In the first sentence, I want to tell you that you, like everyone else, can't choose your origin, including your parents. So don't complain, accept everything you have, and then consider how to live better.
I can't promise many things, such as giving you a complete family, giving you the best education, and I can't even promise not to kick you out of the house when you make me angry. Dear baby, the only thing I can guarantee is that I will love you forever.
But son, don't put undue pressure on me with this kind of love. I want you to understand that you are you and I am me. As an equally independent individual, you belong to you from the moment you are born, not to your parents. An umbilical cord connects the crystallization of life and nature, not the relationship of attachment and possession. As a mother, I create conditions and provide support for you, but everything in the future depends on you.
Son, I won't allow you to blame me. No matter what choice I make, I will try my best to be responsible for you in my way, not yours. I repeat, you have no right to choose your parents. I've heard that in traditional customs, children from single-parent families will receive more unusual looks or inappropriate sympathy. Sorry, kid, I don't buy that. I hope you don't mind. If you must be extreme or autistic or neurotic, that's not my problem. Like Qian Qian's ten thousand lives, you fly to the earth like dandelion seeds, some fall in the soil, and some fall in the cracks of stones. That is the law of nature, and there is no exception.
well, I'll tell you again, the mystery lies in how you choose to think about life.
I am a very special mother, which is your blessing or misfortune. Neither outcome depends on me, but on yourself. Oh, my child, it is wise to respect and accept your mother and achieve yourself with her support.
on many issues, my views are different from others. For example, I'm not sure whether I'll get married again, but you'd better be prepared. If I get married again, I must be looking for a suitable partner for myself, not for you? As your own? My father. ? As your own? In my opinion, it is a narrow and ridiculous request, not impossible, but it needs the accumulation of fate and life. My principle is, just respect and love, just like I won't force your will. Imitate the tone in the sketch and say: this is a very sensitive question. I can't say how well I can handle it, but I will try my best, and everyone may get hurt in the process. This will be a headache for me. If you help me, I will ask him for help.
son, you lived in the countryside in the early days of your life, not only because of my living conditions, but also because I don't mind the shortage of that environment. I have always had a subjective view that the hidden rules of the city can be learned soon, but the will rooted in the earth needs to be solidly close to the soil. This view may not be all right, but at least it has been proved by myself. In any case, you will be very happy, because you can navigate between two living conditions at an early age, find out the differences, and then form a sense of self.
You will find that there is no perfect life and environment in this world. In rural areas, you will see poverty, narrowness, clumsiness and unawakened stupidity, while cities are full of selfishness, affectation, inexplicable indifference and clumsy arrogance. There has never been a paradise, both at home and abroad. But if I can choose a spiritual habitat for you, then I pray that the creator will give you the understanding of literature, music, painting, architecture, poetry and other arts and give you the ability to have a deep dialogue with nature.
son, education is very subjective, so you can't expect me to train you in the way you like. I protect your nature to the greatest extent, but at the same time I believe that choice is important to a person's success. Especially when you change from a little girl to a young girl, or from a little boy to a teenager, I have to tie you up so as not to make you look crooked in this bizarre society, let alone become a pillar. So, what I'm going to tell you next may be unreasonable, but you must pay attention to it and carry it out. Don't challenge your mother, I will tell you firmly? I will never be afraid of you crying, starving or running away from home.
You don't have to love reading, but don't read stupid books. Some words are useless except making you stupid. I will force you to assign reading tasks, and it's no use threatening me with suicide. I don't expect you to write, but literature will bring you valuable qualities.
It's ok to flip through fast-food fashion magazines occasionally, but don't read them as bibles. Entertainment programs on TV are not allowed to be watched for more than 3 minutes. If I find that you have five holes in your ears and you talk like a host without nutrition, I will immediately take you to grandma's house to kneel and rub the washboard.
Of course, you can fall in love freely, even many times, but don't be unrequited, let alone narcissistic, and drive yourself to no way back, regard vanity as love and stupidity as chastity. I will never allow my children to be in love and have no self-esteem. Always believe in the fact that no matter how beautiful or excellent you are, there are always people of the opposite sex who are not interested in you. It doesn't matter if you meet a man you like, but if he really doesn't like you, don't force it, just turn around and go. Always believe that you deserve the best man, but always learn to motivate yourself to become better and better.
basically, I won't interfere with your choice of career, but you'd better engage in jobs that make you more valuable as you get older, such as lawyers and marketing. I don't object to engaging in art, but don't take the tragic and painful route. If you must struggle behind closed doors, please pack up and leave my house.
sooner or later, you will face the problems of love and sex. I am not a conservative defender, but you are not an inclusive rag. The separation of love and sex is not a technical problem, but we should still cherish our body, and not everyone is entitled to enjoy it. I tell you from the bitter experience of an old woman: after sleeping with a bad, ridiculous and stupid man, you have to spend 1 times of wisdom and courage to believe that you are not bad, ridiculous or stupid. I couldn't wait to say a spell to destroy each other's bodies to save my innocent memory.
whether you are a daughter or a son, you must concentrate after marriage. There will be more beautiful, richer and more attractive people everywhere in this world. Don't make yourself like a social butterfly or a conqueror. One-on-one relationship is not for moral tradition, but for enjoying more focused love and sex. Of course, concentration can't guarantee you smooth sailing, but at least don't lose on low-level mistakes.
Son, if you are really unhappy after marriage, I don't mind your divorce, but you'd better think it over. Don't be afraid of the unknown, don't be afraid of being too late. I tell you with the happy experience of an old woman that life is never too late. God will never open the door of despair to a willing heart.
You can criticize the chronic diseases of society boldly, but don't complain, and take action, even if it is insignificant. This world is not for you, nor for me, nor even for those who have the power of life and death, but it provides everyone with the opportunity to realize the value of life. Of course, I know that any great life will eventually return to dust, and life is just a void. But I don't want you to be like an old monk at a young age, with a sage-like temperament, or fantasize about going fishing in Walden Lake like Thoreau all day, and then advertise your brand image to the audience and say: I am low-key, I am indifferent, and I am heart-to-heart with Thoreau.
I will? Snow? Laughing out loud, my child! Only high-profile people are qualified to keep a low profile, and the magnificent sea can present calm beauty. And Thoreau is a thinker, but you are not. Pessoa is also a hermit, but the somebody else took out a book "I'm afraid to record". Son, you can be ambitious, but don't deceive yourself. When I was your age, I was determined to earn 1 million yuan, or more, because I firmly believed in wealth and power. I have interviewed many entrepreneurs, and they have changed my view on money and business. There is no shortage of people standing by pointing fingers in China. I hope you are an activist, and you'd better be like Bill? Gates is as rich as an enemy, creating more wealth and benign value for society.
My child, when we can sit together and discuss this problem, I am already old, with a pen in my hand, writing some words that will never be taken seriously. The ideal is the highland that I can't reach, and the fire is passed in your hands. I have many answers to tell you, but I hope you can find the questions yourself first. I am always waiting for you in the study, listening to your puzzles and problems. I don't know when I fell asleep. Your footsteps were light when I went out. Maybe you won't notice. I have been watching you gently behind my back.
Mom
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