? I quite agree with what a friend said: "People in their thirties should be the happiest stage in their lives, because at this time their parents are alive, their wives and children are around, and their career ideas are relatively stable." I feel this kind of happiness strongly, and I also feel the pressure from development, tired and happy.
? I often think of my old friends, especially my grandmother, my most lovely grandmother, and a kind old man when I pass by my ancestral graves when I go back to my hometown, during festivals and when I am alone. It coincides with the Mid-Autumn Festival, and my hometown has the custom of "receiving old customers". I burn paper bags (commonly known as "burning bags") to pay homage to my deceased relatives. The more paper bags are burned, the more thoroughly they are burned, and the more prosperous the family will be. There are some banknotes in the paper bag, and the front is taboo. According to the generation, it starts with "ancient sages/ancestors/great-grandfathers, Kao/Cong" (Kao is male and Cong is female). After wrapping it, you must write a big "seal" on the back, which means that only I can receive it, and no other "ghosts" can make plans. Now living in a small town, "burning buns" is neither environmentally friendly nor safe, so I have to express my thoughts and gratitude to my old friends, especially my grandmother, by writing articles.
? I haven't met my grandparents. They died when my parents were very young. When grandpa died, I was only 2 years old. I can't remember. Only my grandmother watched me born and grew up with me, and then watched me work, get married and have children. Grandma and I have the deepest feelings.
? The day my grandmother left was the eleventh day of the first month of 20 14, and she was 86 years old. I went to work that day and couldn't see grandma off for the last trip. When I got home that night, I saw my grandmother lying peacefully, asleep as usual. I suddenly burst into tears, and I could only see her old man in my dream.
? My grandmother's life is full of misfortune. She lost her father in childhood, her husband in middle age and her son in old age. She experienced War of Resistance against Japanese Aggression, the war of liberation, three years of natural disasters and "ten years of turmoil", and also experienced reform and opening up, witnessing the growing prosperity of the motherland.
? Grandma hid under a lotus leaf for several hours when she was a child, and escaped the raids of several Japanese devils. In the early 1960s, everything was thriving and the means of subsistence were extremely scarce. In rural areas, the production team is the main unit of collective labor and eating from the same pot. That year, my grandfather couldn't go out to work (working in other places) for more than 10 days because of a bad cold. He went to the canteen to eat, was scolded by the team leader for "eating idle rice" and was thrown out of his job. The aggrieved grandfather hanged himself in a rage, leaving a hardworking wife and five children (4 girls, 1 child, mother ranked third, and uncle was permanently deaf due to illness when he was 3 years old). There is no formal labor force at home, and grandma in her early 30 s has no time to wipe her tears. She bravely shouldered the burden of life, mainly relying on her own cooking in the team canteen to earn work points to support her family.
? Forced by life, my grandmother remarried with her children, and after remarriage, she gave birth to 1 daughter and two sons. Through her hardworking hands, her life is getting better and better, and her children are getting married one after another. Grandma is old, but the hardships of life are not over. At the end of last century, this grandmother who was over 70 years old suffered two consecutive major blows of losing her son. It should be the most painful thing in the world for a white-haired person to send a black-haired person. So many blows and hardships didn't crush grandma, but she still lived tenaciously. In 2000, I took a job in my hometown and spent more time with my grandmother. I often bring her some food, chat with her and help her cut her nails. When my grandmother was 80 years old, her memory was still in the past. Later, after I went to work in Changde, she still only remembered my original work unit.
? It's only one family away from my grandmother's house (with my uncle's house in the middle), 8 seconds away. Go to grandma's house to eat and drink, and the weather is right and the people are right. Sometimes, my grandmother will slip me some pocket money quietly. In the 1980s, when my family was poor and my life was better, I could eat pork once a week. There used to be many stories about poverty that I didn't want to recall, but now it's still a bit bitter to recall. At that time, grandma gave our family a lot of support, mainly in food. I remember grandma had a sour water tank, from which I could find delicious food at any time. The jar is an old jar that grandma has used for over 10 years, and its taste is much stronger than that of kimchi now. Grandma washed and dried fruits, cucumbers, kidney beans, beans and onions. Put them in the jar. After more than a night of running-in, these dishes have quietly become cooking artifacts. Therefore, when the food at home can't be swallowed, I will fly to grandma's cupboard, especially the acid jar, with a rice bowl in my hand. This kind of memory is particularly profound and beautiful.
? At that time, killing pigs was an important criterion to judge whether a rural family was rich or not. Grandma feeds two pigs every year, one sells money to subsidize the family, and the other keeps it for the New Year. Life is thriving. Our family also raises pigs every year, but most of the time it is sold by my father to pay off debts, and there are no pigs to kill. When I was a child, I was most looking forward to the Spring Festival. At that time, uncles, menstruation and aunts would come to grandma's house for parties. Adults can play cards and children can play games. Grandma will come up with her own good skills and cook all kinds of delicious food that is rarely eaten at ordinary times. There are usually two big tables.
? Grandma has been very charitable all her life. According to my mother, during the Great Leap Forward, there was a family named Zhu in the team, with little labor and a large population, and there was no food at home. Grandma often takes the opportunity of cooking to help her family quietly set aside some food to help them tide over the difficulties. They also know how to be grateful. Until many years later, they will still bring some small gifts to see grandma from time to time. Grandma grows vegetables very well and often gives them to some poor families in the village for free. If relatives and neighbors have any difficulties in finding her, she will be enthusiastic to help.
? Grandma is very patient, and she is the most thorough in sending her little granddaughter (my uncle's daughter) to school In the early 1990s, my uncle and aunt worked in Guangzhou all the year round, my grandmother lived in her hometown with her granddaughter, and my brother-in-law did business in her hometown county. He often goes home to take care of them. Cousin is going to school, which is 10 thousand unwilling. After my grandmother sent my cousin to school, she just got home with her front foot and cried when her back foot came back. It's really ridiculous. Grandma sent her to school again, so she was given 65,438+00 days several times a day, and my cousin completely accepted the fact of studying.
? Grandma is small, but her strength is not small. /kloc-before 0/0 years old, my grandmother teased me. She can hold my hands with one hand and make me unable to move. Grandma's eyes are sharp, and her eyesight gradually declines after 80 years old. I remember that after working for many years, she still compared her eyesight with mine and bullied me for myopia.
? Grandma can't take care of herself in the last few years of her life. Thanks to her parents, especially her two aunts and uncles for their careful care, being kind to the elderly is actually being kind to yourself. We must be filial in time. Now, grandma is separated from us by yin and yang, but I believe that grandma's soul must still be there. She must look at us lovingly in heaven and see that we can all live as strong, brave, hardworking and kind as her. Grandma should be happy, too
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? Li Wei was born on July 30th, 20 19.