When you are better than others, you must stop.
Crab effect, when you put a crab in the basket, it will soon climb out. If there are some crabs in the basket, don't worry. Because as soon as you climb up, the crab at the bottom will pull it down.
So is human nature. When you are unhappy, many people will be caring and attentive to you and encourage you constantly. But once you find that you have climbed up, some people are psychologically unbalanced and want to pull you to the same level as them. So when you are better than others, don't show off. Trees attract the wind. If you really can't hide your own light, you must learn to sell it badly. For example, if you buy a BMW, you must say, "I regret it, and the car loan alone will make you breathless." I knew I wouldn't buy it. "
There is really no need to sharpen your head to meet more people.
Everyone except your best friend is based on the exchange of interests. You can't give benefits to others. Why do people want you to be Bai Piao? Therefore, if you want to know more kings, the best way is to improve your status.
When someone asks you for help, don't clap your chest to guarantee.
Learn to manage expectations, even if it is relatively simple, but also express the meaning of "I can only do my best". You give people too high expectations at first, raise them to 90 points, and even if you reach 70 points, they will still be dissatisfied with you. On the contrary, if his expectation is 60 and you reach 70, it will greatly exceed his expectation and he will be extremely grateful to you.
5. Don't label people casually.
A person will behave differently in different environments. For example, in a strange environment, someone will shrink in an obscure corner and say nothing, but in the circle of acquaintances, he jumps higher than anyone else.
But you can't see him huddled in the corner, just because he is an inferiority complex, sensitive and fragile person. Don't define other people's lives by what you see in a moment. To put it bluntly, you told the blind to touch the elephant.
6. Don't disclose your goals casually.
Because you make your goal public, your brain will feel a sense of accomplishment ahead of time, creating the illusion that your goal has been achieved, thus weakening your motivation. What I advocate more is to work hard silently and then give everyone a surprise.
7. Those who post "Are you there" on WeChat, and then there is no follow-up, unless they are acquaintances, I will ignore them. There is a simple reason. Everyone's time is precious. I don't want to ask you what you want.
8. When you are at the crossroads of life and don't know what to do, go to school.
In retrospect, at the low point of my anxious and confused life, I began to read a lot, and I dabbled in psychology, workplace and sociology. Later, the more I read, the more I knew what books I should read, and the direction of my life gradually became clear, so I began to change my career, and my cognitive level, way of thinking and income were greatly improved.
Believe me, when you don't know what to do, just read.
9. When making suggestions, don't "deny" others at the beginning.
For example, "Your ppt sucks, so it won't work." Even if you tell the truth, the other party may not accept it, and even cause ta's rebellious mentality to be unfavorable to you.
Try to make sure before making your suggestion. "Your ppt is very beautiful, and it will be more perfect with a few changes."
10. The choice is really far greater than the effort.
Historical trends, social development, and industry trends cannot be countered by individual efforts at all. From the beginning, you should make a good choice, choose a good major, a good industry, a good platform, and even your marriage. Don't worry, think slowly, many choices have no regret medicine.
1 1. Of course, stop immediately.
Some people are strange. You brought ta several meals, and suddenly one day you didn't bring them, so I yelled at you. Seeing that you often clean the dormitory, I will yell at you; You often sign ta, and one day you stop signing ta, you scold you. When your kindness is taken for granted, please stop giving at once. Your kindness should be given to those who know how to be grateful.
12. Don't care too much about other people's circle of friends.
If a person always takes thousands of screenshots of income in a circle of friends, or frequents high-end places, he drives a luxury car to punch in everywhere.
Believe me, what you see is probably the person framed by the other party, and the person behind the screen may be scratching his feet to make friends. What you can see is just what others want you to see.
Xiaobai, who didn't know the truth, was cut with leeks, and a simple-minded girl was cheated by money and sex. If you don't believe me, look at the news that broke out in Tik Tok, Weibo, which proves this point.
13. If you hate someone, there is no need to let everyone know.
I remember a classmate in high school who looked disgusted every time he saw the classmate in front talk back. I was uncomfortable when I heard his voice. So he told his deskmate that he hated a classmate. After a class, the students sitting in front of him looked at him coldly and secretly embarrassed him by various means.
If you hate someone, it's good to know it yourself. There's really no need to tell anyone unless that person is reliable.
14. Most troubles in life are caused by lack of money.
After graduating from college, all kinds of troubles come to you many times, and you will be anxious and confused, afraid to quit your job and try a new direction, because all these require a lot of money. There is only one disease in this world, poor disease.
So when you are young, use your biggest time and capital to make money in a down-to-earth way.
15. When you want to be forced, imagine yourself as someone else. From someone else's point of view, you see yourself talking and pretending to be fat, and soon you lose your mind.
16. Less sociable, more lonely.
When the starting point of life is still very low, most gregarious is meaningless. Because your circle largely determines what kind of person you are.
Save this time, be alone silently, and constantly improve your position, and you will see a bigger world.
17. The essence between people is mutual benefit.
An enterprise that is critical and unwilling to benefit its employees will never achieve much; A person who is secretive and worried that others will get too many benefits over himself will always be short-sighted Only by mutual benefit and sharing with others will life roll bigger and bigger like a snowball.
18. Unless someone asks, ta is generally not given advice.
The last thing you should do is to tell others what to do in the name of what I do for you. Everyone wants to live according to their own wishes, and they don't want others to break in.
19. Learn to buy time.
Don't waste time and energy on things that money can solve. This is a very important way of thinking. Many things in this world can be converted into time.
Your salary is earned by working hours, your ability is honed by time, and the boss makes money by buying your time to earn the difference.
Within your financial ability, if you buy time with money, you will get more and more benefits in your life. For example, I would rather rent an expensive house than be closer to the company; Online shopping is not greedy and cheap, giving priority to high-quality goods.
20. Always keep a sense of urgency.
Core competitiveness is the basis for a person to stand on the society. If you graduate for a few years, and even be competent for the work of fresh graduates, you should be on your guard. This means that you are easily replaced. If you leave today, someone will replace you the next day, so it is difficult for you to increase your income.
When you are young, you must master a skill so that it is not so easy for others to replace you, so that you can have enough chips to talk with your boss about salary.
First of all, you should be clear about what value you want to add, and list it as follows:
1. Appearance added value: 1. First, you should observe whether your body is too fat. If so, you should find out what caused it.
2. After finding out the cause of your obesity, you can find relevant fitness videos online and practice according to the movements inside; Or buy a TV box. Nowadays, with the development of science and technology, there are new somatosensory exercises. You can also exercise when you are alone. Go to the gym to get a card and ask someone to teach you fitness;
3, food needs to be moderate, so that there will be a healthier body and skin.
4, clothes should be neat, clothes should not be dirty here, dirty there; Don't put down your trouser legs when you are caught in socks; Speaking of it, the skirt is still full of symmetrical beauty.
Second, knowledge appreciation 1, read more, reading makes people wise, the book has its own golden house, the book has its own Yan Ruyu, so it is necessary to read more.
2. It is best to diversify the types of books, such as history, geography and tourism. You can choose the type of reading you like.
3. Think more. We all have two eyes. Life is actually changing every day, and things are different. The scenery, books, news and chat you see can all be used for thinking. Don't let yourself become insensitive. Or it seems to see the reality, but it can't be seen in the eyes.
4. Confucius said, "A threesome must have a teacher." It can be seen that you should put down your posture and learn from the strengths of others, not your condescending attitude.
Third, the value added in the family 1. When communicating with parents, you should learn to undertake some tasks. For example, when your mother cooks, you should at least wash the dishes instead of leaving.
2. Don't take your emotions home, you can talk about them, instead of seeing anything unpleasant. Kick the cat: the boss gets angry and scolds the employees when he sees them. He goes home and scolds his family, who scolds his children. Finally, the child had nowhere to vent and took it out on the cat. So learn to control your emotions.
As a silent listener, you should at least listen to your family, instead of interrupting them directly before they finish.
4. Also communicate with your family and take the initiative to raise the topic.
Fourth, the value-added in the work 1, in the work, we must adhere to the attitude of working today.
2. It's your turn to finish the work consciously and with an attitude of not causing trouble to others.
Learn more skills related to this job.
It is best to learn one more skill to prepare for future career promotion. Only if your skills keep up, your chances will be greater than others.
5. Between colleagues, do more and complain less.
Self-appreciation means that in the process of learning, we should constantly enrich and improve ourselves so as to gain greater competitiveness.
We should learn the ability of lifelong learning and learn all attitudes, instead of gossiping about others.
Do you have any different opinions on this issue?
1. aim at the direction. At the age of 23, he just graduated from college, still confused about society and the future, and even full of illusions about the future. But from this moment until you are 35 years old, it almost determines the direction and height of your life. Before you know what you should do or what you are suitable for, you can give yourself a period of trial and error. For example, if you look for several interested companies, then spend a little time interviewing them one by one to see what your level and achievements are. Then, you enter a company, do things in a down-to-earth manner, and study interpersonal relationships, industry knowledge and basic skills well. After about 1 year, you basically have the outline of what you want.
2. Improve your skills. When aiming at the direction, you should give yourself some motivation or pressure and ask yourself to keep learning and working hard on a certain skill. No matter what industry you are in, you must be in the primary stage now. Then, you should list the levels that this industry can reach one by one, and tell yourself that you can pass an exam in a few years, reach the intermediate level in a few years, or reach the advanced level in one step. Rome was not built in a day, nor can it be completed in a day or two to improve one's skills. You need to give yourself even a long-term plan or scheme, and then set phased goals.
3. Facilitate contact. In your life value-added plan, you should also include the part of contacts. You have to understand that you actually need the assistance and help of others at every step of your life journey. 23-35 years old is an important period for you to accumulate contacts. Although you may have some good classmates when you were a student, over time, there are only a few students who can maintain good relations. What really helps you is actually your colleagues or customers accumulated in your early working relationship. Of course, you can't accumulate contacts in order to accumulate contacts. In other words, you can't lose the bottom line and principles for interpersonal relationships.