How to cultivate children to have a grateful heart?

The current education situation is that many parents tend to attach importance to cultivating their children's knowledge, specialties and so on. However, the cultivation of children's social development is neglected, and the important old saying "adult first, talent later" is forgotten. In kindergarten children, we can often see selfish, narrow-minded, overbearing, unreasonable, or without love and care for others. Therefore, kindergartens and families play an important role in children's "love education". How should Qi Xin work together to cultivate children's "grateful heart"? Make them caring, helpful and talented people in the future? This paper expounds how to effectively cultivate children's "gratitude", how to achieve the most effective communication at home, how to successfully integrate into their own roles, and how to successfully complete their role tasks. More importantly, in these three interlocking links, how will homes cooperate with each other's work to achieve the ultimate educational goal? Key words: home * * * architecture, gratitude, personality, inspiration, feedback, communication, society is always developing by leaps and bounds, and the scientific and technological revolution and innovation again and again spur our new blood from generation to generation to constantly surpass ourselves and exert greater creativity. Early childhood is an important period for the formation of children's personality and quality. The key is how to guide and train adults correctly. How to sow the seeds of gratitude for children? You can't rely on forced indoctrination, let alone unprincipled and irrational doting. It is gradually formed through natural imitation and subtle infiltration, just like the spring rain "sneaking into the night with the wind, moistening things silently" is a development process from the outside to the inside, from quantitative change to qualitative change. First, build a home * * *-Sowing a grateful heart Family is the first stop for children's life growth, and parents are their first teachers. Therefore, to cultivate children's gratitude, families and schools must work closely together to form a joint force in order to receive the best results. Therefore, effective communication and interaction between families is the key to cultivate children's gratitude and success. (A) How can teachers help guide parents to pay attention to the cultivation of gratitude awareness? While educating children, we can correct the mistake that parents ignore the importance of cultivating gratitude. Many parents have many incorrect ideas. I believe that gratitude will naturally come when children grow up. Some people think that children's gratitude only needs kindergarten education, while others think that intellectual development and knowledge and skills are the most important. In view of parents' wrong cognition, we should first publicize the importance and necessity of gratitude training, as well as its objectives and contents, so that parents can have a preliminary understanding of the training work and help parents analyze their children's neglect of efforts, willfulness, temper tantrums, thoughtlessness and lack of gratitude sharing, which will lead to the harm to society in their future personality development and urge parents to change some incorrect concepts. At the same time, it is necessary to introduce some methods to parents and cultivate a grateful heart. Help parents how to create a friendly and harmonious spiritual environment in the family, establish a correct behavior model, and strengthen their children's loving behavior. Let parents gradually master the appropriate educational methods, so as to more effectively cooperate with the smooth progress of kindergarten education. (2) Actively cooperate with teacher education and communicate with teachers in time. Family is the cell of society, and kindergarten partners are the cradle of children's healthy growth. The subtle influence of family education is unmatched by society and kindergartens. Therefore, parents should actively cooperate with kindergarten education in order to achieve immeasurable results. First of all, parents need to take the initiative to communicate with teachers. In family life, establish a friendly and harmonious living environment for children. Careful observation of children's daily behavior, active reflection with kindergarten teachers, active cooperation with kindergartens, helping children to establish "love" home interaction activities, and more importantly, timely adoption of "Family Handbook" and teachers' feedback on children's performance have achieved the best educational effect. Second, the construction of home-the cultivation of gratitude (1) Teachers shoulder the heavy responsibility of children's "gratitude" enlightenment. The beginning of life is good. Everyone has love at first, and now education needs the quality of contemporary teachers. It is an unshirkable responsibility for children to accept the love of others in life and learn to be grateful for the love of others. Only in the process of growing up, the living environment and education are different, and people's conduct has also changed. Kindergarten education is an important part of basic education and lays a good foundation for children's lifelong development. This foundation includes morality, experience, knowledge and intelligence, and morality is the core. It can be seen that the "random education" of teachers in children's lives is very important. Therefore, contemporary preschool teachers should have the comprehensive quality of being good at capturing educational fragments in children's lives and randomly educating children with love. Love is the greatest emotion of human beings and the core of all noble qualities and good morals. Children are in the period of physical and psychological development, and their feelings for love are the most natural and abundant. (2) Family is an important key to children's enlightenment. After all, parents are children's first teachers. In the journey of life, parents are the first guides and signposts for children. The influence of parents on children's education is very important. Nowadays, most children are only children, and they have been in the position of holding the moon for a long time. Coupled with the educational tendency of parents to value wisdom over morality, most children form a self-centered psychological tendency, only knowing how to take, not knowing how to be grateful, not knowing how to pay, and everyone is for me. One of the biggest weaknesses is blindly asking for trouble and not caring about others; Will not share with peers, conflicts occur from time to time, which will seriously affect the development of young children. Therefore, in the process of cultivating children, we ask parents to pay attention to the cultivation of "being loved and giving", and "teaching by example is better than teaching by words" to set a good example for children. Let children feel warm and happy when they are loved, learn to love and help others, form a healthy personality, and feel grateful imperceptibly. Third, the construction of the home-the act of gratitude (1) Inspire children to "give love" through planned education. Kindergarten is a big group of children's lives, and environmental influence and education are extremely important to them. As the main position of enlightenment education, when we educate our children, we must consider what kind of educational content we choose to have a good influence on them. In the process of preschool education, we should follow the principle of gradual education, choose the most suitable education content of love, and cultivate it in a planned, step-by-step and purposeful way. (1) Inspiration from daily life: In daily life, children are given behavioral education of "giving love" purposefully and in a planned way, and behavioral education of "how to give love" runs through children's lives and various activities, so that children can learn to be grateful and give love while enjoying love, and learn to care for and help others; Understand and respect others, care for animals and plants and your own things. For example, take the initiative to say hello to children who come to kindergarten in the morning, learn to say hello to children, and encourage children to help each other arrange clothes after taking a nap; When washing your hands, guide your children to be humble to each other, consciously queue up, say thank you when others help you, and care about helping others when they fall. Start with the little things around the children. (2) Textbook enlightenment: guide children to appreciate and understand these literary works through stories, nursery rhymes and songs, and let them experience how to care about others, how to interact with their families and how to share with others, thus cultivating children's good feelings. For example, when telling the story of the grateful eagle by looking at pictures, on the basis of letting children look at the wall chart and understand the content of the story, guide children how to have a grateful heart, thus inspiring children to imagine themselves: If you were the eagle in the story, what would you do? What if you are a hunter? Through this activity, children can deeply understand that love is mutual, and only by paying for others can they get happiness. With the continuous improvement of children's ability to understand things, children's understanding of things has also reached a preliminary level of image generalization. And "gratitude" is specifically summarized as "care, help and humility", so that children can move from the specific image understanding of things to practical actions. For example, children know "apples" through cards, and if there are apples to eat, they can be extended to share with good friends; "Chicken" can be extended to take care of small animals; "Mom" can be extended to say a few whispers to her mother and say hello to her, which is called "caring"; After the child initially understands the words, he will immediately organize the child to extend the action. Through the guidance of teaching materials, let children learn to help others and do what they can. Tell a story, a poem and a song, and then test them with the things around them to help them distinguish right from wrong and distinguish between true and false. Over time, children will imitate the language in the story. Teachers should affirm and encourage in time, so that children can gradually understand that doing so will bring happiness to people and themselves. (3) Activity stimulation: Children's gratitude and sympathy are partly out of nature, but more need the support of adults. Therefore, we pay more attention to creating a developing environment for children, so that children can feel love-know how to love-and learn to love. Various game activities can be carried out, so that children can play different roles in the game and experience and express different emotions, for example, doctors in hospitals take care of patients and give seats to aunts holding children on buses. , and can carry out performance games such as "radish is back" and "chicken duckling", so that children can consider problems from the perspective of others, arouse similar emotional experiences, and learn how to express their love. The social emotions of large-class children are gradually enriched and profound. At this time, we can further expand the theme content and enrich the theme connotation, such as choosing more far-reaching theme activities such as "I love my hometown" and "I love my motherland". Such as: making gifts on specific festivals; Starting with "rich natural resources" and "local customs", let children appreciate specific natural scenery, feel folk culture, understand its rich resources, give them convenience in life, and then generate feelings of love. You can also increase the feeding angle of kindergartens, and often organize children to feed rabbits and chickens collectively. In the process of caring for rabbits and chickens, children know how to care for small animals, and they can take the initiative to bring some foods that small animals like to eat from home to feed them. Gradually, children can transfer their love for animals to their love for people and things around them, and caring for their peers has also formed their habits. (2) Guide children to "imitate love" through daily life. Parents, grandparents and neighbors are closely related and respect and care for each other. What children are exposed to is such a harmonious atmosphere. As they grow older, they will also develop the behavior of respecting the old and caring for the young, caring for others and helping others. Accepting love and being good at giving love are very beneficial to cultivating children's perfect personality. At home, parents should pay attention to cultivating their children's awareness of "having others in their hearts and being equal to others". Parents should never spare no effort to provide their children with a "comfortable nest" divorced from real life, so that when they grow up, children often lack enthusiasm for work and sense of responsibility for society, are indifferent to people and things, and are even less likely to have feelings and dedication to their hometown and motherland. One of the important reasons why children don't know how to be grateful is that they are too self-centered, which often comes from parents' overindulgence and doting on their children. Everything depends on him, everything is given to him, and everyone in the family revolves around him. Such a child doesn't know how to care about others. Therefore, we should consciously cultivate the quality that children learn to pay, and guide them patiently and persistently in daily life, such as: when eating breakfast, take the initiative to let children help themselves do something within their power, such as putting chopsticks and spoons; Take the initiative to say goodbye to relatives who stay at home when attending kindergarten; Go to kindergarten to greet teachers and children; Guide children to share food and fun with others. So that children can gradually experience the existence of others besides themselves, and learn the happiness they feel when giving love to others through their strong imitation behavior ability. Suhomlinski, a famous educator in the former Soviet Union, said, "Good feelings are fertile ground for good behavior". All good behavior comes from good mood. Only with "compassionate love" can we be kind and helpful, and with "just love" can we distinguish between love and hate and go forward bravely; Only with "grateful love" can we repay kindness, respect the old and love the young, and only with "broad love" can we love the people and be selfless. Therefore, caring education for children is an eternal topic in kindergarten education and the basic project of children's quality education. The implementation of caring education has promoted the healthy development of children throughout their lives. A child's childlike innocence needs all kinds of care. As long as the seeds of love are sown in children's hearts, they will certainly receive fruitful results. Therefore, as parents and teachers who shoulder the heavy responsibility of early education, they should lose no time and exert a subtle influence. Qi Xin wants Qi Xin to work together and have a grateful heart for the children. References: 1. Liu Zhanlan's knowledge manual for preschool teachers. Beijing: Beijing Normal University Press. 2. Shen Deli's developmental psychology and education. Liaoning: Liaoning University Press. 3. Chen Jianmei preschool children's development and education evaluation manual. Beijing: Beijing Normal University Press.