Einstein said, "The best thing in the world is to have a few solemn friends with just minds and hearts."
There are many explanations about friendship. True friendship is the joy and happiness of meeting, knowing each other, knowing each other and liking each other in the vast sea of people. You can help when you are tired and review when you are far away; You can talk together when you are in pain and share it when you are happy; It can help you when you need help and give you confidence and courage when you are frustrated; Mention something about you when you are confused.
I always want to find the shadow of my parents, even if it is a small matter, even if it is a word.
Ever since I met my classmate Chunfang at last year's class reunion and learned that mom and dad were close friends of her parents, I've always wanted to take time to see her old mother. Through nearly a year of communication, I feel that Chunfang is as straightforward and outspoken as herself. As a new friend, it is necessary to visit her old mother. On the other hand, I want to listen to some things my parents don't know by visiting the elderly.
This idea has been lingering in my mind, but it has been shelved for one reason or another. When I woke up in the morning and opened my eyes, I picked up the phone and invited my classmate Mao to visit Chunfang's mother. Mao stood me up without thinking. I asked her to come to me by car and go to Chunfang's house with me.
The weather is cool and the scenery inside and outside the community is pleasant.
As soon as I entered the door, I met Chunfang who was settling the old man to go to the toilet. Chunfang, who was wearing an apron, had just used up the dew for the old man, and the old man squatted on the stool and had a hard time relieving himself.
Chunfang introduced the old man to us. We say hello to the old man and sit down after greeting. A fruit bowl and tea greeted Chunfang.
After a while, I watched Chunfang adjust the warm water, put on gloves and put soap on her hands to wipe her old mother's ass, then pushed the wheelchair over, put her mother in the wheelchair, pushed her to the bed, and put her on the bed.
There is no smell of an old man who has been ill for a long time in the room, but a faint fragrance floats on it. The bed is clean and tidy, and cool quilts and other things are neatly arranged in summer. The small fan on the windowsill is adjusted at a constant speed, blowing a soft and comfortable breeze. Everything is in order.
Knowing who my father was, the old man looked very excited. When I mentioned my mother, my father and the excited expression of the old man, I knew that the intimate contact between the two old people was far beyond my imagination. Indeed, as Chunfang said, their relationship was really extraordinary. As a daughter who lives with her parents day and night, I don't know about it, and I really feel ashamed.
Sitting next to the old man, looking at the old man, the old man looked at me happily The old man's mind is very clear. She said that living or not is a burden for children. Speaking of myself, I was moved to tears. She is sad that she can't live like a normal person, and feels guilty that she can't take care of herself and bring trouble to her children.
I took the old man's hand and was caught by his emotional contagion. I remembered my mother who had been ill for more than 29 years, and I couldn't help but burst into tears.
I wiped away tears for the old man, made her feel better, and comforted her, saying that if I live one more day, I can see the world one more day.
After the old man calmed down, he began to recall the past and said many things that his parents had never told us before, or he probably didn't take it to heart.
"On the first day of March, we held an ancient meeting, and your parents came to our Nanshe to watch the play."
"Oh, did you go to your Nanshe to see a play?"
"Yes, several times."
"Just when my parents go to your home in the city, I don't know that I have been to your hometown to see the play! And more than once ... "
"Your dad looked at so many steamed buns at home and asked who steamed them. I said I steamed it. "
"Your father loves to eat my family's vinegar, saying that my family's vinegar is delicious."
"My dad always likes to eat the wrong things, I know. I usually hate vinegar when I eat. "
"My family has been making vinegar for decades."
"Oh, you made your own vinegar?"
"Yes, vinegar made with wine."
To tell you the truth, it's the first time I've heard of making vinegar with wine. Father has high requirements on the taste of vinegar, and the vinegar that can be recognized by his father is definitely good vinegar. Old people can brew their own vinegar and get praise from their fathers. He is definitely a master of brewing vinegar, and I admire him secretly.
"Your father is very asthmatic and can't walk any further. Take a walk and have a rest. "
I was sad to hear that, as if I saw my father walking and stopping panting.
I heard from my classmates that there is a machine on the market now that can suck out pulmonary bullae. If we take good care of my father, if this instrument comes out earlier, maybe my father will not have difficulty breathing and will not leave us.
"Every time your mother comes to my house, I accompany her to the toilet. I wanted to help her unbutton her pants, but she said no, just one hand. "
"My mother is very strong and complains that we are busy at work all day. I have been ill for twenty-nine years. Besides intravenous drip in hospital, someone needs to take care of it. I have been taking care of myself. I slowly took off one hand and put it on slowly. "
"Look at me now, alas, it hurts!"
"I don't think so. You are lucky to be alive. "
As the old man talked, he began to feel sad again, and I began to comfort him again. Looking at the sad look of the old man, I remembered my parents, and then I shed tears.
The old man felt better and began to continue his narrative.
"Her dad and your dad together, mean * * * producer. Said to john young, lane is bad to the county will have no money ... "
"Oh, it's the relocation of the tobacco factory."
"It seems so. When they get together, they just talk about something. "
Chengcheng Tobacco Factory is a well-known enterprise in Shaanxi Province, and it is a large profit and tax collector in the county, accounting for 30% of the county's income. From the establishment of the factory to the scale of development so far, the leaders and workers of the factory have contributed a lot. That year, the city decided to relocate the cigarette factory, and the cadres and ordinary people in the county were unwilling to give up their feelings, so the retired cadres rushed to tell each other and called for insisting on leaving the cigarette factory for the benefit of the villagers in the county.
At that time, the new cigarette factory had recruited college graduates on a large scale, and many children from Xi and Weinan signed up. Finally, everyone saved the cigarette factory. This is what the old man said.
No matter what happens in the future, the cigarette factory is still on the land of Chengcheng County. In the near future, it may eventually move to other places. However, their parents' efforts to keep the tobacco factory is also a great event to be proud of and gratified, and it is also a great good thing for the people of Chengcheng County. Whether you call them local protectionism or they ignore the overall situation, they seek their own government in their own places, as the old man said, "They are all talking about the production party!"
"How old is your mother?"
"If my mother were here, she would be eighty-six this year!"
"How old is your father?"
"Today is my dad's birthday. If my father were here, he would be eighty-six years old today. "
"Remember that you have a vine at home?"
"Yes, it's a grape tree in Xinjiang."
"Yes, Xinjiang vines. Your father also brought seedlings from home to help plant them in our yard. "
"Do you have any grapes?"
"Of course."
……
We talked for a long time. While talking and laughing, the old man cried, and I also cried. After crying, I continued to talk, talk and laugh. I think the old man is a little thirsty. I asked her if she wanted to drink water. She saidno. I guess she was tired, so I told her to lie down and have a rest.
Originally, I didn't want to trouble Chunfang. I wanted to take a look at the old man, say hello to him and leave. So I didn't inform Chunfang in advance and asked Chunfang to send me the location map before leaving home. However, just after I chatted with the old man, Chunfang was already busy in the kitchen.
After all, it's a master, and soon the food will be served. I have an appetite at first sight, rice and porridge. In the face of mouth-watering food, there is no reason not to take pictures. I picked up my cell phone and took pictures!
Chunfang copied all kinds of dishes into a bowl for her mother and carried them to the old man's room with a tray. Spread special sheets, set the small dining table and tidy up the food. I followed closely and took a small video.
Chunfang took out the red wine and wanted to open it, but we politely refused. Looking at so many dishes, I'm still thinking, Chunfang cooks so many dishes. What do you think we are, useless? I didn't say it in my mouth Unexpectedly, Mao and I actually had dinner together and basically finished several dishes. What a good appetite. Young and old, maybe just like children, eating the delicious food next door!
After dinner, we began to be curious about everything.
Three people each said a lot of truth. Talk about the fundamentals of being a man, and sum up the ways of getting along with husband and wife, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, mother-in-law and friends.
I only believe in "home and everything"! Chunfang said well and did well. "The whole family is coaxed. Just make everyone happy. ",really hit the nail on the head!
Chunfang is another filial daughter I have ever seen after my best friend Xiaoling. Filial piety is not spoken in words, but proved by actions. Up and down, Chunfang set an example for the children with her actions. I believe that the power of example is infinite.
We're not finished yet, but our daughter has something to call back and must leave.
Pushing open the door and looking at the sleeping old man, we asked Chunfang to convey our farewell to the old man.
It's raining in Mao Mao, and the air is fresher. Chunfang insisted on sending us to the bus station, and we also took the opportunity to talk a few more words. I met a little fellow villager in the community, and Chunfang asked him to take pictures of us. Chunfang waved goodbye under the car, and Mao and I waved in the car. Chunfang's figure is getting farther and farther away. ......
At home, I sent a message to Chunfang:
I am home. I'm glad to see you today. You are good at housekeeping and worth learning. Nice to meet your mother. I know something my parents never said. Maybe they didn't take it to heart. Thank your mother for bringing me information about my parents on this special day of my father's birthday. Thank you for your hospitality. [Rose] [Coffee] [Hug]
May 13 of the lunar calendar is the 86th anniversary of my father's birth. A few days ago, I told my children that I wanted to go back to my hometown and burn a birthday paper for my father. After all, I couldn't do it. Let's take this article as a gift for my father's birthday and Father's Day!
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