Bitter gourd has become sweet.
I like a story about bitter gourd very much:
A group of believers are going on a pilgrimage.
Master took out a bitter gourd and said to his disciples, "Take this bitter gourd with you, remember to soak in every holy river you pass, take it to the temple where you worship, and put it on the holy table for worship."
Disciples made pilgrimages to many sacred river temples and followed Master's instructions.
When they came back, they gave bitter gourd to Master, who told them to cook dinner.
At dinner, master took a bite and said seriously, "How strange! After soaking so much holy water and entering so many temples, this bitter gourd has not become sweet. "
Hearing this, several disciples immediately became enlightened.
This is really a touching revelation. Bitter gourd is bitter in nature and will not change because of Shengshui Temple. Love is bitter, and the nature of life produced by love is also bitter, which even a yogi can't change, let alone an ordinary person! Those of us who have tasted the great pain of feelings and life can't tell others that lovelorn is a happy thing, because it is too bitter, and this degree will never change. But people who don't eat bitter gourd will never know that bitter gourd is bitter. As long as the average person is psychologically prepared to suffer hardships, cook this bitter gourd, and the first bite will be bitter, and the second bite and the third bite will not be so bitter!
So is our life and love. We are always ready to suffer hardships, and we don't expect bitter gourd to become sweet. It is wise to really know the taste of bitterness.
Watermelon is near the big side.
I called my mother and asked her to take her grandson to Taipei for the summer vacation.
My mother complained that the environment in Taipei made her dizzy, the weather was sultry and it was uncomfortable to go out. Then he said to me faintly, "Besides, I just asked my waist a few days ago, and your big brother just took me back for acupuncture!" " "
"Flash to the waist? Are you going to carry heavy things again? " I asked anxiously.
Probably listening to the anxiety in my words, my mother said, "Never mind, maybe the sick mother who flashed to her waist last time is still there!" " "
"What sick mother?" This is the first time I have heard this term. I asked, remembering that a year ago, my mother tried too hard to pull open the iron gate. Because the iron gate was stuck, she asked her waist, it would take months.
My mother is a typical traditional rural woman. She has developed the habit of being diligent and hands-on since she was a child. Until now, as long as she can do it, she never impersonates others. Even now, she washes clothes by hand every day, and we can't persuade her. Only when she reaches her waist will she rest.
"After a sick mother flashes to her waist, she often remembers a place that flashes, and she will remember it in her mind, and then it is easy to go to the same place, that is, the sick mother." My mother also told me that although the sick mother can't see, "seeing a shadow and having a baby" will produce tangible diseases, which will take a long time to be uprooted. When a sick mother is uprooted, it is time to "break her hands and bones and turn it upside down".
My mother is a very optimistic person. She said, "This time, I will take my sick mother out to treat her."
The sick mother mentioned in Taiwanese reminds me of another Taiwanese saying, "Watermelon depends on generosity". It is generally believed that this sentence means that a person is in favor of the powerful party. In fact, the original intention of this sentence is that the more people who are in good health eat watermelon, the weaker they get.
Therefore, in rural areas, if people who are physically weak like to eat watermelon, we will persuade them to "keep watermelon close to the big side" and "half-sip watermelon will prevent illness"; If we meet a healthy person who is worried that watermelon is too cold, we also advise him: "Watermelon is close to the big side. You are so brave. What's the matter of eating watermelon?"
The problem is not watermelon, but health. It is said that people who dare not eat watermelon in cold weather are putting the cart before the horse.
In our native language of Taiwan Province, we have long known that the heart is very powerful. Therefore, when we encounter a group situation, we are often taught to come back and look at our hearts, instead of resenting the unfavorable environment, such as "not knowing how to sail, the stream is too narrow" (people who can't sail usually don't reflect on their sailing skills, but complain that the stream is too narrow). The house is full of fat, but it doesn't stink. Ask yourself, don't you?
Moreover, we should always put down our pessimism and overcome the blind spot of our hearts. The phenomenon that the mouth is the environment corresponds to the phenomenon of the heart, for example:
"I was shocked." The more worried, the easier it is to meet. )
"I don't know how to shave my head, but I have a beard." A master who can't shave his head often teaches a bearded guest. )
"The shit is tight and my pants are tied." When you are in a hurry to defecate, your pants often have a knot. )
Although these languages are vulgar, they are full of vitality, similar to what Zen said: "The heart is pure, the earth is pure" and "the heart is disastrous".
There is a coefficient in psychology called "optimism coefficient" or "pessimism coefficient", which accounts for 20% of the actual phenomenon. In other words, if a person has an optimistic heart, his chances of encountering happy things will be 20% higher than usual; On the other hand, if a person is depressed, he is 20% more likely to encounter painful things than ordinary people. Isn't this the "sick mother"? Isn't it "watermelon facing the big face" If you want to live happily, you must first have a happy heart. Didn't my grandmother teach us that "sitting up straight will hurt"?
To be happy, first, don't be too persistent, always let go of your habits. Old dreamers often teach us "no fish, no shrimp" and "give consideration to both, touch clams and wash pants; Touch the clams if you have them, and wash your pants if you don't. " "There are no fish in this stream, so don't fish in it."
If a person can't let go, "one foot is inside and one foot is outside" (one foot is inside the threshold and the other foot is outside the threshold); Or "the handle is afraid of death, and the handle is afraid of flying" (you hold the bird too tightly for fear that it will die, but you let it go and fear that it will fly away), that day will be very sad, and you will "the porcelain-burning people will lack food and chairs for making mats" (the porcelain-burning people will sleep in chairs, and the straw mats will sleep in chairs).
People who can't let go are often "good people begging." Obviously, he is a very rich man, but he lives like a beggar, which reminds us of the poor man in Buddhist scriptures who didn't know there was a treasure in his clothes.
We must first have a happy heart, and then we should always be grateful and share our blessings with others.
"There is spring to eat, and there is no share to eat." If you share food with each other, there will be surplus. If you rob each other of food, you will not have enough to eat. )
"I will look forward to it in the future."
"Everyone earns, and the card is poor." If everyone makes money, he will not be poor. Don't try to make money by yourself. )
"If you eat a catty, you have to pay back four taels."
"Eat fruit and worship the tree head; Eat a rice hoe. "
In the course of life, it is normal to encounter unpleasant things, but don't let them become "sick mothers" in our lives, but should become "yeast" in our lives, increase our wisdom and nurture our sadness at all times.
Don't be afraid to eat watermelon, because happy people will make up everything they eat.
"Happiness is work, and troubles are also work." Why don't we come here happily this day? In the painful and erotic life, many people are looking for the secret recipe of happiness, but few people know that understanding is not far away, and a happy heart is the real source of happiness in life.