake? I'm really sorry. I just want to pour water, it's not in the way. Oh, hands ... hands are very good ... you go to sleep quickly! " "What should I do? I soiled my umbrella, but you brushed it. How can your hand be okay? ..... go back to your room and sleep. I will help you. " I fought back my tears and helped my mother to bed. Turning around, I saw my mother's gratified smile from the corner of my eye ... I picked up the washbasin and suddenly understood why my mother always pressed her waist against the wall. Tears welled up in my eyes-it turned out that my mother's back pain was back again. ...
Mom, you let me have a deeper understanding of maternal love: maternal love is the vast sea, I am a boat, nestled in the embrace of the sea; Maternal love is a vast sky, and I am a cloud floating on the edge of the sky; If maternal love is warm sunshine, I am a grass, enjoying the love given to me by sunshine.
In fact, I think maternal love is more like a pure umbrella. It is everywhere, and it is also silently dedicated, just as true and beautiful. ...
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My father abandoned my mother when she was a child. In order to repay her adoptive father's kindness, she was admitted to the university, rented a house in the countryside dozens of kilometers away from the school, and took her paralyzed adoptive father to study. In order to treat her adoptive father, she sold newspapers, distributed leaflets and served dishes. She also taught four times with a scholarship. After graduating from college, she resolutely gave up the opportunity to work in the city and came to the rural middle school to teach with her adoptive father before she died ... This was the year of China in 2006.
The true story of Chen Jingdao, a female high school teacher in Hubei Province who was awarded the title of "Educational News Person".
Teacher Chen's story is reminiscent of a special winter vacation homework arranged by a college of Zhengzhou University not long ago. One of the contents of this winter vacation homework, with the theme of "The whole family is grateful to their parents during the winter vacation", is to let them kowtow to their parents according to the traditional etiquette in China on New Year's Day to thank their parents for their kindness in raising them. Prior to this, a school had caused great repercussions because of the special assignment of "washing parents' feet once" for students.
From "taking my father to study and teach" to "taking my mother to travel for the New Year", from "washing my parents' feet once" to "kowtowing to my parents", the topic of filial piety in the new period has once again become the focus of attention.
Why is filial piety to the elderly easier said than done?
It is not unreasonable to give students special homework and let parents "wash their feet once" and "knock their heads". Many students have their own opinions on how to be filial, but many people just stay in words and don't put them into practice well.
A sample survey on the behavior of young people in Wuhan to honor the elderly shows that 63% people can write the exact time of their parents' birthdays, and 68% people know what their parents like best. But 65% people often contradict their parents and lose their temper, and about 70% people never take the initiative to participate in housework. The problem of filial piety to the elderly is outstanding.
"In fact, I understand the truth, but sometimes I just can't control myself. After all, many concepts are different from my parents' generation, and they will quarrel if they are not careful. " Xiao Wu from the journalism department of Zhejiang University thinks this phenomenon is normal.
Professor Xia Xueluan, an expert in adolescent psychology and a sociologist in Peking University, analyzed that the fundamental reason for the deviation between students' filial piety and filial piety is the structural fracture and value loss in the transitional society, and the lack of filial piety education for children in families and schools. For example, many students have never heard the traditional story of "honoring the elderly" at home; Schools blindly pursue the enrollment rate, and the ideological education of "respecting the elderly" is often ignored in the curriculum. At the same time, it is also a very important reason that parents spoil their children and weaken their words and deeds.
Xia Xueluan suggested that parents should make use of various opportunities and forms to educate their children on filial piety, for example, let them know about their mother's pregnancy and the difficulties of having children on their birthdays. Primary and secondary schools should incorporate "filial piety" into school moral education, and incorporate touching stories such as "sleeping on the ice gets carp" and "crows feed back" into primary and secondary school textbooks to let teenagers know what filial piety is and how to do it.
Which is more important, content or form?
Filial piety is the oldest, most basic, most important and far-reaching traditional ethical concept in China culture. In the Book of Filial Piety, "filial piety" is clearly affirmed as "the foundation of virtue" and "the destiny of teaching" and regarded as "the core of benevolence" by Confucianism.
For thousands of years, rituals such as "kowtowing", "bowing down", "waking up in the morning", "Pima Dai Xiao" and "wake" have always carried the contents of the Chinese nation's "filial piety" culture. Contemporary Japan, South Korea, Singapore and other countries have strictly preserved many traditional filial piety rituals and norms. For example, in South Korea, every household has to rush back to the eldest brother's or eldest son's home before the first day of the first lunar month to attend the tea ceremony for ancestor worship and pay New Year greetings to each other. When greeting the New Year, the elders sit cross-legged, the younger generation kneels and kowtows in front of the elders, and the elders bow their heads to the adult younger generation in return.
"A certain content must be expressed in a certain form." Xia Xueluan does not deny the significance of contemporary teenagers kowtowing to their parents during the Spring Festival. He said that it is still necessary to selectively restore some traditional social etiquette that reflects the ethical relationship between family elders and children, and to promote filial piety requires specific forms.
In this regard, analysts said that adults in China, for example, often face this embarrassing scene when raising the national flag. They don't know where to put their hands, while Americans generally behave neatly and consistently, with their right hand on their left chest to show respect. To a large extent, this is the embarrassment caused by the lack of etiquette norms.
Dr. Wang, deputy director of Peking University News Center, who has been engaged in youth theory research for a long time, believes that the core of filial piety is to highlight the concept of "gratitude", so that students can learn to be grateful and understand the value orientation behind kowtowing. There are many forms to express love, and every old man feels warmth in different forms, so it is impossible to ask for formal unity.
What is the weight of "equality"
"kowtowing to parents, some people say this is formal inequality, and I think the most terrible thing is personality inequality," said Xiao Yuan of the Shan Ying Institution in Peking University. "I think the most important thing about filial piety is to respect each other's values, living habits and ways of doing things."
Xiao Yuan's mother still has a letter of more than 3,000 words from her daughter. Xiao Yuan applied to join the research team of Xinjiang Shan Ying Society last year. My daughter is going to explore where there are snow-capped mountains. Parents are naturally worried about their daughter's safety and don't agree at first.
"Dear mom, I understand that you don't support me because you love me, and I have been thinking, am I too selfish to care about your feelings? But mom, it has always been my dream to see the pure snow-capped mountains. I believe my daughter, I will be responsible for myself for you ... "It was this long letter from home that finally touched her parents. In the summer vacation of 2006, Xiao Yuan and his teammates embarked on the road to Xinjiang. She said that the most important thing to be filial to parents is to pay attention to equal emotional communication, which is exactly what parents want.
However, on the scale of filial piety, what is the weight of "equality"?
"Being able to emphasize respect for parents' values and ways of doing things and pay attention to emotional communication with parents reflects the rationality and progress of modern students in filial piety." Wang said to him. But at the same time, he thinks that equality is relative. Personality, parents and children should be equal, but this does not mean that the responsibilities of both parties are completely equal.
Cheng Jia, a student of Beijing Forestry University, agrees with "equality of personality": "Filial piety at the expense of giving up rights and dwarfing personality is a distorted consciousness under the hierarchical relationship in feudal times, which is really undesirable."
"Although modern family education emphasizes' democracy', if this kind of democratic parents and children are no big or small at any time and in any matter, or even have a state of dislocation and inversion of roles, they will slide to the extreme of' laissez-faire'." Xia Xueluan expressed concern about this "absolute equality". In his view, it is the core of the "five permanent members" ethical relationship and the essence of "filial piety", which cannot be defined as a completely equal interactive relationship between the younger generation and the older generation.
How can I be filial today?
According to a newspaper report, as the Spring Festival approaches, a notice of "renting a girlfriend to go home to see her parents for the New Year" suddenly appears on the advertisement column of a well-known university. The reason turned out to be "my parents are old, and they made a' military order' last Spring Festival, demanding to bring their girlfriends home for reunion". In order to show filial piety, renting a girlfriend to go home for the New Year, this seemingly absurd story can not but cause us to think: what is filial piety? How can I be filial today?
According to the Analects of Confucius, some experts have roughly summarized the contents of China's traditional filial piety into four aspects: First, filial piety should not be neglected (filial piety, filial piety, filial piety); Second, there is no violation of parents (filial piety); The third is filial piety to parents (mourning); Fourth, filial piety at home, loyalty in the country.
Wang believes that inheriting traditional filial piety should avoid two tendencies. First, filial piety is backward and ignorant, holding a completely negative attitude; One is to ignore the era of filial piety and accept it indiscriminately.
"Obey your parents, stay with your parents all your life, inherit your father's career, listen to your parents in your career and even in your marriage, and so on. None of these can be said to be true filial piety. " Xiao Wu believes that these unreasonable elements in traditional filial piety should be resolutely abandoned.
Xia Xueluan believes that modern students should start from the small things around them and practice filial piety. Under the current situation, "filial piety" contains obedience, respect and understanding to parents and elders. Filial piety is the first realm of "filial piety", which can be said to be filial piety, and it is filial piety not to make parents angry; Respect is reflected in the daily attitude and behavior towards parents and elders, such as letting elders move chopsticks first when eating, greeting parents when going out, telling where to go and when to go home, and so on. Understanding more refers to the understanding of "poor inheritance". Even if your parents are wrong and you are wronged a little, don't talk back on the spot. You should accept it for the time being and explain it later.
"In view of the current decline of filial piety, we need to selectively inherit filial piety and then surpass it. Inheriting' filial piety' in combination with the spirit of the times is itself a transcendence of' filial piety'. " Xia Xueluan said.
Xia Xueluan pointed out in particular that "gratitude and filial piety", as the traditional morality of the Chinese nation, and the socialist concept of honor and disgrace advocated by the current society are inherited in content and complementary in function. How can a person who doesn't know how to be grateful and filial to his parents expect him to be loyal to the motherland and serve the people? Therefore, the current filial piety education is also of positive significance for in-depth study of the socialist concept of honor and disgrace.
Recently, major media reported the story of Xie, a coal miner in Henan Province, who took care of his deceased wife and relatives for more than 30 years. Keep a promise and keep a promise, and practice for more than 30 years. Today, many people worry that modern society lacks traditional filial piety. Compared with Xie, we should not all ask: What kind of filial piety does the new era need? Do we need to make up lessons for filial piety?
I hope it helps you!