? From the time we leave school and enter society, every year, parents, relatives and friends will put different shackles on us. In the first few years, when parents, relatives and friends meet, they will say, "Find" Have you worked? In two years, I will ask how is work? Did you get a promotion or a salary increase? Becoming a boss? When I reach the marriageable age, I start to worry about you again. Whenever we meet, the first thing I say is, do you have a partner? Do you need to introduce someone... When you get married, after a year or two, you are still living in the world of husband and wife, and you will say: "When are you going to have children? Get one while you are young." Those who say these words People, their original intention may be sincerely good for you, but they did not expect that such an after-dinner gossip would invisibly put a lot of shackles on the person involved. Maybe the person involved was already very anxious about this matter, and they just comforted themselves to be normal and did not give themselves any trouble. Pressure, because there are some things that just don’t mean you can wait until you are satisfied with the results if you work hard. Most of the young people who work hard away from home are unwilling or afraid to go home during the Chinese New Year because they don’t know how to deal with questions raised by relatives and friends that they think are normal but that make the people involved feel confused.
I have a female friend. She has four sisters in her family. She is ranked third. Her elder sister and younger sister are both married and have children, but she is alone. She is still single at the age of thirty. Her mother has just passed away. At first, she cared about her and kept arranging blind dates for her. However, there were many blind dates, but none of them were successful. Instead, her mother complained that she was picky, thinking that her other sisters were all married, but she was the only one who remained unhurried. But my friend actually thinks, don’t force yourself to get married. Marriage is not for others to see. It is about finding someone who is really suitable for you and living a lifetime. This is the true interpretation of marriage.
? China's thousands of years of tradition is that people must start a family, start a business, and have children. That is the right track in life and the door to happiness. But how many people have reached the marriageable age and find the person they love to marry? Most of them look at the conditions first, then fall in love if they meet the requirements, and then get married and have children within a year or even sooner. After you get married and have children, you have to worry about your children's growth and education, and the problems they will encounter when they grow up, and then you slowly start to repeat the things you once worried about. In fact, it is a kind of compromise, because when I reach the marriageable age, my parents' urging and the eyes of my relatives and friends, I have subconsciously accepted this trend. However, in Europe and the United States, even if you don't get married, you won't look alien. No matter what age you are, if you feel that you are right, you can still have a passionate love.
We live in this society, do we live for ourselves or do we live for others? If you always care about what others think of you, then you are living for others. If you are that kind of Follow your own path and let others tell you, then you are living for yourself.
Life is short, don’t settle for it. Live it for yourself. Don’t look back at the end of your life and realize that you have never done anything you really want to do in your life. All are what society tends to do, what parents want, and what families need.
Living for yourself does not mean being selfish, but living the life you like at your best age, and living an irreplaceable life!